Does uncontrollable crying cause MC?

gsaund1017 · July 2015

hello, I am a FTM and this may be a stupid question but I don't care. Earlier tonight my dog snapped at a family member which is very unusual. My husband got very upset and posted her on these sites for sale, despite my begging him not to. She's not even a year yet and I don't think she ment to in a mean way. Anyways I got very upset, crying to the point of hyperventilating for about an hour or so. Eventually he agreed to keep her but it was still very upsetting. I'm 7 weeks pregnant and I know stress like that can cause a miscarriage. Is it likely that me getting that upset could cause that to happen to me?

oxfordlanding · July 2015

No. You'll be fine.

oxfordlanding · July 2015

Way to keep the dog though :-)

notasycophant · July 2015

To answer your question-NO, crying should not cause a miscarriage.
As an animal lover I feel sad for your dog. It needs a family willing to train it, not ditch it at the first sight of a snap. Maybe you should consider selling it to a good family as it seems your husband calls the shots.

Sprinkles07 · July 2015

@notasycophant I can not believe you just said that! I get your love for animals but how about saying something constructive like suggesting a good site or video on how to train your dog. Obviously she loves her dog and her husband overreacted.

OP sorry you had to go through that. I bet YouTube has some helpful videos on ways to train your dog. I know our vet always told us when we got puppies to play with their ears and what not to get them used to it. This helps the vet with exams and the pet with kids. We did it with our first dog and not the second. When ds who is now two got interested in the dogs he would be trying to hug and kiss them. Obviously we were trying to train ds on how to be gentle but that takes some time. The dog we trained didn't mind at all and the other dog hated it! She would run away and growl. Eventually we had to give that dog to my mom. It's been great because she recently lost a couple pets to age and we still get to see her!

notasycophant · July 2015

I'm allowed to have an opinion. She cried hysterically for an hour and "eventually he agreed" to keep the dog ? If you put a dog for SALE immediately after it UNUSUALLY snaps at a person , you're not fit to be a dog owner.

It shows a lack of patience & understanding.
Sorry if you're offended but my opinion remains unchanged.

bredoll · July 2015

One stressful situation will not cause a miscarriage. Honestly very little you do yourself will cause a miscarriage. They are mostly caused by abnormalities in the development and your body recognizing the baby won't survive.

As for your dog and husband, I would look into getting a trainer for you and the dog. We took our half husky/half wolf to classes when we first got him since neither of us have trained a dog with his possible personality traits (he turned out to be the biggest baby ever) but we wanted to know how to handle him in case he got out of control. Little kids run up to him from behind, grab him, pull on him and all he does is turns around to lick their faces.

I'm guessing your husband freaked out because he thought seeing the dog snap at a family member means he would snap at the baby and hurt the baby and it was a knee-jerk reaction. I would try to talk to him now that the situation is over and everyone is calm what he was thinking/feeling.

kkoloj · July 2015

I wonder if because the dog can sense that you're pregnant, it's a bit more protective of the house and your family. Also we don't know the circumstances around the snap, did your guest have food in their hand, how old they were, etc. I know my husband loves our dog but when she makes mistakes he takes it very personally as a representation of him. Example the dog pees on the floor. I would take PPs advice and take some classes with your dog. Good luck in the future.

camusoh2011 · July 2015

notasycophant said:

To answer your question-NO, crying should not cause a miscarriage. As an animal lover I feel sad for your dog. It needs a family willing to train it, not ditch it at the first sight of a snap. Maybe you should consider selling it to a good family as it seems your husband calls the shots.

Very rude! She's not asking for advice on the dog that she was clearly willing to keep and train. I'm sure her husband got nervous and had a knee jerk reaction. Next time if you can't figure out something helpful to say maybe you should just keep moving!

MamaFroFro · July 2015

I'm sorry about the whole situation. Glad to hear you all are giving the dog a chance. I think most people believe dogs are just born good or bad. They don't realize the amount of training that goes into having a good dog. I brought home a Newfie mix last year and have put countless hours into training him. He is now a certified therapy dog. People always tell me he is such a good dog and I'm lucky. Um no, not much luck was involved, we worked hard at this! People also tend to think dogs think like people and that is just absolutely not true! Dogs think like dogs and when training one you have to remember that. I would recommend you get this dog in some training classes, get him out and socialized, and really stay on top of things before baby comes. If you can't do training, get some good books and use youtube. Good luck!

