This pregnancy has been horrible rant

cicigto1 · July 2015

throwing up at least every other day (twice today) and I'm 19 weeks. I had an ER visits at week and they found a cervical polyp. I thought this would be the end of my miserable ride to mommy hood, but it's not. I have heart burn daily and I'm still throwing up. At 15 weeks I had to IV drops because I was so dehydrated. I have since maintained an abundance of fluids but the what is killing me is my lack of happiness to be pregnant. I have wanted this for so long and now I'm sicker than I have ever been in my life. I know people say "it will be worth it" but that is not comforting to me. My diet is apple sauce, bananas, rice and toast - the BRAT diet. I can't eat anything else or I puke. I had 5 good days in a row and I got bold and had Mexican food (my love). The next two days were horrible with stomach and heartburn pain.

Please tell me there is someone else who is just as miserable as me. It will at least make me feel a little normal.

ammnam14 · July 2015

I don't have any advice but just wanted to say I'll keep you in my prayers! The good news is you're almost half way there! Stay strong mama!

ChiccoBeanz · July 2015

I mean, I'm not miserable, but I have had (according to friends and family) a bumpy road so far. Everyone's pregnancy is different, but there is a possibility that these negative symptoms will slow down and maybe stop over time. But on the other hand some may also get worse. My mother told me these symptoms (I've had the same ones you've had except more vomit and no dehydration) are normal, and to rest. I know I can't tolerate tomato sauce really, it gives me heartburn to see a pizza commercial. Maybe as you venture out into the world of food, once you are better of course, try avoiding tomato sauce, spicy foods, and be careful with chocolate and sugars. Also, looking up healthier versions of recipes helps to cut out some of the ingredients that trigger the symptoms you have.

Spacing out water consumption helps with the dehydration and they have lower sodium gatorade that helps too, I can't remember the exact name, but you can google it. They help to keep you hydrated. My cousin, who is pregnant right now like us, suggests fruit water. I like jell-o...it helps me after a rough vomit spell and heartburn. For heartburn, if it is that bad, speak to your healthcare provider. They can tell you what to take or prescribe something. Same thing when it comes to the vomiting and nausea.

Sorry I couldn't be more helpful. Hopefully something I said works for you. Feel better *hugs*

cicigto1 · July 2015

Thank you! I will try jello! I do have a coconut water based hydration drink made by everlast. It seems acidic tho. Today I have puked three times and right now I'm eating a piece of dry toast.

lmgagliardi@hotmail.com · July 2015

I am so miserable this pregnancy and we wanted this for so long, this is our miracle baby but I'm just so over it and I've still got the harder second half to go. I feel so guilty feeling this unhappy becauseminshould be thrilled with my miracle but I just want the end result this sucks. I'm not still sick (20w) but I was through the first tri ended up on zofran (gasp I know) just to make me a functioning member of society but it didn't help with the vertigo I ended up having. I have high bp I'm on meds for, I fainted in school, and that was just first tri. But then I've had all these awful allergy/sickness symptoms (since March!) that turned into pneumonia. Which sometimes causes me to projectile vomit from all the mucus (new experience for me- not fun) Everything on me hurts, and my muscles spasm all the time. My hips ache which causes my legs to ache, and so docs keep telling me the miracle of walking and I'm like f you it hurts And now I have early gestational diabetes and can't seem to get my sugar under control so I too am eating nothing (for different reasons) and hungry all the time

and it's not even working

and I'm typically an emotional eater so all I do is stand in my kitchen and cry and then have a banana as my carb allotment. At this point I'm pretty sure I'm depressed and am gonna need insulin for the next 18 weeks and I just keep thinking I'm not sure I'm gonna make it

I feel ya sister and it's like no one gets it

sassysister18 · July 2015

@cicigto1 me too!! We had two losses between this bub and my son so I feel bad for feeling like this but I'm over it!! I just want December to be here already!! Heartburn/indigestion is absolutely horrible!! Ps You said you're eating bananas, they flare up my heartburn really bad so maybe keep that in mind, I know your already not eating much, keep your head high xo

Taylovesbrad · July 2015

I also have had a really rough time. Thought many times that this kid is trying to kill me. I also wanted to be pregnant so so bad and still do. I think it's normal for it to be hard to get excited when yoy feel so crummy. I have my 20 week ultra sound this week so I think that will help. Let's cut.ourselves some slack. Xoxo

nik6499 · July 2015

I think it's even harder when you feel miserable and you have wanted this baby for so long because you feel guilty that you are not enjoying the glorious miracle that everyone tells you pregnancy is supposed to be.

My advice:

Let go of what people tell you you should be feeling.

It's ok to feel miserable, it's ok to hate being pregnant (this is NOT synonymous with whether or not you want your baby)

It's ok to talk to your doctor about medications and to take them when needed. If something can help and your doctor provides it then get some relief!

