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Crazy family members vent!!!

borntorun17borntorun17 member
edited July 2015 in May 2015 Moms
My mother keeps telling me how me and my two brothers all slept through the night the day we came home from the hospital. Now I'm well aware that this is medically impossible but she keeps insisting.

This is extra annoying because she's well aware that my little one has significant difficulties sleeping. Like up every three hours is a good night. We're working with our pediatrician to adjust formula for reflux issues.

Last night she tells me that her best friends daughter had a baby last week and that baby is already sleeping six hours stretches at night. Now call me crazy but I know it's not medically sound to allow newborn to go 6-7 hours without eating. I actually think she made this story up to make me Believe the whole newborn sleeping for 12 hours story she told me about me and my brothers.

Even if it's true which I hope it's not since it's not medically safe, it's so obnoxious to tell me this when I'm struggling so much with sleep. I'm going to scream at her soon
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  • babinantebabinante member
    My newborn had gained all her weight back about 5 days after she was born so after a week she'd sleep 5-6 hours at night which my doctor said was fine as long as she was up to her birth weight. But I totally understand your frustration that she doesn't need to point it out or rub it in
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  • borntorun17borntorun17 member
    Good point @babinante
    My son lost more than 10% of his birth weight his first week bc we were not feeding on demand and not waking to feed. Ended up in the hospital but I know that's not typical
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  • SmrBrd2012SmrBrd2012 member
    edited July 2015
    Right there with ya. My mom makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong because LO isn't sleeping in longer stretches yet because apparently my brother and I were perfect babies from conception onwards. She has made every part of my pregnancy/birth/ child raising unexpectedly harder. She used to tell me that childbirth isn't "that bad" like they show on TV and that she did both of hers unmedicated and that she had no stretch marks and said mine would be the same way, that LO would come early, and that he'd be about 7lbs like me. Welp, I have tiger like stretch marks all over me, he was a week late, he was almost 9lbs, and his birth was excruciating and I was in labor for 4 days...thanks mom! Can't wait for the next round of unhelpful factoids she will bring up..
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  • danibonellodanibonello member
    Both my mother and my MIL insist that myself and DH were both wonderful babies too. My mom has always told me that I slept through the night from day 1.... I'm starting to wonder if they have just forgotten the tough times. Maybe in 30ish years we will be telling our LOs how perfect they were (aren't they? :) ).
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  • borntorun17borntorun17 member
    Here's another good one-- I had a tremendously easy labor and only pushed for 20 minutes. However I was in the hospital for five hours before my son was delivered while I fully dilated. Most would say that's a great labor. My parents say I can't believe you were in labor for five hours- it was so long. It's like they completely forgot how everything works and God forbid you explain that they are wrong
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  • justkeeptryingjustkeeptrying member
    I have the opposite. I was a colicky baby and my mom constantly reminds me. So the comments I hear about DS are how perfect he is. Don't get me wrong. My baby is pretty good. But it makes me feel guilty anytime I do get frustrated when he cries hysterically. Because all I'm told is that I should be thankful I have such a good baby.

    Then my MIL is the exact opposite. She tells me all the time that DH was a perfect child and that she only remembers him getting in trouble once. Throughout his entire childhood. Umm...what?!?! Really!! What a load of crap!!!
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  • canadianmom89canadianmom89 member
    Not to rub it in any ones face... But I don't think it's fair to say it's not medically sound for a baby to sleep that long, especially once they've gained their birth weight back... At one week old my DD had gained her birth weight plus some and was sleeping 6 hours ( which the doctor said was great and to enjoy) and now at 10 weeks old she sleeps 8-10 hours at night and is perfectly healthy and thriving, and I know I'm not putting her in any medical danger by doing so because the doctor said it was fine and was just in awe that she does sleep that much
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  • gkrenzelgkrenzel member
    jgillis13 said:

    Not to rub it in any ones face... But I don't think it's fair to say it's not medically sound for a baby to sleep that long, especially once they've gained their birth weight back... At one week old my DD had gained her birth weight plus some and was sleeping 6 hours ( which the doctor said was great and to enjoy) and now at 10 weeks old she sleeps 8-10 hours at night and is perfectly healthy and thriving, and I know I'm not putting her in any medical danger by doing so because the doctor said it was fine and was just in awe that she does sleep that much

    Same for me with a 6-week old now. Doctor said it was completely fine, to enjoy the sleep as long as LO is healthy and gaining enough weight.
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  • borntorun17borntorun17 member
    jgillis13 said:

    Not to rub it in any ones face... But I don't think it's fair to say it's not medically sound for a baby to sleep that long, especially once they've gained their birth weight back... At one week old my DD had gained her birth weight plus some and was sleeping 6 hours ( which the doctor said was great and to enjoy) and now at 10 weeks old she sleeps 8-10 hours at night and is perfectly healthy and thriving, and I know I'm not putting her in any medical danger by doing so because the doctor said it was fine and was just in awe that she does sleep that much

    If you read my second comment, my son was hospitalized for not waking him to feed during his first week. And I don't think I was clear, she said the baby slept 5-6 in the hospital (before regaining birthweight) which isn't medically sound.
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  • klaG101klaG101 member
    As long as the baby has re-gained birth weight it's ok and it does happen from day 1. We can all dream right?!?!? Don't let anyone talk down to you just because your baby isn't sleeping thru the night or isn't acting to their idea of normal. You will find what works best for you and your baby! Best of luck ❤️
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