Checking in annoyance?

icanteven · July 2015

38.3 weeks. It seems like every day a member of the family is texting me, "How you feeling?" "Anything new?' "What'd the doctor say?". I can't decide if i'm touched or annoyed by the concern lol. Sometimes it seems really nice to have the support, but other times I want to scream "NO BABY YET! NOTHING NEW IS HAPPENING!" I guess it's annoying to have to confirm over and over that no, I'm not feeling any more contractions and not anymore dilated than last dr. appt. Anyone else getting the constant check in? Is it sweet or annoying to you?

BAYOUWIFE · July 2015

Annoying, but I try to hide it from them because I know they have good intentions.

babydoll1008 · July 2015

I should be touched by the gesture and that they are thinking of me but I am also annoyed beyond measure. This is why I have been a hermit for the last week. We usually go to church every Sunday but I am skipping tomorrow because the constant inquiries make me want to punch someone... And I feel bad for feeling like that in church haha.

And seriously, the people who do inquire are usually going to be the first ones to know if there is a change. I want to say, "I'm not keeping secrets, people! NOTHING HAS CHANGED!!!! LEAVE ME ALONE!"

So yeah, the struggle is real!

cris01215 · July 2015

I know they mean well, but I'm with you all. The check ins are about to drive me insane. It doesn't help that I'm particularly moody, on edge and just over being pregnant today.

mnj05 · July 2015

I'm with you. My due date was yesterday so everyone is freaking out even more and I'm about ready to turn my dang phone off. I know they mean well but come on people, I'll let you know when it's time!

ChelcLynn123 · July 2015

Gah! I'm with you. Every time I call my mom (which is usually about 3x a day) she answers asking if I'm in labor. I was getting so annoyed I had to ask her to please not bring it up again and that when I go into labor, she will know.

ktabs · July 2015

A simple response to those pesky texts

Leahauc · July 2015

I'm the same way, I feel like I should appreciate the concern but it drives me crazy. Esp from family. Like obviously if something happens, we'll let you know. We aren't on some covert "have a secret baby" mission or anything.

mnj05 · July 2015

DH has been wanting to post a picture to FB of our first son and saying something like "G arrived!" and watch all the texts roll in. As funny as it could be....I don't want those too.

ashleytiff · July 2015

YEAH HI! Seriously, when something happens, I'll let you know. Quit bugging!

leelee1112 · July 2015

Same here, except it's friends and my husband's coworkers. So weird!

Ckorines · July 2015

Wait till baby gets here...see the check ins you get. My advice: get used to it. Copy and paste a generic reply because it's going to get more intense.

juliekay25 · July 2015

Ah yes! Its so annoying. Today it got to the point of me having 8 missed calls and tons of texts wondering I'd I was OK. I just didn't have my phone on me. I'm not the type of person to have my phone on me unlesscim expecting a call. My phone annoys me and I like not having it. I think they expect me to give them the play by play while I'm in labor. Their in for a rude awakening when they find out I prob won't even tell them when I go into lobor and I'm turning my phone off during it. Ha! Secret payback for them bugging me so much.

MthPrncs · July 2015

told my husband a few days ago I was going to get a t shirt made:

1) yes, I'm still pregnant.
2) yes, I'm having contractions. I'm probably having one right now.
3) I'll try to have her to suit your schedule.
4) Please don't ask about the state of my cervix. It's none of your business; and
5) actually, no, I'm never going to have this baby. We've decided that she's much easier to keep track of this way.

)

shakirahb · July 2015

THIS!

