what would you do?!

Numajawara · July 2015

My friend just gave birth!
She got all the gifts from baby shower for her "baby girl " she painted the nursery for the "baby girl " she got all the newborn clothes until at least 1 year old for her "baby girl" everything is basically girly but she just gave birth to a boy !! everybody is surprised/ shocked ...I Don't know what I would do ... I mean of course I will love my baby but damn I would turn sh*t up with that hospital for false information .

qtjo5 · July 2015

Wow! Idk what to say to that!

gotdiesel2007 · July 2015

I would move on. Ultrasounds are not 100% and the point of them is to check on baby not to determine sex.

2babes3angels · July 2015

That's crazy! Did she find out super early? Hopefully she is doing well with this surprise! Obviously, ultrasounds are not just for determining sex, but it's 2015--you'd think they'd be fairly accurate!! Especially once they tell you the gender and you start planning your life around that new little person, I can imagine it would be absolutely shocking and maybe even hard to adjust to emotionally.

SBbabyonboard · July 2015

Well I am kind of in that situation right now, baby has been in bad positions for every single ultrasound, but the last 3, she said she was 90% sure it was a girl. So we got ready for a girl but what I did is I kept all my reciepts and made the bedroom a little more gendar friendly, it's grey and yellow with purple accents that could be easily switched out for blue or green if it was a boy. I have 1 last ultrasound on wed so hopefully baby is still looking like a girl but have mentally prepared myself for a boy as well! Just will be a little more work re organizing afterwards

AziaNick · July 2015

Wow, that sucks haha return what you can and regift and have a garage sale for the rest. That's what I would do and then just get everything you need again. Some things im sure they can still use that won't really matter what color it is. Like the bathtub, who cares if it's pink haha

MEXARAB · July 2015

Dang! Didn't think that happend anymore! As long as the baby's heathy shouldn't be such a big deal. Material things can be replaced.

JHaworth84 · July 2015

Ultrasound is only considered to be 95% accurate at determining the sex so your friend may be surprised but they can hardly get mad about it as it's just one of those things! Surely what matters is she has a healthy baby in her arms, the rest is just material things. There are loads of stories where people have been caught out just that you never expect it to happen to you... It happened to us this pregnancy where we were told 'girl' but subsequently had an amnio and we are having a boy. Thankfully later ultrasounds have shown some boy parts now too

xx

zmombie · July 2015

Lol this was a big fear of mine!!! As you said, obviously I would love the baby no matter what, and it would be a funny story... After I replaced all the clothes and picked a name and ect.
That's the only bad part about it, is you spend all that time and money setting up gender themed everything, only to have to start over.. Or dress your little son in pink...
Back when my mom was having me and my brothers, they wouldn't pick colors even if they were told boy or girl because it was so inaccurate, we have better technology now, but her whole pregnancy with my brother, she was told he was a girl. Lol.

ChristyM87 · July 2015

gotdiesel2007 said:
I would move on. Ultrasounds are not 100% and the point of them is to check on baby not to determine sex.

This. There is nothing you can do but pick out a boy name and move on

NewMumzy25 · July 2015

Oh my. I would be happy either way as long as baby is healthy, bit that would be nerve racking. I washed everything so any tags are in the trash. I like the yard sale idea and sell what you can, there's always a few things that will be gender neutral but it would still be odd when I've called my little man Kaidon the name we picked out the whole time and baby boy and any Facebook posts say the same lmao. I'm 40+4 today so people are saying maybe it's a girl and she's mad you keep calling her a boy. We have mostly boy stuff so it would be a funny story and grandpa would get his granddaughter but it would still be weird when you've thought it was a boy the whole time. I just want my baby healthy and in my arms already!

wheresilenceismusic · July 2015

Boys can wear pink, too!!!!!!!

Numajawara · July 2015

She and I both know there's nothing else you can do about it but like pp said you plan your whole life now around that Lil girl only to find out its a boy , you don't just pick a name and "move on" lol like seriously?? After giving birth, trust me, the last thing on your mind is getting up to go exchange baby items/clothes ... Or starting all over arguing over a new name with your SO... Especially having to explain to friends/family or even the cashier/store manager while you're exchanging things.. Its not just a "move on" situation its Real Life

KAR8706 · July 2015

Goodness that's crazy. It would be stressful to "start over" but it will be ok. I asked at my last ultrasound so double and triple check lol so we know for sure that its a boy!

