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getting over the fear of miscarriage

DanniNChrisDanniNChris member
in March 2016 Moms
Hi everyone , this is my first bub after two previous traumatic miscarriages in 2009 I'm currently 6 weeks 2 days & due march the 5th . I also have a bicornuate uterus & hashimotos thyroiditis which is controlled with thyroxine & regular blood tests . I just find myself fearing the worst is going to happen & have that constant worry & time seems to be standing still , my OB that I will be under is currently away until the 20th and my G.P wouldn't do an ultrasound even though I am classed as high risk pregnancy so I have to wait until the 20th to ring the OB to get an appointment . any ideas on how to relax and not think of the worst I would love to hear . my husband & I have been TTC for a while & we want our Lil button more than anything , I just couldn't bear for anything to happen
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  • TheNewestMrsSmith55TheNewestMrsSmith55 member
    I completely understand. I too am on my 3rd pregnancy with 2 prior miscarriages and I know that the anxiety and worry is debilitating and causes early pregnancy to feel like it is endless. It is completely normal and there is nothing wrong with you for worrying...if anything it just shows how much you already love this little bean :).

    What has helped me with the anxiety is trying to get regular hcg blood tests (your gp can order in your obs absence) to see the levels rising and also doing research on rates of miscarriage by week of pregnancy. If you Google it there are charts out there that will show you how the chances of miscarriage go down with every passing day of your pregnancy...it's very reassuring!

    I'll be praying for you and your little one until you get your ultrasound!
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  • mommygrams0730mommygrams0730 member
    edited July 2015
    There's a post called "chances of NOT having a miscarriage" up near the top. I like looking at that to help ease my mind.


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  • Hullabaloo2016Hullabaloo2016 member
    I'm with you guys on this one, after previous losses it is hard not to be a nervous nellie.  Like @TheNewestMrsSmith55 advised, I have had several blood draws to check HCG levels.  So far, so good and it has been really reassuring.  I had spotting last week after non-penetrating intimate moments with my DH, so I'm waiting on my second draw after that one.  And like @mommy grams I check the "chances of NOT having a miscarriage" post almost every day.

    Think of it this way, don't let fear of what could happen ruin the joy of what is happening today, right this moment.  Acknowledge the fear, don't ignore it completely.  But then make a conscious decision to push it to the side for the day and hope and dream about your baby.

    That's what I do.
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  • mommygrams0730mommygrams0730 member
    I also say this to myself...today I'm pregnant and I love my baby! Thanks again for that @ecmb!


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  • jstanton0822jstanton0822 member
    I thank God literally every morning that I wake up still pregnant.
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  • DanniNChrisDanniNChris member
    Thank you so much everyone for your kind words , I'm having another set of hcg bloods today & then Monday I am able to ring my OB so not long , just have to remain sane til then :-S
    Prayers for all of us mummas & healthy little beans in 33 weeks xx
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  • popcornpleasepopcornplease member
    It's so hard. It is so, so hard. My rainbow was born in 2014, and I'm still terrified all over again.

    You really just have to take it one day at a time.
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  • nicole103109nicole103109 member
    Hoping all goes well for you and your little bean! I am right there with you. I had two back to back miscarriages and now I am pregnant again and super worried. I pretty much just expect a mc. I cannot wait till I'm able to hear a heartbeat I'll be nervous until then!
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    https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12595156/chances-of-not-having-a-mc
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  • DanniNChrisDanniNChris member
    Thank you so much , that's what I keep expecting & its a terrible feeling :(( but like you I will be more chilled when I see our Lil jelly beans heart beating away . wishing you all the love & strength for a happy healthy pregnancy xx
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