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Making the call

popcornpleasepopcornplease member
in March 2016 Moms
My first pregnancy ended in a loss (2013) and my second was long (43w total) and had a long labor (3 days) ending in a c section.
We conceived on cycle 2 of TTC, and we are thrilled.

But, I'm finding it difficult to actually make the phone call to find a doctor (we have moved since my last birth) and schedule an appointment.
I'm not sure if it's my fear of loss, mixed feelings about the process of pregnancy (my last was really tough), or if I just can't believe this is real. I'm only 4w2d, and some women wouldn't even know they were KU at this point anyway, plus, I likely won't get an appointment for another 4 weeks, so I don't feel like I need to rush to make the call today. Anyone else have this weird mix of emotions and struggle with making it "official" by calling your doc? Again, we were TTC and we are very excited, but knowing what I went through in the past is causing me to experience a lot more than just joy.
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Re: Making the call

  • skruhminskruhmin member
    Then give yourself a little more time before you make that call.  I made the decision to use a midwife for my first baby since he was after a miscarriage and with my miscarriage I was seeing a regular OB - it was almost like I needed the different experience to have healing from my m/c.  So maybe try a different experience?? And good grief I went 3 days over with my second and I was miserable - you poor thing! 
    DS1 - 9/21/11
    DS2 - 7/4/14
    DS3 - 2/21/16
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    Our family of 5 is complete!!  Love our boys!

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  • popcornpleasepopcornplease member
    Thanks @skruhmin :)
    Since we have moved it will be a different experience regardless. First birth was an attempted home birth but DS wouldn't drop so after 3 days I made the call to go in to the hospital. The OB on call was a pushy jerk and told me I was going to have a 13lb baby and treated me in a way that was clearly an attempt to make me feel foolish for our home birth attempt. That hospital didn't allow midwives to deliver, so my midwife left and this guy told me if I didn't have a c section my kid would likely be injured during birth because he would be so huge.
    Basically, we got bullied, and I was to tired to fight anymore. DS was delivered via c section - 9lbs 15oz. I reveled in knowing how wrong that doc was about his size.
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  • skruhminskruhmin member
    Yeah definitely call around to see if any hospitals are midwife friendly.  I hate it when places bully patients.  Are you going to attempt a VBAC or are doing a CSection?  I know the midwives I've had also do sections.
    DS1 - 9/21/11
    DS2 - 7/4/14
    DS3 - 2/21/16
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Our family of 5 is complete!!  Love our boys!

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  • oceanchildoceanchild member
    @{{hugs}} @popcornplease
    So sorry that OB treated you that way! I totally agree with skruhmin; give yourself as much time as you need. One of my best friends just had an HBAC after her first homebirth turned into a c/s, and my SIL has had 3HBACs. And I'm here to support whatever kind of birth you decide you want this time!

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  • popcornpleasepopcornplease member
    VBAC is my goal. It would have to be life or death to have another c section. It was hell for me, despite my fast recovery (off meds 2w pp, cleared for everything at 4w).
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  • lashachrislashachris member
    I was like that this time around and I think it was fear and disbelief. But I finally picked up the phone. Since it's not gonna go away but sitting around.
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