May 2015 Moms

Depressed

I'm beyond depressed... I love being with my son every day but being single and taking care of a baby day in and day out is really getting to me... Baby daddy and I are trying to work things out (we're doing great) but he wants to wait to be back together... Everything is weighing hard on me... He's able to do whatever he wants, sleep all night long, go drink with friends all damn night and here I am.... Lonely because I have no friends and no one to talk to... Why can't Cohen talk already?! Lol...

Re: Depressed

  • I'm sorry you are feeling sad. Just know that everything you are doing and giving up is worth it. It may feel ridiculously hard, lonely and overwhelming now but you aren't alone and it will get easier. That little one is lucky to have you.
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  • mars8kmars8k member
    Try to make friends, are there any support groups where you can meet people around you? If not then just get out of the house you have no idea what effect that has on you! I sometimes get very depressed i almost fear it's ppd then i force myself to go out and i'm a lot happier my baby even sleeps a little earlier when we've been out.

    Sorry to say this but even if your baby daddy comes home he'll still have more life that you do if you know what i mean. My Husband is out and about everyday and is upset when i tell him to stay home on a weekend and hardly ever wakes up at night, men who take up half the responsibility of a baby are very very rare from what i see around
  • I couldn't imagine doing this alone! You are brave and amazing! Things will get better! Don't compare your life to his, your a momma and that's a connection he will never be able to have.
  • uta10uta10 member
    Look for a MOMS group in your area! It stands for moms offering moms support and from what I have seen and heard from friends there are groups all over the nation and they are pretty active. They have activities for moms and babies of all ages. You will meet others that are in the same boat and get a support network...and make friends for both you and your little one! With more social interactions and talking to others who have been there I bet it will make you feel better.

    Also, stroller walking is a great idea as the fresh air lifts your mood as does the exercise. I've found I feel better when I get out walking, my little one loves it, and the baby sleeps better at night too!!

    Good luck!
  • Dang your baby daddy is selfish, I would be so pissed. You are doing great! I can't imagine going through this all alone, if I didn't get a few hours break after hubby get home from work everyday I will go crazy! Do you have family that could help? Even a few hours away to the grocery store makes you feel much better. Good luck, I hope you feel better soon.
  • I know the feeling. Even though DS and I live with my family, I'm doing most of the heavy lifting alone. I'm sometimes resentful of his choice not to be involved, but I talk to my little guy like he can answer me back, and know that I'm getting precious time that BD is too stupid to want!

    Try taking walks or joining a support group in your area. Getting fresh air always helps me. If that doesn't do the trick, I'm always available to lend an ear if you need! Stay strong!
  • Agree with pp, I'm not single but with DH's work schedule it feels like it sometimes. Before ds2 I found a MOPS group and it has been amazing for me. It stands for mothers of preschoolers but there are at of moms with babies. We meet twice a month and I look forward to it every time. I've found a great group of friends through this group and we do playdates on the side! It is so much better getting out and meeting people who are going through the same things and can offer advice and support and laughs. Look into it or something similar, it's so worth it!
  • Thank you all for your kind words and your support! I'll definitely be looking for a group of some sort today!
  • I don't have ppd but I was very depressed for more than half of my pregnancy. Try getting out, w or w/out your baby, you'll feel way better. Going for a walk helped me. You have a special relationship the dad will never have bc you're spending so much time w your baby now
  • I don't have ppd but I was very depressed for more than half of my pregnancy. Try getting out, w or w/out your baby, you'll feel way better. Going for a walk helped me. You have a special relationship the dad will never have bc you're spending so much time w your baby now
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