I'm 38+5 today. It's getting to be very annoying. I find myself ignoring the calls and that's when they want to continue calling bc they "think" I'm already in labor. I know they are just checking in but it gets frustrating after awhile presenting the same news that nothing is happening! It hurts enough that baby is moving on his own time and shows no signs of leaving my body anytime soon. ~X(

MEXARAB · July 2015

I guess I'm lucky. No one asks me how I'm doing. Lol

hankhunter · July 2015

I love the check in from friends and family, it's the work inquiries that drive me crazy! I don't want to think about work for a long while...

dominican22 · July 2015

What ticks me off is that everybody wants to know when baby is coming like I have a magic ball do they want to look up my hoo has and ask him themselves or if they have the info I'd like to know as well I'm the one uncomfortable and feeling these contractions everyday hoping it's the day them asking me isn't helping any

mbilbrey00 · July 2015

I would go weeks without talking to my mom and was totally ok with it. Now she is calling me EVERY DAY! Then there are the family members that I only spoke to a couple times a year that think they need to call weekly. Next add on the people at work that I have never talked to that now seem to ask me and want to know my business. I am beyond annoyed, but I know I should appreciate their concern.

VToman · July 2015

Oh my goodness, yes! Everyone keeps asking me how I'm feeling, if anything has changed, etc. So frustrating!! I know they are asking cause they care, but seriously.... obviously, I'm still pregnant, if anything had changed, I would be in the hospital, and how the hell do you think I feel when I'm 9 months pregnant in the summertime? Of course, I don't actually say these things, 'cause I know they mean well, and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Just really annoyed....

NewMumzy25 · July 2015

I'm okay with the family asking, and my man always teasing saying "GIVE me my babyyyy!" Yeah well not for lack of trying. I'm overdue as of today I was due yesterday and little man is enjoying my womb too much apparently. What I don't like is Hubby's dudes at work who aren't even friends telling him to change my mind to get the epidural and saying what no baby yet!? Well shit I was k ly due yesterday and I'm a FTM so the chances of me going past my due date are better.

It's more the fact that they aren't friends and don't really talk to him but now that he has a kid on the way they all say how I should give birth. It's my body and he supports my aux natural decision so leave it be. I'm well aware I'm still pregnant and its gonna hurt. But the family check ins I appreciate even though they know we will tell them when We're on our way to the hospital.

amollieo · July 2015

I couldn't agree more with everyone, it's driving me crazy! When people text and ask how feeling I just respond "pregnant!"

mrsrep123 · July 2015

@amollieo hilarious!!!

lgobad · July 2015

Well at least people care enough to call and ask how u feeling. No one checks on me anx if someone does im so excited to talk about it. So appreciate the people u have. Alot of us has no one

Bugs1718 · July 2015

I think it depends on my mood because sometimes it doesn't bother me and other times, it makes me crazy. We were at a family BBQ last night and I got real tired of answering the "how are you feeling" question. I'm hot, I'm tired, I'm ready to hold my little girl and would rather not be here, how's that for an answer? I agree that most people's intentions are good but when my FIL asks how dilated and effaced I am, we've crossed a line.

megmansell · July 2015

Can't handle it! Definitely annoyed. So tired of getting advice. So tired of people trying to talk me out of natural birth... None of their damn business. So tired of unsolicited advice and people calling to see if I'm still pregnant. Love what PP said about a secret baby. That is seriously how people act!

astout2009 · July 2015

Luckily I didn't get a huge outpouring of inquiries until about a week before my July 3 due date. It's July 5 now and no baby! I'm so impatient...I'm a FTM and I know first babies are usually late, but I thought I was in a good spot. I was already 3 cm dilated, was walking a lot, experiencing a lot of crampiness, pelvic pressure, etc. and I had my membranes swept. And nothing...I'm so ready for this baby to be born! And my body seems pretty ready...but apparently he's not ready yet haha.

p_and_a · July 2015

Just send all concerned parties the following link:

https://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

mrsreidarson · July 2015

This is so me right now!!!! I know everyone is excited cause it's the first grand baby for our parents but it drives me insane. Like hello I would tell you if I was in labor dorks. The other part that really pisses me off is them telling me when it's convenient for me to have the baby...I'll be on vacation then, traveling for work, etc. Excuse me?! I have no control over this child lol she will come when she wants!!

estcas27 · July 2015

It has gotten annoying, if something changes I will let you know. I know they mean well but come on....

shanasheppard · July 2015

I just don't appreciate those that are asking who haven't cared an ounce until they thinks it's time for them to be at the hospital & stick their nose in my business...those people don't get much info from me lol