Baby Shower Date- too soon?!

robinj716 · July 2015

I know this is super early, but I was talking with my mom last night about my baby shower. Since I'm due 2/2 she was thinking of hosting a shower mid-November. I would be about 28 weeks along.

Her thinking was because the end of November is Thanksgiving and then four weeks later is Christmas, which we all know how busy everyone is between Thanksgiving and Christmas.

If we waited until January then I would be due 4 works later, and I would rather have more than 3-4 weeks to put together a nursery and purchase whatever items I still needed after the shower.

It seems like the only time that would be convenient for all involved would be early to mid November. We don't want to burden people with having to worry about my shower in the midst of all of their holiday/family plans.

Is 28 weeks along too soon?! Are we crazy?!

lilqt3929 · July 2015

I don't think thats too early. It's nice to be able to do it during a time when you're still relatively comfortable and like you said given the time of year that may be more convenient for guests.

cMichelle0423 · July 2015

I had my baby shower at 19 weeks with my first because I had to travel back home to Colorado. It was more out of convenience to my parents who threw it, and because I didn't want to be hugely pregnant while flying.

inomniaparatus · July 2015

I have the same due date and feel ya. Many of my friends travel around the holidays and it's also both my husband's Bday and my bday in December. January feels too late -- I'll leave it up to my mom though since she's throwing it.

froggy994 · July 2015

28 weeks isn't too early in my opinion. My shower was at 36 weeks. I was worried it was too close, but I was able to get everything done that needed to be done. So whatever date works best for your family is a good date. It's a little trickier with the holidays and February edd.

BabySeaTurtles · July 2015

Not too early at all. It's nice that your mom is excited and is corroborating with you. Have fun!

CanadianGamerMom · July 2015

I had my baby shower at 28 weeks with my first babe. By that point I hadn't really purchased much bc I wanted to wait until after the shower so I wouldn't have to deal with duplicates. I was getting stressed that I didn't have anything yet so I thought 28 weeks was great. I was due January 15th so it worked out well.

Aussiechicka · July 2015

I had mine at 30 weeks, we just moved into our house and my BF was leaving town and she wanted to host it, so we did it early. I was glad we did it sooner because then it gave me a chance to work out what else I needed off the register that people hadn't gifted.

ohbaby714 · July 2015

I don't think that is too early at all. I had mine at 36 weeks and ended up having to be induced at 37 weeks. I felt so rushed and stressed out rushing to try and get everything together.

robinj716 · July 2015

Thanks for your opinions!

kbedfox · July 2015

Thanks for asking this! My sister and I just had this discussion last night. I live 5+ hours away from where she wants to host my shower and don't want to risk traveling too far into the 3rd trimester. She suggested Nov 1 (I'm due 2/7) and I was afraid it would seem early, but it sounds like that's an acceptable time frame.

The other thing I am uncomfortable with is having a shower right before a major gift-giving holiday and having people feel stressed or obligated to spend money on us when they're likely already stressing out about gifts for their own families. The timing feels awkward but hopefully it doesn't rub anyone the wrong way.

robinj716 · July 2015

@natsfans84 we agree with you! We know everyone gets busy and stressed around the holidays, not to mention spending so much money on their own families, we didn't want to put more pressure on people! I was also afraid people might think it's a little too early, but it seems like it would work out fine! We will do either 11/7 or 11/14.

MississippiCatfish · July 2015

I think it's fine. When I get a baby shower invite, I don't really think about or care how far along the person is. Especially this time frame, I would just appreciate that it wasn't during the holidays.