Bracecurran · July 2015

Jumping down someone's throat for giving an honest and blunt opinion is just hypocritical ladies. When you post online, you open yourself up to positive and negative opinions.
Your husband seems like a jerk. Your pregnant and you had to cry to the point of hysteria to make a point to keep your dog? There are so many things wrong with this whole post. Do you really want to have a kid with a guy who clearly is controlling and makes you beg and cry to keep something you love? It's a partnership not a dictatorship.
It sounds like the dog would be better off in a new home. If we got rid of our pets every time they snapped or did something wrong, we wouldn't have pets. They are animals and will act like animals when they feel threatened. Educate yourself on proper pet care and behavior.

minivanmafia · July 2015

Bracecurran said:

Jumping down someone's throat for giving an honest and blunt opinion is just hypocritical ladies. When you post online, you open yourself up to positive and negative opinions. Your husband seems like a jerk. Your pregnant and you had to cry to the point of hysteria to make a point to keep your dog? There are so many things wrong with this whole post. Do you really want to have a kid with a guy who clearly is controlling and makes you beg and cry to keep something you love? It's a partnership not a dictatorship. It sounds like the dog would be better off in a new home. If we got rid of our pets every time they snapped or did something wrong, we wouldn't have pets. They are animals and will act like animals when they feel threatened. Educate yourself on proper pet care and behavior.

I understand everyone is allowed their opinion but this wasn't very nice and very judgmental, as is the other previous post. Everyone makes mistakes and blows up at things that aren't the end of the world. To make comments to the OP and make her possibly second guess her relationship if she's feel vulnerable is not a nice thing to say. We should lift each other up, not tear each other down for no reason. Just my "opinion".

DylansCandyBar · July 2015

::::Lurking:::: Stress does not cause miscarriage. Women in war torn countries give birth every day.

Also, train your dog. And your H.

Bracecurran · July 2015

While my comment was brutal and honest it wasn't mean or judgemental. Everything she posted is tell tale examples of an emotional abuser. She should reconsider her relationship.
Comments excusing his behavior is why so many women feel like they can't leave. "I upset him", "the dog made him to do", "I shouldn't have talked back". No man should make his partner cry to hysteria! Where's the compassion for the mom to be's and baby's well being?

gsaund1017 · July 2015

First and foremost I would like to say that my husband is far from a mean, abusive, cold man. He is very loving and has a kind heart. He just got caught up in the heat of the moment. As many of us do. He did not want to get rid of her because we are bad owners or because we can't care for a dog, he did it because he was worried about the safety of those in the home as many of you stated. Being pregnant heightens all of your emotions as we all know and I may have reacted a little extreme. I was sad at the thought of losing my dog but emotions got the best of me. She is less than a year old and still has a lot of learning to do, which she is already in classes. She will only get better from here

thank you all for your constructive criticism and advice. I appreciate it!

minivanmafia · July 2015

Bracecurran said:
While my comment was brutal and honest it wasn't mean or judgemental. Everything she posted is tell tale examples of an emotional abuser. She should reconsider her relationship.
Comments excusing his behavior is why so many women feel like they can't leave. "I upset him", "the dog made him to do", "I shouldn't have talked back". No man should make his partner cry to hysteria! Where's the compassion for the mom to be's and baby's well being?

I disagree with that first sentence.

camusoh2011 · July 2015

I have to laugh a little that some people are saying you shouldn't get rid of your dog for one unusual snip, yet you should reconsider your choice in the father of your child and husband because of one overreaction. Seem a little strange to anyone else? OP you go girl! You're being much more level headed about it that I would be. It's not even my post and I'm extremely upset for you!

AmadorRose · July 2015

Bracecurran said:
While my comment was brutal and honest it wasn't mean or judgemental. Everything she posted is tell tale examples of an emotional abuser. She should reconsider her relationship.
Comments excusing his behavior is why so many women feel like they can't leave. "I upset him", "the dog made him to do", "I shouldn't have talked back". No man should make his partner cry to hysteria! Where's the compassion for the mom to be's and baby's well being?

Having been in an abusive relationship, I agree with your above comments; however, the angle from which you approached this is less than helpful. Even if she truly is in an abusive relationship, attacking her and the father of her child will only drive her to defend him. Who the hell would take the advice of a total stranger - very possibly some kind of troll - to leave her husband over a disagreement over a DOG? I'm an animal lover, but I wouldn't leave DH over disagreeing over a dog. If he beat me or my children yes, but protecting his future child from a (possibly) aggressive animal seems like a pretty loving, paternal thing to do.

minivanmafia · July 2015

camusoh2011 said:
I have to laugh a little that some people are saying you shouldn't get rid of your dog for one unusual snip, yet you should reconsider your choice in the father of your child and husband because of one overreaction. Seem a little strange to anyone else? OP you go girl! You're being much more level headed about it that I would be. It's not even my post and I'm extremely upset for you!

