Anyone else felt alone during this pregnancy?

Re: Anyone else felt alone during this pregnancy?

• Stephaniemariebuck member

  July 2015

  I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way. It's tough when you feel like you're going it alone, especially since you've already got a little one to take care of. This is my third baby and this pregnancy has definitely been tougher than my other two. I attribute that to chasing around a 2 and 4 year old. My husband is a police officer and he works nights so at least 4 days a week (and sometimes more, he's a SWAT operator and is on call 24/7) I am on my own with the kids. What has helped us a lot is every other week scheduling some time together and every week I try to get out of the house on my own and he stays with the girls. I think communication is very important, he didn't realize how worn down I was until I broke down around 24 weeks. Things have been much better since then because he finally understands how I feel. It helps that I had to go out of town for military training for 4 days and when I got back he had a whole new appreciation for everything I do with the girls and around the house and he helps out much more. I hope things get better for you. Get a babysitter and go out on a date. I think part of the problem is that as mothers we get so wrapped up in taking care of ourselves and the kids sometimes the Husbands can feel neglected. Hugs!

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• pabeybaby member

  July 2015

  This is our first baby and hubby's been here most of the time. But I have no friends really to keep me company. I've sat around the house a lot throughout this pregnancy and there's been times its bummed me out. But we're pulling through. TB helps.

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• CountingMyBlessings member

  July 2015

  Some men are so insensitive. My husband gets like that. His mom and sister put him in check for me when it gets real bad. I spent last week and the week before in the hospital (long story) - I'm so happy to be home on bed rest instead of the hospital. My husband still doesn't get it though- after he made breakfast for DD and I this morning he asked me to clean the kitchen. I'm not supposed to do anything that's why it's called bed rest!! I'm actually only one week out of surgery, a surgery I was put to sleep for. They don't put pregnant people to sleep unless it's a major emergency! I could go on and on with reasons on why I relate to exactly what you are saying but it will just anger me and make me contract more than I already am contracting. I'm going to think positive and just say my husband is a good man but he just happens to let stupidity cloud his judgment :-)

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• CountingMyBlessings member

  July 2015

  Some men are so insensitive. My husband gets like that. His mom and sister put him in check for me when it gets real bad. I spent last week and the week before in the hospital (long story) - I'm so happy to be home on bed rest instead of the hospital. My husband still doesn't get it though- after he made breakfast for DD and I this morning he asked me to clean the kitchen. I'm not supposed to do anything that's why it's called bed rest!! I'm actually only one week out of surgery, a surgery I was put to sleep for. They don't put pregnant people to sleep unless it's a major emergency! I could go on and on with reasons on why I relate to exactly what you are saying but it will just anger me and make me contract more than I already am contracting. I'm going to think positive and just say my husband is a good man but he just happens to let stupidity cloud his judgment :-)

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• Boslove member

  July 2015

  My SO was acting the same way, we eventually decided to split and co-parent our DD and unborn DS. making this pregnancy very different and lonely compared to my first.
  
  Hopefully you and your H can work this out. Communication is key

  
  

  
  

  
  

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