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Shower advice needed...

hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
edited July 2015 in December 2015 Moms
So my mom has offered to throw me a shower, and mentioned several times that she wants to have it in August because my family is in town before they Snowbird for the winter. However she hasn't made any moves to actually schedule it. I'm not planning on throwing anything for myself but if she really is going to host there are things that my husband and I need to do (register being one of them) and weekends in August are filling up. I am asking for your input on whether you would say something to her or not...

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Shower advice needed... 87 votes

leave it, it's her thing let her bring it up
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ask about potential dates, you need to know this info
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Re: Shower advice needed...

  • wassuphoeswassuphoes member
    IF you were to ask, I would frame it as " H and I are starting to get invites/have some things we'd like to due in August. Can you let me know what is going on so I leave that weekend free?"

    It's entirely possible she's been planning and scheduling and is just trying to surprise you.
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  • redfallonredfallon member
    If she hasn't brought it up already, I'd say ask her. August is next month, and if you aren't able to attend the baby shower because of a previous engagement, then what will be the point of her throwing you one?

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  • BostonBaby1BostonBaby1 member
    Definitely ask
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  • amw2133amw2133 member
    I agree with all of the above. Ask. Hubby and I fill up our weekends pretty quickly so I would want to know. Plus there are plenty of tactful ways to bring it up.
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  • Mizuiro007Mizuiro007 member
    You mentioned she offered, maybe she's been waiting to make definite plans until she gets an answer back from you and knows you're good with it? It could just be a miscommunication happening and you just need to bring it up.

    This somewhat happened for me. Everyone just assumed I'd have a shower with my first and didn't offer until my mom said I wasn't then my aunt offered and waited until I said yes and gave her a date to plan it. She just didn't tell me that and I found out she was getting frustrated and thought I wasn't commit ting to it. I thought I was being nice and staying flexible since her family has a crazier schedule to work around.
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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
    Thanks everyone! I will think of a way to ask about a date.

    I didn't even think of the surprise plan part of it @wassuphoes, that was a good point.

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  • xrumxrum member
    it's your mom, of course you ask her. Is your relationship rocky where you don't usually talk about things?
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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
    Not at all, I just didn't want to come off as a brat demanding a shower.

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  • misamimamisamima member
    Definitely ask her! Summer time is a busy time for everyone, so let her know your schedule is filling up and need to know when you should block out the date for the shower.
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  • yl1m32015yl1m32015 member
    You have every right to ask! It's not rude in any way to just say, "hey mom, just wanted to touch base with you on the shower. What dates are you thinking?" And I say go ahead and register.
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