Damn I didn't even catch that. Nice.

inomniaparatus · July 2015

Sorry but you're husband sounds like a jerk and I'm mad for you. Who is he to decide something like that? Shouldn't it be a joint discussion/decision?? Or is he the "man of the house" ?? Makes me sick for you.

Bracecurran · July 2015

TheBeggsBunch said:

Bracecurran said:
While my comment was brutal and honest it wasn't mean or judgemental. Everything she posted is tell tale examples of an emotional abuser. She should reconsider her relationship.
Comments excusing his behavior is why so many women feel like they can't leave. "I upset him", "the dog made him to do", "I shouldn't have talked back". No man should make his partner cry to hysteria! Where's the compassion for the mom to be's and baby's well being?
I disagree with that first sentence.

My phone auto corrected from "brutally honest" to brutal and honest.

It's always nice when women try to be grammar and definition police (aka trolls) when you don't agree with the particular point of view. I'm not going to be bullied into changing MY opinion. This whole post is alarming.
I truly wish the OP the best of luck and hope that her hubby gains some compassion.

minivanmafia · July 2015

We will just have to agree to disagree.

shupertj09 · July 2015

I can appreciate your concern, but having had two MCs, these kinds of questions are like nails on a chalk board for me. There are women on this board having bleeding, Babies with low heart rates, etc....lots of scary shit. Google could have easily answered this question. I hope all continues to go well with you pregnancy. Sorry you were stressed.

oxfordlanding · July 2015

Good grief. Someone asks for advice on a pregnancy board about mc worries and you take the opportunity to have a go at her, tell her She is a terrible dog owner and should leave her husband. OP ignore the lot of them. You, your husband, and the dog will all be fine.

oxfordlanding · July 2015

Incidentally I spent a fair chuck of yesterday crying and had a totally sleepless night because of floor tile. Expect I should give up on the whole thing and go and live in a tent. ;-)

AmadorRose · July 2015

oxfordlanding said:
Incidentally I spent a fair chuck of yesterday crying and had a totally sleepless night because of floor tile. Expect I should give up on the whole thing and go and live in a tent. ;-)

And leave DH if he disagrees with you on style or color

VitaLuna · July 2015

Add me to team side eye that your H didn't consult with you and only agreed to reconsider after you cried hysterically over it. He was acting like a butt, and it's disturbing to me that all these people are defending him and acting like it's NBD.

And no, crying won't make you m/c.

RRC216 · July 2015

Ladies, the conversation is way out of hand. She simply asked if she's at risk, not input or how you feel on her relationship with her husband. To answer your question like few have... No you can't miscarry! You are fine my dear!

VitaLuna · July 2015

CicchettiFamily said:
Ladies, the conversation is way out of hand. She simply asked if she's at risk, not input or how you feel on her relationship with her husband. To answer your question like few have... No you can't miscarry! You are fine my dear!

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Way out of hand? You must be new here...

ETA: off topic? Sure. But "way out of hand"? Hardly.

RRC216 · July 2015

Oh gee... Yes clearly because I have an opinion means I'm new!! Does it show that much! Oh gee golly!! Out of hand saying she's in a verbally abusive relationship. No one knows her personal life. So they should keep those thoughts and opinions to themselves!

notasycophant · July 2015

camusoh2011 said:

notasycophant said:

To answer your question-NO, crying should not cause a miscarriage.
As an animal lover I feel sad for your dog. It needs a family willing to train it, not ditch it at the first sight of a snap. Maybe you should consider selling it to a good family as it seems your husband calls the shots.

Very rude! She's not asking for advice on the dog that she was clearly willing to keep and train. I'm sure her husband got nervous and had a knee jerk reaction. Next time if you can't figure out something helpful to say maybe you should just keep moving!

Please learn how the internet works.

Bracecurran · July 2015

CicchettiFamily said:
Oh gee... Yes clearly because I have an opinion means I'm new!! Does it show that much! Oh gee golly!! Out of hand saying she's in a verbally abusive relationship. No one knows her personal life. So they should keep those thoughts and opinions to themselves!

