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Help dealing with mother in law???

pcarrillo27pcarrillo27 member
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Long story short, my mother in law is stressing me out BIG time. I am due at the end of September and ever since she found out i am pregnant she has said things that are rude, inconsiderate, disrespectful, and that basically make it seem like she thinks I am going to give birth to HER son. When it comes to her, my voice and opinion does not matter, she makes the rules. The worst of it all... is that I have to live with her for a few months, maybe a year, after baby is born... she is an immigrant from Cambodia and thinks she will be raising my kid based on the traditions they have over there... my husband doesn't even believe in that! He is americanized and so am I (mexican American!!) So way off!! She got mad, for example, when we told her she will not be allowed to take my baby to the temple so he can be blessed by the monks... and also when we said she can't speak cambodian to him. When is the right time to tell her to back off, and that we want our privacy? I am 30 weeks now and need to get this off my chest! Any advice on how to say it? I get mad easy so any tips wil help to keep my cool. I also can't be rude because we will be staying here... thank you all in advance!
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  • leela02leela02 member
    Since you'll have to live with her for a while maybe you can pick your battles & not reject all her traditions. The ones you mentioned sound pretty harmless & not unusual. Your child isn't going to have influential memories of being blessed by monks as an infant, and many Americans grow up knowing a 2nd language. There are even language-immersion preschools now.
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  • mkeipmkeip member
    I don't think you have to justify your parenting choices to us. If you don't want her culture and language to be influential to your son then so be it. Your choice. You just have to tell her. So much can be solved by just telling the person and then moving on regardless of their reaction. You're giving her too much power. She has none. Don't be mad just set the boundary and in force it. If she throws a fit just walk away and say too bad. Shell get over it. If not, she can move out. That simple. Don't over complicate it.
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  • oneblessedmessoneblessedmess member
    Just to clarify, are you living with her, or is she living with you guys?
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