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Bad kid at school

harmonicbabe26harmonicbabe26 member
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No, not my DD, another girl.
She's been there for the last few months and I just can't stand her but my DD likes her.

What's so bad? She's always moody, grumpy, pouty, talks in a horrible tone of voice, has bad attitude. The kid is 3 for crying out loud!! I know she does that at home too bc her mother freely posts all about that on Facebook, always adding that this is why she is OAD etc...

Lately I'm noticing that my kid is starting to bring some of that girl's expressions, pouts, stomping etc home and it is driving me crazy! When DD starts giving us attitude we stop her immediately and if she doesn't change she gets time out.
I also make a point of explaining that it is a bad thing to have a bad attitude and just bc some kids at school are grumpy and pout, we don't need to copy them etc...

How do I deal with this? How do I make DD pick a different, more good-natured and positive friend? On her own K is absolute joy, super energetic and positive. I hate what this situation is teaching her.... I know this will sound bad - i want to smack the other mom on the head and say 'don't let your kid talk to you this way! Discipline her! She's just 3 and needs to learn manners and all'.

Tips? Comments?
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Re: Bad kid at school

  • niknak1208niknak1208 member
    edited July 2015
    Oh how I have been there !! Our oldest son is 6. We had this issue particularly in pre-k. The class he was in happened to have a group of very aggressive outgoing boys and It was a problem every single day. There was one kid in particular who te had a love/hate relationship with. I didn't care for him either. He was openly rude and disrespectful when I would drop off or pick up. DS is a very aggressive outgoing kid. He won't just start things with other kids but if he's triggered and has hurt feelings or is angry he can be a little too aggressive. Every single day the same teacher would come to me and say that he wouldn't keep his hands to himself or he called this kid stupid or whatever it was. Finally I said ya know what if my kid comes home one more time and tells me that this kid called him names or hit him or whatever.. I'm gonna stop telling him to tell the teacher who blatantly blames my child and I'm gonna start telling him to hit him back!!!

    She hushed up quickly.

    Unfortunately, I think all we can do is monitor and intervene when necessary and trust that we've taught our child right. DS is going in first grade this coming school year. Kindergarten was a much better experience. The director of the preschool purposely split up that group of boys and all of them did much better.
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