Feeling like my house isn't good enough for baby...

FirstBabyY · July 2015

We rent a townhome and recently are dealing with repairs that the rental company is dragging their feet on. Feeling overwhelmed that our home is not good enough for baby and we should have bought a house already. Hope to buy a home in the next year or so but just feeling down about it. Feeling the urge to move when I know its not even close to the right time

. Anyone else feeling this way?

samathorn · July 2015

At least you have the ability to have someone else foot the bill for repairs. We bought a home for the same reasons / concerns and now we are dealing with two large (and growing) holes in our sub floor. Two entire rooms have to be refloored somehow before baby arrives next month. So I totally understand your pain.

CaliforniaDream87 · July 2015

Baby doesn't care whether you live in an apartment or a 2 million dollar home. All a baby needs is a safe and warm environment (as far as living goes). Also, baby won't notice repairs that need to be made.

Don't sweat the small stuff!

907_baby · July 2015

We were in the market for a new house until we found out we were pregnant. (Early complications with the corresponding medical bills made us decide to hold off until we knew for sure what we were financially dealing with.) Once we decided to put off buying a house, I had to quickly get rid of the idea of having a "perfect" space for our baby and just focus on what I could control. Our goal is to be in a new house before she is crawling, this way she is stationary (and safer) while we do necessary repairs and upgrades prior to moving out.
As pp mentioned, your baby needs a safe, warm, loving environment. That's it. Focus on absolute necessities so you don't drive yourself crazy.

ChristyM87 · July 2015

We also rent a townhouse and have had a number of issues in the last month including the air conditioning stopped working and now the windows are leaking when it it rains. Baby will be fine, we do have plans to buy at some point but I personally don't want to be moving 9 months pregnant or with a brand new baby.

leiram612 · July 2015

We are also on the same boat. We were planning on moving out of our apartment to a family home when we found out about little one. We then decided one big change is enough and as pp mentioned, at least we don't have to worry about repairs! I too have felt that we should already have a home and this environment is not good enough (I've cried about it partially due to hormones perhaps) but I've decided to just focus on what I can control at moment and things will eventually work out somehow!

hclzmm14 · July 2015

Honestly home ownership can really suck sometimes so try to look at the bright side. Usually when you move into a house you have something really expensive break. For us, our upstairs toilet started leaking and left a giant hole in our kitchen ceiling. Fun times! Our friends bought a house and the air conditioning went out three months later and cost them $15k. So waiting until you have a nice savings stocked up and you're totally ready isn't a bad thing, you'll just be more prepared

and like PP said, baby won't mind where you live.

sandrabrooke · July 2015

Seriously baby doesn't care. (as long as the house isnt like dangerous!)

I have too many friends...who have put themselves into financial difficulty so baby could have a house! For me, I'd much rather make smart financial decisions now...so that I can provide better when my kids actually notice!

MamaMandy2015 · July 2015

I know how you feel, right now we are in a "hand me down" house. It belongs to my FIL but he has allowed us to,live there (basically gave us the house) however the walls need replacing which we've started on, there's no drywall on a living room wall, single pane Windows, there is a lot of renovations that need to be done. The a/c doesn't work so we use a swamp,cooler which is super fun during monsoons. I too have cried many times that our house isn't fit for a baby. I've come to the conclusion that even though it needs work, it's not falling down around us. Our baby will have a dry roof over her head, a warm place to sleep and a mom who is OCD about cleaning lol.

Kimk1616 · July 2015

My husband wanted to buy and I said absolutely not! Way too much going on for that! We did however move from our apartment to a rental house. Trust me, you do not want to be moving right now! We are exhausted and still not done moving everything and cleaning our old apartment.

gulimz · July 2015

Baby won't care where you are living.
Home ownership absolutely sucks. Anything wrong that happens costs a lot of money to fix. At least you have it being fixed for you.
Just a couple of weeks ago, one of my tenants on one of my homes clogged one of the toilets with tampons and turds. Hubby got stuck with a 5k bill. Enjoy not owning a home. ... it comes with a lot of stress you don't need.

kwag106 · July 2015

totally in the same boat, we had moved from a townhouse to a smaller apartment to save up for a house and then shortly after found out we were expecting. But for now we are going to make the apartment work. She has her own room, things are going to be a little tight I think but maybe this year or in the next few we can get her a house. She won't need a yard to play in just yet. We still have time. Like everyone is saying she doesn't know you live in an apartment and doesn't care. I have to remind myself of that as well.

TeamIrvin2012 · July 2015

You aren't alone... We live in my parents home and they live in NY. There are so many things that need to be done in this house and we were trying to move, but unfortunately, it didn't work out... So now, with baby boy coming in three weeks we have started fixing up one of the bedrooms for him... The rest of the house is a mess, but at least he will have his space till we can move!!! When I can go back to work in October, we plan on being in our own place the end of the year... Good luck!!!

PurpleBookmark · July 2015

I understand how you feel, I love our townhouse but it's only 2 bedrooms and we're going to have 3 kids. I feel guilty that we aren't in a position to rent or buy a larger place right now. Eventually we will be but not now.

Babies and small children are very adaptable and don't care so much about the state of their home as long as it's safe and reasonably comfortable (ie has heat, etc.). It's hard not to compare to what others have but try to "bloom where you're planted".

dkizz82 · July 2015

You are fine! Think about some of the poor children in this world and how they grow up. They don't care and are happy. You just keep a clean, fun, happy home and that baby will thrive!

missmychard · July 2015

I can say from experience that kids only know what they know--as long as they are loved and cared for, their only memories associated with their home (extravagant or not) will be positive. I had no idea we didn't have money growing up, I thought I had the best childhood ever! It was only when my parents made more money as I got older that I realized we didn't have a lot when I was young.

That being said, when you do decide to buy a home, and this goes for everyone, get a home warranty!!! So many of the big things that fail (a/c systems, refrigerators, ovens, etc) are covered by a good policy.

FirstBabyY · July 2015

Thank you guys! Had a moment of panic but hey at 34wks its bound to happen. Feeling better now and some things were fixed today finally. Love the August bump moms!

emmacake08 · July 2015

Just stay away from HGTV... That is the channel of house envy (and every human being thinking granite countertops are a must have for every home...)

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atthemoment · July 2015

I feel your pain..we own our townhom and since November weve been dealing with a roof leak that noone can seem to fix or identify the problem. Holding out on hope it gets fixed before baby comes!

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