Siblings Sharing a Birthday

lauren0571 · July 2015

My first doctors appointment was today and I had an ultrasound. Baby has a good heartbeat and is measuring at 9 weeks. YAY!
New due date is Feb. 11th and my son's birthday is Feb 13th. They will be almost exactly 3 years apart depending on when this little on decides to arrive. They may even share a birthday.
I get that this is something that parents of twins accoumodate but 3 years is a bit of a age difference. I'm starting to worry that this could be an issue over the years. A 10 and a 13 year old might have different ideas when it comes to party planning.
Maybe this is a silly thing to be worried about but any suggestions, advice or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!

Twindling · July 2015

I have a similar situation. I have twins. Obviously share the same birthday and while it works out NOW, it probably won't as they develop different interests, etc. just because my girls are twins doesn't mean they're the same person. As they age, they too will want seperate parties with different friends and different themes.

My girls and this new baby will have birthdays 3ish weeks apart and they will have a 3 year age gap.

We've decided that the best thing we can do now is wait until that time comes and ask them what they want to do. Perhaps one joint birthday for family on the day of their birthday and 3 individual parties on different days.

BabyHope2013 · July 2015

DS and this baby will be 3 years and 3-4 weeks apart, depending on when this baby comes. If this baby comes earlier then it will be even closer together. We only plan to do big family parties for the 1st, 3rd and 5th birthdays. Otherwise it is just immediate family and then as they get older we will do friend birthday parties. I plan to seperate the friend birthday parties---even if they are the same gender, they will likely have different interests and I think they deserve to have their own special day to be celebrated.

I wouldn't worry about it now---the first several years you could easily combine to make it easier on you and they likely won't know the difference being so young. There are lots of themes out there that could be gender and age neutral if that is a concern to you.

camusoh2011 · July 2015

My kids don't share a birthday, but my stepdaughter and oldest son's are only about a week apart. We only get SD every other year on her birthday, so to make sure we always get to celebrate with her we throw a joint birthday party for them. SD picks the theme one year then DS the next. Now that they are getting older (will be 7 and 4 this year) we are just letting them pick out their own cakes. We also let each of them choose where they would like to go out to eat for a special birthday dinner on their actual day. I'm sure in the future they might want to do stuff separate with their own friends and when that time comes we'll adjust.

My younger siblings are kind of like this too. She is turned 7 on June 26 and he will be 10 on July 26. With their birthdays a month apart my parents have always held their party together on 4th of July. It's never been an issue.

lalathornton · July 2015

Just realized my due date is the same day as my dogs birthday! (Feb 10) but also my nephew will be turning 2 on feb 12- so could be a shared bday. I think it's a great thing, can always have parties together and they share a special little bond

willkc · July 2015

My brother is 3 years older than me and our birthdays are just a few days apart. I never minded it when I was younger and it didn't become an issue when we were older either. When we were younger, we'd have a party with the whole family, but my mom would get us each our own special cake that we chose. As we got older, if we wanted a party with friends, she'd just plan a small party for each of us on a different night!

wisco29 · July 2015

If I would have gotten pregnant on my next cycle this is exactly what I would be dealing with... But now I am dealing with a bunch of other family members bday!
Hopefully I get to "pick" a day for my scheduled c section that works.

I think you could have one of their parties one weekend and one the other weekend? When they are older their friends will want to come over anyways. When they are little you can either do half and half theme which could be fun... I was worried about having parties close because family comes when they are little and I could see them not wanting to come to two In a Row. You can have the parties anyways and whoever comes comes.

brushesnbrunch · July 2015

My brother and SIL are experiencing this. Their oldest and youngest have birthdays a day apart (youngest is on the 29th and oldest is on the 30th). Right now it works I think because they only do family dinners. It might change once both the kids are in school (so far only the oldest is), but it's doable!

ashcody2 · July 2015

My middle sister and I are exactly 3 years and 1 day apart - we always celebrated birthday parties together and didn't even realize it was kind of out of the ordinary for our birthdays to be so close. It was never a big deal to us!

lauren0571 · July 2015

Thank you all for the insight. It's nice to hear about your experiences accommodating a shared birthday.

I guess we will just have to wait and see how it plays out. It wouldn't be that big of a deal to do two separate small birthdays if they really don't want to share the day but my fingers crossed that they are like @ashcody2 and don't even notice.

DaisyTortilla · July 2015

My children don't exactly share a birthday but they are pretty close together. They each have something special on their own day, dinner, lunch, whatever... Then if we decide to have a joint bday party we make it a theme of mutual liking. Once they get older we will let them decide between, 2 small separate parties or 1 big party.

mrs riva · July 2015

My brother and I are 3 yrs and a couple days apart and we always had a joint bday party. We never minded. One year we had separate parties and it felt weird. Haha

mrsgillham14 · July 2015

My SIL is due with her third on her first's birthday, but she has to have a C-section the week before. I think her plan is to make sure that both the kids know their birthdays are important. If they want to celebrate separately, do separate parties. If they want to have a joint party, do a joint party. Make them feel special.

twinmom1121 · July 2015

I have twins and didn't even think about it being an issue. I know they aren't the same person but I figured growing up together they wouldn't mind sharing birthday parties. I'm hoping that they have the same friends and things when they are older and that they would want to have parties together. We will cross that bridge when we come to it I guess!

bamcity1023 · July 2015

My children are 6 years apart (girl is oldest and I have a son). My DS is Sept 4 and my DD is Sept 5. We have been doing family dinners with separate cakes and having my daughter a birthday party with friends from school. Hopefully when my son starts school (he is 2 1/2) my daughter won't be into birthday parties anymore. If not, September will be an expensive month for us. Having a Feb baby will be a nice break!

GABRIELLE2011 · July 2015

Don't worry about it, my DH is 2/16 and my middle DS is 2/15 (original EDD was 2/6) and my DD is 2/21 (original EDD was 2/14) I am currently due on 2/11. I actually love having a full week of birthdays as it is and I am
Actually really happy to add to that weeks festivities. This baby has a good chance of being born on any 3 of their birthdays, just try and make it Extra special for each of them in case it happens

SarahS06 · July 2015

We are in the same boat. DS's bday is 02/06 and this baby is due 02/02.

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