@jennaymg13 - I don't understand how it makes a difference. I get a gift whenever my friends have babies and none of them have ever had a baby shower. Most of my friends don't bring anything home besides the necessities until after the baby is born.
In my country all baby girls get their ears pierced at the Hospital. My genius dad went bananas and prevented me and my sister from being "punctured" when newborns.
In my opinion: worst choice ever. As a girl I wanted earrings so bad but I didnt have the guts to pierce until 10. Again: worst choice ever. Massive pain that could've been avoided by being pierced as a babuly.
And my sister got it 1000 times worst. One ear wouldn't pierce and the nurse kept on pushing. Super trauma. Both her earring wholes closed 2 weeks later but 10 yrs later she still hates earrings and nurses.
My advice based on a painful personal experience: Do it at the Hospital while newborns. If they dont want to wear earrings the wholes close after some time.
@Fixie23 I don't care if people pierce their baby's ears or not, but I just want you to understand it's not "massive pain that can be avoided". Babies feel pain just like any other human. They just can't vocalize it.
My mom pierced mine when I was a baby and since babies eats aren't done growing (obviously) it's very common for the hole to widen. My left ear is to the point that I no longer wear earrings because I'm afraid my ear lobe is going to split. So there's that...
@l4rk We are painting our walls a muted blue. They have to be painted before the new carpet goes in and I decided blue. I got a bit of a side eye at first, but I plan on blue and coral if a girl or blue and gray if a boy.
It's a color. A pretty color -.-!
This is exactly what I had planned. We had the room painted blue a couple of months before we found out I was pregnant. I planned to add coral if it was a girl. We had a boy and I was looking forward to the blue and coral room! Now we have blue, white and grey.
Do people dislike second showers because they have to buy a gift? That's what it sounds like to me?
Nope, not at all. I gladly buy a gift for each baby after they're born if it's a close friend or family member. But a second (or third, or fourth) shower is just tacky! It is basically seen as a gift grab. It is poor etiquette. You are supposed to have your necessities at your shower, therefore you should not need another one. It is not about not wanting to buy a gift. If I was offered a second shower, I would definitely refuse. It is unnecessary.
Regarding ear piercing, I had my ears pierced when I was in grade 8 because I wanted them pierced and my parents felt I was old enough to keep them clean. I had it done at a reputable place, i don't remember it hurting just a quick pinch, and I never had an infection. I also never felt super left out for not having earrings when I was younger.
So far as blue for a girls room, or just a girls colour in general: it has always been my favourite colour and when my room got repainted when I was a kid (previously was yellow for babies room) I had my parents paint it dark blue and put up a border of whales so it was kind of an ocean themed room. As a teenager I repainted it myself to a sky blue.
@Rakastajatar For the most part I agree with you. I've done quite a bit of volunteer work with an animal rescue as a foster home and it is sad why some people give up their animals. People need to think about the commitment they are making when they get an animal, because it is a part of the family. Unfortunately some people don't. Often they didn't realize how much time tit takes for the pet to be properly cared for (exercise, training, socialization, etc) resulting in behavioural issues, or maybe they adopted a pet with behavioural issues they weren't properly prepared to cope with. Even with fostering there were some dogs that my husband and I couldn't deal with that needed to go to different foster homes. And there are pets that are great pets that still aren't good with small children. We have a Labrador retriever mix and I'm thankful that he loves children and is even really good with toddlers and babies, but even he will be supervised when around small children and especially babies. If I had a dog that I thought would be a safety hazard even with close supervision I would rehome the animal. There are many dog breeds that generally are great family dogs which is important to me, and maintaining training and socialization is also important to me, but unfortunately some people don't put much forethought into getting a pet and really aren't willing to put in the time required.
The whole "we are pregnant" thing REALLY gets on my nerves. DH and I went through fertility treatments and even though WE both had to work to be expecting - I am pregnant. Although I once heard someone say "We ovulated" and I had to be a jerk and ask how that was possible!
