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agwodkeagwodke member
in November 2015 Moms
Hey guys...I am 5 weeks 3 days. I don't have my first appointment with my OB nurse until April 2nd and first sonogram April 7th. I see on many forums that people waiting until they have a sonogram to tell parents. But my hubby and I are planning to tell our parents tomorrow because I have a medical questionnaire to fill out before my first appointment. It would be weird to not tell and then ask my mom so many questions about her history. Does anyone else tell their parents earlier??? (This is my first)
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  • gumby22cgumby22c member
    We told both ours already. Our situation is slightly different, we struggled with infertility and our parents were huge support for us throughout that journey. We went though IVF, which is how we got pregnant, and they knew we were doing IVF. So we told them last week after we got our second strong beta back. Partly because we were so excited we wanted to tell someone, but also because we knew they would be wondering how our cycle ended up and didn't feel it was fair to make them wait til our 7 week u/s.
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  • babywood15babywood15 member
    I always wonder how I would feel if my daughter were in this situation. I understand not telling people until later.... But parents are parents. They are there for support either way. I say share the news with the people who are supportive and can handle the good and bad
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  • agwodkeagwodke member
    Gotcha. Yes...this is our first and my parents have been dropping hints for a grandchild like crazy. I know they will be super happy and I am busting at the seams to tell them. Others can wait.
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  • emurray86emurray86 member
    I'm 5w2d and my husband and I just told both sets of parents tonight! Both are so excited and I'm so impatient I just couldn't wait. My first doc appt is monday and I will probably hold off a little longer telling the rest of our family members.
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  • lanaloulittlelanaloulittle member
    We told our parents a few days after we found out. At this point, if something negative were to happen, they would find out anyways to be our support system. You can still make it fun and exciting without having a picture of baby. :) 
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  • Browneyes451Browneyes451 member
    I am also 5w3d today and have already told my mom. She's a huge support. Especially since I've already been on such a roller coaster ride. We plan on telling my husband's parents tomorrow. Parents are important and I think they should and deserve to know early. They are great support!
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  • amh0411712amh0411712 member
    We've told my MIL, she also knows a out our MC in 2013. I have not told my mom, and I don't know when I will.

    My mom, while she is my mom, turns things around to where she is a victim, so no I won't tell her until I know if it's viable. I don't need to deal with her in the event if something goes wrong.
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  • Browneyes451Browneyes451 member
    That makes sense amh0411712. I think everyone is different. This decision is very opinion based. You have to do what you feel is right for you.
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  • Kanne0729Kanne0729 member
    edited March 2015
    I have always told my parents right away. This time so far I have only told my mom and she asked if it was alright if she could tell my step father. I was planning on telling my dad, my husbands parents, and our siblings and sil's at the end of this month. Everyone has a differing opinion on when is the right time to tell other people, so if you're comfortable telling your parents now then go for it, there is no right or wrong when to tell.
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  • agwodkeagwodke member
    Thanks all!! We are going to tel both sets of parents today! I know they will be thrilled.
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  • dinec82dinec82 member
    I told my parents right away! I'd want them to know if something went wrong anyway, that's how I look at it.
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  • LaLaLaurie06LaLaLaurie06 member
    We are going to tell our parents first and then wait until after the first trimester to tell everyone else. My question is, do we tell them in person? I don't live in the same state (or geographical area) as my parents, and we are going to see them on vacation in August, but I'm like busting to tell them now! I want to mail them something fun that I'm going to make to announce my pregnancy, and then talk to them over the phone, but I also don't want that to seem "not special" or something. What do you guys think? In person or over the phone ASAP? I'm thinking they would just be excited to find out no matter how it happens because they've been waiting for a grandchild for awhile. lol
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  • jscasherjscasher member
    Pontot31 said:

    LaLaLaurie06 said:

    We are going to tell our parents first and then wait until after the first trimester to tell everyone else. My question is, do we tell them in person? I don't live in the same state (or geographical area) as my parents, and we are going to see them on vacation in August, but I'm like busting to tell them now! I want to mail them something fun that I'm going to make to announce my pregnancy, and then talk to them over the phone, but I also don't want that to seem "not special" or something. What do you guys think? In person or over the phone ASAP? I'm thinking they would just be excited to find out no matter how it happens because they've been waiting for a grandchild for awhile. lol

    You're on the wrong board. This is for women due in November.
    My thoughts exactly!
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  • jasbaby2jasbaby2 member
    I'm guessing she did a search and this popped up.  it can appear like you are searching the board you are on when its really the entire site.  It could be easy to miss.

    op - you probably do want to discuss this on the february or march board?  We waited to tell our parents until we were in the 2nd trimester. 13 weeks.   
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  • japostolovajapostolova member
    I waited to tell my parents until after 12 weeks both times. I talk to them regularly but they live 1500 miles away so it's easy enough to keep it to myself in the beginning. My job still doesn't now and I'll be 22 weeks Friday. I'm to tell them after I get my promotion later this month bc I don't want my pregnancy to affect that ( nor should it but some people still discriminate). Everyone's situation is different, just think about what would make your life easier
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