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What is it with men and dirt???

louiseambroselouiseambrose member
edited July 2015 in August 2015 Moms
I swear my DH just does not see dirt or clutter or things that need to be done around the house. If I ask, he'll do things without grumbling (laundry, tidying, etc.) but ONLY if I ask, and usually he doesn't do the "right" way (he INSISTS on putting huge loads of laundry in the dryer, bigger than can ever get adequately dry, then puts it on high heat to compensate... I've lost so many good sweaters that way!). I just swiffered and vacuumed the whole downstairs of our condo because it was filthy, and he seemed totally perplexed as to why I would do such a thing. There's a piece of trim that fell off our window last week, and he saw it fall, propped it up in the corner, and there it sits. I know if I try to fix it he'll "yell" me for getting up in a chair (he wants me to be careful, which I appreciate) but unless I ask him to fix it, it'll sit there for months. Years. Sigh. He's otherwise really very perfect, but would it kill him to take some cleaning initiative?? (Apparently it would
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  • prpl11butterflyprpl11butterfly member
    I think DH feels this way about me....even before pregnancy. I hate housework. He keeps telling me to be a sahm, but then I'd actually have to clean :-S
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  • johannaspisakjohannaspisak member
    edited July 2015
    Mine is the same way (minus the not grumbling). Problem with mine is that he notices everyone else's mess/clutter except his own. We just moved in to this place on June 1st, abs he's still got boxes of his crap sprawled in a corner of the living room. I can walk into the house after he's gotten home, and trace his path of open cupboards, cereal bowls and cheese wrappers through the house. It's like stalking a wild animal.
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  • mariafordonmariafordon member
    My SO is completely oblivious to the dirt he brings home and it's starting to drive me nuts. He would be perfectly content living with a coating of dirt on every surface. He actually asked me why I was washing the sheets the other day "um because we slept on them for a week..."

    I'm starting to remind myself of my dad(who gets super annoyed with any little mess) and it's freaking me out.
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  • sjra1028sjra1028 member
    This sounds like my husband and kids! They think that putting things in "organized" piles is cleaning. But god forbid my husband catch me out of breath from mopping.
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  • Joie80Joie80 member
    Sounds exactly like mine. He's perfectly happy to complete tasks when I tell him, but I so wish he'd just take the initiative and do what needs to be done. I just don't think it bothers him like it bothers me. He's seems totally oblivious to clutter, dirt, and everything else.
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  • dkizz82dkizz82 member
    I swear most men are this way. Mine will complain because things are in the floor but won't do a damn thing to get it up. And his laundry just lands wherever it lands. In my first trimester I was so sick and I jut couldn't clean. The toilet was so nasty it made me sick to look at it. He didn't care if it was dirty or not. Sigh.....

    We have renters in his condo and he was complaining because the bathroom was dirty. Yall should of seen it when he lived there by himself.

    Anyway, He will do what I ask but really I don't want to have to ask either.
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  • dkizz82dkizz82 member
    then puts it on high heat to compensate... I've lost so many good sweaters that way!).

    Why the high heat???? I just don't get it? We've been married almost 2 years and he still asks what setting to Put our washer/dryer on and if he's home alone it's hot. And he won't use a fabric sheet either and everything is tight and has static!

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  • Ambermom043Ambermom043 member
    My husband tries to help where he can. One time, he surprised me with cleaning the whole house!:O......... Long story short, I was finding random crap in all the drawers, and stuff crammed in weird places for WEEKS where he had "put stuff away." He's a mess.. :P
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  • cosplaymomcosplaymom member
    My husband is better at picking things up, I'm better at the cleaning of dirt. Our house is usually a mess but we binge clean whenever we host a party.
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