My u/o is something I finally understand. It has always bothered me when I tell someone I am pregnant and they say "Congratulations!" I was never really sure why, but today I figured out that I feel like I am being praised for having unprotected sex...
My UO is that everyone cares wayyy too much about other peoples choices. live and let live people ! Who cares about number of baby showers , if you don't want to go then don't go. And yes gender is the number one topic of conversation, get over it !!! Would you rather have people ask the pregnant lady if you finally got to poop or how chapped and sore your nipples are ? Just saying ....
My u/o is something I finally understand. It has always bothered me when I tell someone I am pregnant and they say "Congratulations!" I was never really sure why, but today I figured out that I feel like I am being praised for having unprotected sex...
I think it's common courtesy to say congrats because babies are blessings.... Usually people are excited to welcome a baby to the family.
I have an U/O today...........women that say "I get along better with boys" or "I can hang with the boys". For whatever reason I feel like that's a self-serving statement to prove how "cool" they are or how "down to earth" and not "catty" they are....meanwhile, I have found that the women who DO say that.......are mean and scary and catty!!!!! Sorry, I read some stupid article about Leonardo DiCaprio's beautiful/perfect/amazing/model/actress/golf pro girlfriend....and she was a self professed french-fry eating, hang with the boys, grew up in Greenwich, CT with her own golf course, kinda gal. UGH HORMONES.
I have an U/O today...........women that say "I get along better with boys" or "I can hang with the boys". For whatever reason I feel like that's a self-serving statement to prove how "cool" they are or how "down to earth" and not "catty" they are....meanwhile, I have found that the women who DO say that.......are mean and scary and catty!!!!! Sorry, I read some stupid article about Leonardo DiCaprio's beautiful/perfect/amazing/model/actress/golf pro girlfriend....and she was a self professed french-fry eating, hang with the boys, grew up in Greenwich, CT with her own golf course, kinda gal. UGH HORMONES.
TOTALLY AGREE!!! I mean, there's a reason those girls have to hang out with the guys...no girls wanna hang out with them lol
@amargaret24 ok I have to admit I was one of these girls. I have finally found a group of girls that I am close with. Growing up, it wasn't about being harder than the other girls but I wasn't into the same things. I didn't wear makeup, care about going to clubs, overly crush over guys. I didn't wear heels and like things that were typically feminine. Maybe it was just the girls around me. I did have girl friends but I just felt more comfortable hanging out with my guy friends. I also was super friendly and girls were way more put off by another friendly girl than guys were. But I definitely was never catty, mean or scary, a lot of girls I knew however were. There was always less drama with the boys and that's what I liked. As I got older and other people did too, my relationships have changed. Growing up, I was just a tomboy and other than wearing makeup and maxi dresses every now and then, nothing has really changed. I joked about it just the other day saying that I am a pretty sad excuse for a girl!
I have an U/O today...........women that say "I get along better with boys" or "I can hang with the boys". For whatever reason I feel like that's a self-serving statement to prove how "cool" they are or how "down to earth" and not "catty" they are....meanwhile, I have found that the women who DO say that.......are mean and scary and catty!!!!! Sorry, I read some stupid article about Leonardo DiCaprio's beautiful/perfect/amazing/model/actress/golf pro girlfriend....and she was a self professed french-fry eating, hang with the boys, grew up in Greenwich, CT with her own golf course, kinda gal. UGH HORMONES.
TOTALLY AGREE!!! I mean, there's a reason those girls have to hang out with the guys...no girls wanna hang out with them lol
"no girls wanna hang out with them" Well that sounds pretty catty
My UO is pretty much everyone else when they refer to the baby as if it's theirs (mainly family members) I know they are excited and being no.4 baby I understand. But a.don't share my pregnancy news without my permission and b. Its not your pregnancy it's mine and only hubby and I get to go through it. But I'm totally cool with you being excited around me just don't like you having little celebrations and sharing parties without me - seems wrong! (I know this makes me seem like a cow)
I have an U/O today...........women that say "I get along better with boys" or "I can hang with the boys". For whatever reason I feel like that's a self-serving statement to prove how "cool" they are or how "down to earth" and not "catty" they are....meanwhile, I have found that the women who DO say that.......are mean and scary and catty!!!!! Sorry, I read some stupid article about Leonardo DiCaprio's beautiful/perfect/amazing/model/actress/golf pro girlfriend....and she was a self professed french-fry eating, hang with the boys, grew up in Greenwich, CT with her own golf course, kinda gal. UGH HORMONES.
