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Significant others that aren't 100%??

leximd84leximd84 member
in February 2016 Moms
I'm a FTM and wondering if anyone else is having issues with their boyfriends/husbands? I'm having a tough time because it was a fight to keep the baby with my boyfriend and he became okay with it and now all of a sudden the other day I said look at all the cute baby shoes in a store and he wants to "slow down the whole pregnancy thing". I'm torn and not sure how to feel about it. Anyone else have or had this issue before??
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Re: Significant others that aren't 100%??

  • mrsgillham14mrsgillham14 member
    It's a lot harder for guys to connect with a pregnancy than it is for us.  We are going through all the body changes and they don't feel any different.  I'm sure he will come around with time, but you need to talk to him and find out what is cause his sudden hesitation.  He could just be concerned that it is still early and you are not out of the danger zone yet. Honestly, my mom did that to me with my last pregnancy and I was so mad at her because she didn't want to go baby shopping with me at 5 weeks. Then I lost the pregnancy. Is he going to your appointments with you? Maybe once he hears and sees the baby he will change.  From what I've read, many men don't change until the baby is actually born or they can feel them kick and be more involved. Sorry you are going through this.
    Me (23) & DH (26)
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  • E3A7AGGIEE3A7AGGIE member
    If it was a fight to keep the baby to begin with, I'm sure he's still having a lot of negative/anxious feelings about it. Not saying that he isn't okay anymore, but feelings he had to start with probably won't disappear over night. And like PP said, it's harder for the guys to 'get into it' this early on anyways. We (the moms) have these boards that keep us excited and into it, and we FEEL the effects and differences going on in our bodies. Anyways... I'd keep all lines of communication open and flowing, and don't get upset at him if he is feeling anxiety about it. The more understanding you are about his feelings, the more he'll feel like you're there to support ((just like he's being a support for you)). I'm sure with time, he will come around more and more. It's a big change for everyone, but as mothers, we are more readily and willing to accept and prepare because we already have so much love for these little beings growing inside of us. Just my opinion. :)
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  • Gloria007.defunct635776962378729876Gloria007.defunct635776962378729876 member
    I understand completely! I'm going through the same thing except me and my SO wernt together at the time I got pregnant. (It's his btw) and he was all excited at first then wasn't and pulled the whole I'm not ready. Ignorin thing. I'm praying he will come around but if he doesn't I'm still thankful I have supportive friends and family
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