I love how you completely took what I said "emotional abuser" and manipulated it into your own idea of a "verbally abusive relationship". Learn to read or don't comment. I for one don't appreciate you putting words in my mouth.
I took a good deal of psych classes during my college years of getting my degree in Human Resources. I don't know what education you have but the described circumstance of the OP is emotionally abusive. It's her life and again I wish her the very best but please DO learn to read and comprehend properly!
Thanks

notasycophant · July 2015

@Bracecurran , I found this post disturbing as well. I'm shocked that some called his response a " knee jerk reaction". I found it deliberate. To put the dog up for sale on a bunch of sites while your pregnant wife is hysterical is just not right . I also agree with a PP regarding this being insensitive to those who've had mc's. Ignore the members that can't handle differing opinions. They obviously haven't figured out how forums work.

VitaLuna · July 2015

CicchettiFamily said:
Oh gee... Yes clearly because I have an opinion means I'm new!! Does it show that much! Oh gee golly!! Out of hand saying she's in a verbally abusive relationship. No one knows her personal life. So they should keep those thoughts and opinions to themselves!

Ah yes, let's all live in a world where no one stands up for what's right and everyone turns a blind eye to someone being treated like crap just because "you don't know her life". Eff that.

And I say you must be new because you thought this thread was so "out of hand". Honey, this is MILD compared to some stuff you'll see here. You might want to save your white knighting for later.

moomee · July 2015

@shupertj09 Ugh. Yes.

C3Duffy · July 2015

Oh my, how I have missed TB.

bbax44 · July 2015

shupertj09 said:
I can appreciate your concern, but having had two MCs, these kinds of questions are like nails on a chalk board for me. There are women on this board having bleeding, Babies with low heart rates, etc....lots of scary shit. Google could have easily answered this question. I hope all continues to go well with you pregnancy. Sorry you were stressed.

This!! I've had 2 mc also and when i first read this i was like really.. but i wasn't going to say anything at all and just mmob. Nails on a chalk board was a good way to describe it.

Miss Lilac · July 2015

Train your dog, yes. He/she deserves it. But also understand things that dogs do not like (and shouldn't be expected to!) so that when you have your baby you don't end up putting the dog in any unfair situations. You can set everyone up for success and safety by keeping your baby and dog mostly separate, at least to start with.

Your dog shouldn't have to tolerate ear grabbing, hugs/kisses/cuddles from a young child who does not yet know their strength or have their balance. Kids "riding" or laying on the family dog isn't cute, it's a recipe for freaking disaster and it's almost always the dog that pays. More often than not, it's the child that needs training not the dog. And as someone who used to train dogs I've seen, all too often, perfectly friendly family dogs rehomed or euthanized because parents have some ridiculous expectation that their living, breathing animal act as some sort of saintly jungle gym for little Johnny.

camusoh2011 · July 2015

notasycophant said:

notasycophant said:

To answer your question-NO, crying should not cause a miscarriage. As an animal lover I feel sad for your dog. It needs a family willing to train it, not ditch it at the first sight of a snap. Maybe you should consider selling it to a good family as it seems your husband calls the shots.

Very rude! She's not asking for advice on the dog that she was clearly willing to keep and train. I'm sure her husband got nervous and had a knee jerk reaction. Next time if you can't figure out something helpful to say maybe you should just keep moving!
Please learn how the internet works.

I understand how the internet works. Just because you can post something rude without real consequences doesn't mean it's right or appropriate so I will say again, if you can't be helpful to someone who is already worried about stress in her life just move on.

wisco29 · July 2015

TheBeggsBunch said:

camusoh2011 said:
I have to laugh a little that some people are saying you shouldn't get rid of your dog for one unusual snip, yet you should reconsider your choice in the father of your child and husband because of one overreaction. Seem a little strange to anyone else? OP you go girl! You're being much more level headed about it that I would be. It's not even my post and I'm extremely upset for you!
Damn I didn't even catch that. Nice.

The whole thing is ridiculous. Animal abuse, getting rid of or really anything pet related doesn't go over well on Tb except maybe a fur baby Friday post.
There is always drama- people find out they are pregnant then get rid of their pets. It's stupid BUT it's just going to happen over and over here. Those people should just get over themselves now and realize they are going to get flamed

oxfordlanding · July 2015

AmadorRose said:

Incidentally I spent a fair chuck of yesterday crying and had a totally sleepless night because of floor tile. Expect I should give up on the whole thing and go and live in a tent. ;-)
And leave DH if he disagrees with you on style or color

ROFL!

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