TOTALLY AGREE!!! I mean, there's a reason those girls have to hang out with the guys...no girls wanna hang out with them lol
"no girls wanna hang out with them" Well that sounds pretty catty
Ok let me clarify. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Hopefully this explains what I mean a little better. I'm not talking about girls like pp above who had legit reasons (generally feeling more comfortable and relatable to the boys at that time in their life) but about girls who say what op of this uo said, that they don't hang out with other girls cuz they're "catty" or "mean". In my experience, girls who claim that are themselves those things and have a hard time finding girl friends and hang out with boys for that reason.
@ChipMonster as pp said, it's a specific type of girl. I didn't go into a ton of detail just more of a basic, non-descriptive rant.
I was also a huge tomboy growing up. I surfed competitively and barely any girls were involved throughout. Still to this day I find I'm better at conversating with guys because I have similar interests and mannerisms. Also, although I love makeup and dressing well, that is pretty much as girly as I get when it comes to that.
What I meant to say is that there is a type of girl (she isn't usually a tom boy) who claims she has more guy friends than girl friends. But, when hanging out, she is mean and catty.
If this still comes off as offensive or confusing, then I'm sorry. Today was a tough pregnancy day, I cried 3 times.
I mean I know it's not Thursday but I just need to air my U/O. I DO NOT want a baby shower. It is our first baby and, yes, I know we will need things. I do not feel that we should be obligated to have a baby shower. I do not like big productions or being the center of attention. That is the main reason we had a small wedding with less than 30 guests. I have repeatedly stated to others that I do not want one. Yet, I'm still hearing, "Oh! You have to have one! It will be fun! People will want to buy you things! You will need so many things!" No. No. No.
Oh, and just one more U/O while I'm at it... people getting upset with us for waiting too long to tell them about the pregnancy. I'm 14w and we just told my husband's family this weekend. Someone actually said, "And you waited this long to tell us?" And they were actually mad about it. WHAT?! Are you real??? It's OUR baby.
I know I am going to get a lot of flack for this, but my SO mother wanted to throw a shower for my SO, I was all for it, he could have his guy friends and open up all the presents and I could be the one to make a list of people to send thank you cards too. Unfortunately, I misunderstood her. She wants people to bring SO MANCAVE presents and bring "baby presets on the side". My SO and I come second now, so having basically a birthday party for my SO is ridiculous to me.
Re: U/O Thursday!
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My mom pierced mine when I was a baby and since babies eats aren't done growing (obviously) it's very common for the hole to widen. My left ear is to the point that I no longer wear earrings because I'm afraid my ear lobe is going to split. So there's that...
Well that sounds pretty catty
Hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings!
I was also a huge tomboy growing up. I surfed competitively and barely any girls were involved throughout. Still to this day I find I'm better at conversating with guys because I have similar interests and mannerisms. Also, although I love makeup and dressing well, that is pretty much as girly as I get when it comes to that.
What I meant to say is that there is a type of girl (she isn't usually a tom boy) who claims she has more guy friends than girl friends. But, when hanging out, she is mean and catty.
If this still comes off as offensive or confusing, then I'm sorry. Today was a tough pregnancy day, I cried 3 times.
Oh, and just one more U/O while I'm at it... people getting upset with us for waiting too long to tell them about the pregnancy. I'm 14w and we just told my husband's family this weekend. Someone actually said, "And you waited this long to tell us?" And they were actually mad about it. WHAT?! Are you real??? It's OUR baby.
Sheesh...