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Doing the right thing?

sophiek1990sophiek1990 member
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i am a single mom of a week old boy and as wonderful as he is im questioning if i made the right choice in keeping him and not opting for adoption i am having a hard time adjusting.
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Re: Doing the right thing?

  • nursej519nursej519 member
    I am a FTM and also had/am having a hard time adjusting, despite being married and having a supportive husband. Unfortunately only you can know what the correct decision is. Good luck to you.
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  • bnabarretebnabarrete member
    Things will get easier I promise it takes time for every new mom to adjust
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  • NoSugarCoatingNoSugarCoating member
    bnabarrete said:
    Things will get easier I promise it takes time for every new mom to adjust
    That's not something you can promise. For some, it DOESN'T get better. It's not helpful to anyone to say things like that. 

    OP, do you have access to an EAP (employee assistance program) through your job? It might be helpful to talk with a therapist. 
    DS1: BFP 04/03/11 | EDD 12/02/11 | born 11/21/11 
    DS2: BFP 02/09/13 | EDD 10/26/13 | said goodbye 06/02/13
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  • KonaCoffeeBeanKonaCoffeeBean member
    I agree with talking to a therapist. No one on the Internet is equipped to evaulate your decision.
    Coffee Bean Born 6/13/15.
    2nd round exp 8/20/18.
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  • bnabarretebnabarrete member
    Im giving her support that things will get better in adjusting to being a new mom it takes time for some people and nothing's wrong with that . @NoSugarCoating everyone has different view points and that's mine
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  • mdaugherty8mdaugherty8 member
    This is just my opinion, but here it goes..
    If you think that you will be unable to give your baby the love and care that he needs and deserves, then adoption may be the way to go, because he deserves the best.
    However, a baby really needs his mother. A newborn babies sense of security and belonging is with his mother. Your smell, your voice, your touch, etc. There are also the issues of later in life if he knows he is adopted (who is my birth mom, why did she give me up, etc.).
    It really does get better. I would encourage you to keep your baby, unless you can't financially provide for him or think you may hurt him or something of that nature.
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