It's also nice that they aren't pushing for after the baby is born...I had one of those and it was tough. Flu season, so I didn't want anyone to breathe on him. I still felt chubby and didn't want anyone taking pictures, I had to write all my thank you's with a non-sleeping newborn around. I returned a TON that I already had (I mean, I totally appreciated every single thing given, it's just much less convenient than returning items prior to baby coming.) just my thoughts on that subject;)

paytonpedro · July 2015

I was just thinking about this yesterday and will probably have mine around the same time.

lalathornton · July 2015

I think that's perfect & my due date is 2/10 and we are already thinking that thanksgiving weekend might be a good time or very early dec. don't wanna b too uncomfortable plus the thought of everyone just saying how "big" you are any further along makes me cringe (FTM and terrified of excessive weight gain) so for me the earlier the better!

brushesnbrunch · July 2015

My SIL brought that subject up recently too. We are thinking mid Jan just because of the holidays and family birthdays.

salixjoy38 · July 2015

Yeah all us feb moms will probably have the same complications re: the holidays and January being busy and last minute. Luckily in Canada our thanksgiving is earlier so the end of November is still an option Eta: spelling

purplepenguin3 · July 2015

do it

Vkrosa · July 2015

Wow I haven't even thought out that far. November would be great.

Wurrkingurrl · July 2015

No, I don't think it is too early at all. Besides, the further along you are the bigger you are and the more uncomfortable you will feel.... And unless you want to go to your shower in sweats, the thought of getting dressed for real is super unappealing later. (At least it was to me with my first!)

wisco29 · July 2015

I was only 20 weeks when the hosts had mine. It was a reveal shower combo because of the holidays and I would have had to travel many hours in potentially snow to one. It was actually perfect. I wasn't really showing BUT I didn't have to drive in the snow and I got to get everything set up way in advance

FLsquirrel80 · July 2015

I hadn't really thought about when to have the shower until you mentioned d it. I think you have a great idea with having it before the craziness of the holidays. Now you got me thinking about my shower!

g8trkim · July 2015

I don't think that's early at all. The holidays are crazy and having a shower when you're really far along is a bad idea. 1) You no longer feel cute. 2) You may give birth. 3) It gives you time to see what you still need before baby comes.

TexasMom7137 · July 2015

I think from a guests perspective I would be more available to come in early November. Also money wise it would be much easier to fit into my budget at that time rather than trying to buy something in early Dec. After Thanksgiving it is so difficult to fit in 1 more event.

HBirdie · July 2015

Not too early! But I will say, devil's advocate, that my shower with DS happened when I was like 35(?) weeks pregnant and it was great, too. I did go two weeks overdue so that helps, but I felt like I had plenty enough time to get everything together and buy the rest of what we needed. And to be honest, it was torture having so much adorable stuff and having to just stare at it waiting for the baby to come... I'm glad I only had to stare at it for 7 weeks instead of like 15. haha. The cute little clothes and a stroller and crib and whatever make it feel so much more real... and so far away.

bredoll · July 2015

I agree with PP that sounds like a good time. I was at one shower that ended abruptly when the momma started having contractions and had to leave for the hospital. She didn't end up having the little guy until a few weeks later but it scared all the guests.

I'm due 2/3 and looking at the calendar, if someone offers to throw one for me, it would have to be either Nov 14 or 21 so I would be 28-29 weeks. We have season tix for our college's football games, so that limits a lot of Saturday's in the fall. Hubby's parents and sister will be down right after Thanksgiving for a vacation they planned last December and anything later in December would be too close to Christmas. January is out for me since I have mandatory Saturdays/overtime from the first weekend of Jan until March (this year will be until I go out on maternity leave).

geojam224 · July 2015

I'm due Feb 7 and that's exactly when I intend to have mine

heethers · July 2015

My MIL suggested October for mine (I'm due 2/7), so compared to that, November sounds good!!

Sascarlson · July 2015

I think mid Nov is a perfect time!

kwinsor85 · July 2015

My best friend is throwing a shower for me (for our church friends and others) at the end of November and my mom will be throwing one for the family in the very beginning of December. I think the timing is perfect for not wanting to do it over the major holiday and not wanting to have it too late due to having to rush putting the nursery together. I want to take my time and make sure everything is how I want it.