When that baby is handed to you, you forget these discomforts. It doesn't mean you don't have the right to feel them right now.

Some people with HG have it through the entire pregnancy. As hard as it is, find what works for you and stick to it. Small attainable goals, BRaT diet this week, next week I'll add in a food. Don't go crazy and go with heavy spicey food, add something simple and everyday if tolerated add something new in.

I believe there are safe heartburn meds for pregnancy so check with your OB.

can I promise it will get better, no. But I can promise that there is an endpoint. Delivery. It stinks it's so far off, but it is an endpoint after which not only will you fell better but you will have a baby.

kidcapri100 · July 2015

Oh @cicigto1 I feel your pain mama! I'm a FTM and have wanted this baby for so long - my DH and I are over the moon to be pregnant, but the past 20 weeks have just been absolute hell!

I have HG as well and swear the Zofran saved my life. Did it take away all of the nasties? No. But it kept me from vomiting up everything I ate. I stick to just eating what I can stomach - very simple foods. It's only been in the last week or two that I can actually start eating a more balanced diet now that I've figured out what does and what doesn't work. Pedialyte was a life savor to me as it wasn't as strong in flavor as Gatorade. Also fruits, cottage cheese (weird I know..), baked potatoes, edamame and fresh spinach with poppyseed dressing seemed to go down easy. I also switched to a prenatal that was specifically designed to help with nausea and introduced a plant-based DHA supplement once my vomiting was under control.

In addition to the HG, I had a huge bleed at almost 16 weeks that put me in the ER. I was diagnosed that week with a large subchorionic hematoma and they also discovered that my cervix was very short. I've been put on modified bed rest, had to cancel all of my summer plans (a trip to Greece, my work trips to LA and NYC, time at our beach house in the Northeast). I'm now on progesterone to help my cervix which has made my nausea worse, I can't drive, walk long periods of time, bend over, etc. Because of the hematoma and my cervix issue, my MFM thinks there is a very high likelihood of PPROM so I literally worry about that every day of my life. Also, because of the size and location of my hematoma I am not a candidate for cerclage so I literally pray that my cervix holds out every day of my life!

I can't sleep, I started getting Braxton hicks two weeks ago, I get terrible indigestion, I have an anterior placenta so I can barely even feel the baby move...just lovely!

But, I just keep thinking that in the grand scheme of things this 40 weeks will be so insignificant. It's such a short amount of time. And if we can get through this we can sure as hell get through anything! These past 20 weeks have tested my patience as well as my physical and emotional wellbeing to the max. And guess what? I survived!

I think the other saving grace is that every pregnancy is different. And while we may be experiencing hell with this one, we may be just fine with the next!

Hang in there..this too shall pass and will be a distant memory once our LO's are here!

fmraglio · July 2015

nik6499 said:
I think it's even harder when you feel miserable and you have wanted this baby for so long because you feel guilty that you are not enjoying the glorious miracle that everyone tells you pregnancy is supposed to be.

My advice:

Let go of what people tell you you should be feeling.

It's ok to feel miserable, it's ok to hate being pregnant (this is NOT synonymous with whether or not you want your baby)

It's ok to talk to your doctor about medications and to take them when needed. If something can help and your doctor provides it then get some relief!

When that baby is handed to you, you forget these discomforts. It doesn't mean you don't have the right to feel them right now.

Some people with HG have it through the entire pregnancy. As hard as it is, find what works for you and stick to it. Small attainable goals, BRaT diet this week, next week I'll add in a food. Don't go crazy and go with heavy spicey food, add something simple and everyday if tolerated add something new in.

I believe there are safe heartburn meds for pregnancy so check with your OB.

can I promise it will get better, no. But I can promise that there is an endpoint. Delivery. It stinks it's so far off, but it is an endpoint after which not only will you fell better but you will have a baby.

Couldn't have said it any better.
I hope you do find relief, but if this does last throughout your pregnancy, just trust Nik and focus on the fact that all of this is your baby.

Pregnancy sucks, but at least we get a beautiful reward at the finish line.

merbear32 · July 2015

You are not alone. I'm still sick and tired at almost 18 weeks. I was having trouble feeling connected due to the fear that goes with being "high risk" and feeling yucky all the time. It may sound super silly but seeing a little foot with tiny toes on an ultrasound got me to feel a connection to the human growing inside me and has improved my mood for several weeks now. I hope you have some sort of moment that helps to cheer you up as well.

18Williams18 · July 2015

I am miserable too! This is baby number 2 for me. I was sick until delivery with the first and this time is even worse. I am 17 weeks and now started home care with daily iv is needed and a zofran pump for 24 hr meds. Luckily this is starting to help. I hated being pregnant and I still do. It is all worth it once that baby is born but it does suck until then. My advice is ignore all other people. I daily hear oh it will get better and my pregnancy was great I loved it. I mentally punch them and then just move forward. Everyone is different and its okay to feel this way!

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