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Self conscious

jodi1008jodi1008 member
in May 2015 Moms
I've never loved my body. I've always been one to be fine with how I look with clothes on and get past it but never liked myself undressed or in a swim suit of any kind, especially not a bikini. Now after having 2 kids it's much worse than before from getting stretch marks, loose skin, and some extra weight from this last pregnancy. I want so badly to embrace myself but I don't think I ever will. I have never worn a bikini once and it's pretty depressing seeing many women looking great and I'm the one in the pool with shirts and shorts on or not in the water at all. Before this pregnancy, I was actively exercising and lost as much as my body is going to and I still was not satisfied so I'm pretty discouraged. Anyone else? Sorry for the sad rant but it crosses my mind each day when I see my clothes I can't fit in anymore.. And then I'm like wow even when I fit in those I wasnt happy... So look at me now :/
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  • lola2beelola2bee member
    I could have written your post. My husband just had a "chat" with me about hiding in the house. I feel I'm getting a bit depressed and discouraged. I read somewhere though it's better to do something than nothing so I'm forcing myself to log my food. Hopefully I can work up to some small changes to my diet. But at the end of the day I'm not sure if it will make a difference. Ugh!
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  • MrsElizabethPlanoMrsElizabethPlano member
    I've had low self esteem since I was 9. A year after my first baby I did something about it. I was very fit, abs and all...but once I became pregnant again i stopped working out, gained 40lbs, loads of saggy skin and stretch marks. I'm very unhappy with the way I look and my husband skirts the subject when I mention the change. He doesn't want to hurt my feelings but obviously he preferred the fit woman I was. I don't fit into anything but lounge clothes and I'm trying to eat healthy and log my calories. It's just very discouraging when I limit myself to 1200 cals and weigh more the next day. I got myself to workout twice and at this point it just doesn't feel worth it. I need more sleep, relaxation, and toddler playtime before i need to spend time working out. Using myfitnesspal and hoping to start doing some BeachBody videos.
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  • jodi1008jodi1008 member
    My husband changes the subject too, he doesn't like to talk about it since he tells me loves what he sees but I don't love what I see
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  • DrD30DrD30 member
    I don't have a perfect body by any means but was previously in a bikini. After my twins I have loose skin and crazy stretch marks. I am self conscious about my body.

    My husband told me that I need to be easy on myself and now that I have a daughter treat myself and speak about myself the way I want her to. I don't want her to be self conscious or miss out on things so I need to model that behaviour. This helped put it into perspective.

    I bought a nice swimsuit (one piece) and some flattering clothes. With time I'm feeling much better about myself.
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  • jrecinejrecine member
    edited June 2015
    Since I am a younger mom, (20) im struggling also with my body image. My fiancé claims he loves my body the way it is, and my stretch marks are a sign that I carried life inside of me.
    However, it is hard for me when most girls my age are in the peak of their perfect bodies. I was feeling really down on myself the past few weeks

    After I got my hair done I felt much much better about myself! If you're feeling low treat yourself to some sort of pampering that will relax you and make you feel better :)
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  • saric83saric83 member
    Time to pack up those clothes you don't fit into and get them out of your daily view!  If I had to see mine every day, I would be so depressed.  

    And if you have the money to splurge a bit, get yourself a hot kick-ass one-piece swimsuit and a great cover-up (maybe something with lots of fabric but mainly sheer?)  It's amazing how good you can feel when you feel all tucked in and somewhat covered but not matronly.  

    Whenever I'm not feeling so hot right now, I pull on a lovely pair of Spanx and a flowy dress.  It covers all of the extra chub and boosts me right up.  And then I'm right back to yoga pants and t-shirts the next day :), but at least it does the trick for those crappier days. 
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  • TBsquaredTBsquared member
    Put away all the unflattering too small
    Clothes and go buy some that fit. I didn't want to spend money on clothes as I'm planning to loose weight but i felt like a whale trying to squeeze into my old clothes so I caved and bought some cheap clothes from h&m. Wow I feel 100% better Now that I have clothes that fit and are flattering. And people keep telling me I look great. Def worth the $100 I spent.

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  • jodi1008jodi1008 member
    @TBsquared I'm in the process of doing the same thing. I went and got myself a couple of things in a larger size and it makes the world of difference. I notice I looked even bigger trying to button my old jeans on me and with the larger size I look much more flattering. I was having a hard time spending the money on the new clothes but I think I need to
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  • mistyjewel88mistyjewel88 member
    Ladies be thankful that you do not have what I have. Not only am I miserable because I have to wear maternity clothes still but I am also in constant pain. My husband says he still loves my body too but no way! I look disgusting. He said I'm no longer the same person though and he said he will find a way to pay for my hernia/ diastasis recti surgery which is also is a tummy tuck
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