LibbyC730 · July 2015

I think the name would have been the toughest thing! We had a girl's name picked right away, but it took us a few months to decide on baby boy's!
I bet she'll get lots of "boy" clothing as gifts, a lot of other things can still be used, and they'll have a great story to tell! It would be quite the initial shock, though!

ChristyM87 · July 2015

Numajawara said:
She and I both know there's nothing else you can do about it but like pp said you plan your whole life now around that Lil girl only to find out its a boy , you don't just pick a name and "move on" lol like seriously?? After giving birth, trust me, the last thing on your mind is getting up to go exchange baby items/clothes ... Or starting all over arguing over a new name with your SO... Especially having to explain to friends/family or even the cashier/store manager while you're exchanging things.. Its not just a "move on" situation its Real Life

Maybe it is because I am team green but to me it would just be a move on situation and enjoy my new son

babydoll1008 · July 2015

I think the best thing to do is give the baby back and ask for a refund.

"Excuse me, this isn't the baby I was expecting so we'll just go now."

No haha. Of course, it would be a HUGE surprise especially after decorating the nursery a certain way (my baby's name is Luke and has a Star Wars themed nursery) and clothes.

It would be such a surprise to everyone to just say, "So this happened.." Reactions to that would be the best. Yeah, you would just learn to roll with it

Numajawara · July 2015

@babydoll1008 at first I thought I read that wrong I was like "What??!! Give The Baby Back!!??" Lol

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MEXARAB · July 2015

@babydoll1008 haha give the baby back!! That's for the lol!

zmombie · July 2015

Hm.. Would it be poor etiquette to throw another baby shower? Probably right? Since everyone already spent money on the girl things you could take back.. I was thinking if it happened to me I would throw another shower all boy themed and make a party of it. Just ask everyone to not brig a gift as they already had.

jespernoir · July 2015

There's really not much to be said but exchange the things that your friend things aren't appropriate for the baby boy, decide on a boy name, and yes move on. These things happen, it'd be a helluva gatdamn shock, that's for sure, but there's literally nothing to be done but accept it and move on.

crf4 · July 2015

Of course it's a "move on" type situation!! Are you going to dwell on it or enjoy the fact that you have a healthy son? I understand it's super inconveintent but this is another reason we don't find out the gender; it's meant to be a surprise and I would hate it if I had this whole life in my mind with this person before he or she was even here..

Brittpetitti · July 2015

My dad is hoping for that to happen with us of course he is super excited about his grand baby coming and I mean excited but he still has a little hope that she will be a he.

Numajawara · July 2015

@Brittpetitti lol awww a man can only dream

and expect the unexpected! But imagine if that happened? Lol

katiexxpaige · July 2015

I'd be ecstatic of my baby was the opposite gender! I wanted a girl and was a little disappointed when we found out he was a little boy. I love him either way but wouldn't mind a surprise at the hospital!

Brittpetitti · July 2015

Numajawara said:
@Brittpetitti lol awww a man can only dream and expect the unexpected! But imagine if that happened? Lol

My father would be so happy lol he was a little disappointed. We are getting our little girl.

oneblessedmess · July 2015

If this kid is a boy he's gonna be super comfortable wearing the color pink! LOL I do think it would be hard to switch gears mentally though, you have this image of this little person in your head and then oh wait, you were imagining the wrong sex! Not a huge deal of course but still!

Savanna111911 · July 2015

It would be inconvenient for sure, but there is nothing you can do but laugh about it.

daizyifyoudo · July 2015

This is simply a shocker you move forward from. She's not the first nor last person it has happened to and there is no blame to be thrown anywhere. It happens and will continue to happen for years to come.
When we choose to find out gender and rely on that info, there's always a risk it could be wrong. It's just how it goes. My close friend had a high risk pregnancy with 10+ US's all of which determined they were having a boy and she gave birth to a beautiful little girl.

runnergirl29 · July 2015

Hopefully she was smart n kept reciepts?

Ckorines · July 2015

@gotdiesel2007 your responses always make me giggle. You say what I'm thinking. Hope you are well!

gotdiesel2007 · July 2015

@Ckorines All is good here. Glad you enjoy my comments. I have no filter and what I think comes right out (minus a few curse words and some names sometimes). Some don't enjoy tho lol

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