Not sure if we should tell our family yet

Dgariepy · July 2015

I am 6 weeks along with our second baby. Just had an ultrasound as we thought based on dates I was about 8 weeks along, however ultrasound and blood work confirmed only 6 weeks. We have known now for a number of weeks and are really wanting to share our news with family. But now that I'm technically only 6 weeks along I feel torn that maybe we shouldn't . We had our plan all ready to share today and now I'm getting cold feet that maybe it's too early.

Everything with ultrasound and baby looks good, heartbeat was strong and I didn't have any complications with my first pregnancy. I feel like if something happened with this one I would want support from my family anyway.

Oh what to do, what to do? Have to decide soon as we are going to my moms this afternoon!!

wisco29 · July 2015

It's completely up to you and your so. Some people share right away and some wait for 12 + weeks.

Reasons I wait: we shared at 8 weeks then found out there was no hb and then had to tell hundreds (literally because h's extended family is huge!!)
If I were to have a mc this time I would tell everyone after BUT I won't have people expecting updates from me, wouldn't be required to share the news immediately giving us time to deal on our own etc

Reasons you could share: support through every step of the way... Good or bad news.

techytexmom · July 2015

I am planning on telling my mom and sister in 1 week, by which time I'll be 7 weeks. The extended family, however, will have to wait until I am 10-12 weeks just because I will have all the support I need from my immediate family if something goes wrong and wouldn't want the sad faces from everyone else. So, it is really up to you! You mentioned wanting support from your family if something happened, so based on that, I say go ahead and spill the beans.

kayjay44 · July 2015

Then don't... If you're not comfortable, then don't. It's your news to share.

RachelR17 · July 2015

We shared with my parents and sister and my husbands parents and sister at about 6 weeks, but we plan to tell the rest of our family after our US this Tuesday. I will be 10 weeks and we will tell everyone at about 11-12 weeks!

but it's a very personally decision that you and your SO should decide on.

AmadorRose · July 2015

Do what you feel comfortable with. I told my parents at 6 weeks, but only because I wanted to tell them in person and may not see them again until after baby is here. I figured that if anything did happen, I would want their support without having to explain that I didn't feel I was far enough along to tell them I was KU in the first place. Everyone has different comfort levels and everyone's families are different.

Kiek · July 2015

We told my mom around 6 weeks. And waited to tell everyone else until just a couple days ago when I got to 8 weeks and I was pretty confident this baby would be a sticky one. My last pregnancy ended in mc and if it was to happen again I'd want to be able to talk to my mom. She had one with her third baby and she was the only family member that knew exactly what I was going through so that was such a huge comfort to me. So that's why she was told early on. Just do what you're comfortable with

we did what we were comfortable with and I feel really good about how it went down this time

Erinka · July 2015

We told the family at 8 wks after we had a normal us and strong FHR.

marissajc · July 2015

I told my mom and my sister pretty early for the reasons you mentioned... My in laws would not be able to provide the same support for me as my own family would. I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow and I still don't want to tell the rest of our families until I feel more confident! Luckily my husband has been patiently waiting with me.

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