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What's your best advice for FTMs?

blovemamablovemama member
in August 2015 Moms
I thought it'd be fun to get a discussion going about general advice you STMs might have for us first timers. It can be anything from advice for dealing with an unexpected c-section to how to stay sane on no sleep. Whatever advice you share with the women in your real life about this major milestone is fair game for this discussion. I'm looking forward to reading some pearls of wisdom!

(If there's already a thread on this, let me know and I'll delete. The search function from my phone is not great!)
Together since '07
Married since '12
Off the pill since 5/14
BFP: 8/10/14 -- CP 8/22/14
BFP: 12/10/15 -- Prayers requested

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  • Miz_LizMiz_Liz member
    There are similar threads, but none for awhile so who knows, you may get new advice. My advice that I have posted on the others that I am sticking with is put the baby down AWAKE. If you start rocking the baby to sleep every single time or holding them until they fall asleep every single time, you will create a monster and it is a VERY hard habit to break! Also, give them lots of new foods to try on a regular basis once you introduce solids and such - don't just stick with the things that they like. I have a very fussy toddler when it comes to food and dinner time is a nightmare in our house because of it. This girl will eat all sorts of stuff!!
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  • kedbachkedbach member
    I'm a FTM, but per advice of pretty much every momma I know- sleep when the baby sleeps, no questions asked!
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  • CaliforniaDream87CaliforniaDream87 member
    kedbach said:

    I'm a FTM, but per advice of pretty much every momma I know- sleep when the baby sleeps, no questions asked!

    lol. Not laughing at you @kedbach this is much harder than I had expected. This didn't work for me AT ALL. Hope it works for you though :)
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  • CaliforniaDream87CaliforniaDream87 member
    You will doubt yourself. Being sleep deprived and your hormones raging-it may feel like your life is out of control. Just remember, this too shall pass and one day you'll barely remember these moments. It goes by so fast so even when times are hard, enjoy it as much as you can.
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  • Miz_LizMiz_Liz member
    CaliforniaDream87 said:
    You will doubt yourself. Being sleep deprived and your hormones raging-it may feel like your life is out of control. Just remember, this too shall pass and one day you'll barely remember these moments. It goes by so fast so even when times are hard, enjoy it as much as you can.

    Sooo true! I call the first week "survival week" because that is the ultimate goal - just survive it! And you will!
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  • hclzmm14hclzmm14 member
    If you feel like you need help, ask for it. Whether it's that you're so tired and you need your husband to take over duty for an hour, or if you need twenty minutes to eat, or if the baby won't stop crying and you just need to walk away for a bit. We try to be super moms right out of the gate, and its important for your bonding that you try to stay sane and don't overwhelm yourself too much. You're going to have bad days, period. There were days I begged my husband to leave work early. Most days are awesome and all rainbows and sunshine, but like I said, if you have people who can help you and you need it, always ask.

    Another thing, is you may get to a point where you must mourn the woman you were to be the mom you are. Be real with your feelings. It's okay to be unsure about all your life changes. Hopefully you have someone who will listen to you vent without judgment when you need it.

    All the other stuff will come naturally in time. You'll do great!
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  • LEGALLYblonde86LEGALLYblonde86 member
    Trust your instincts. You have them for a reason. Dont let other mothers make you feel like you dont know what your doing or their advice is better.

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  • laurena612laurena612 member
    Don't google everything! When DS was a baby I used to google everything, why was he spitting up a lot? Why was he crying for an hour straight? Why was his poop green? And every time I was told by Dr google it must be life threatening and I needed to see a doctor ASAP. Not the case! You will always scare yourself by searching on google for a diagnosis when 9 times out of 10 your baby is just being a baby! It's hard to think logically when your sleep deprived and hormonal! The worry doesn't go away but you learn to handle it better the older they get.
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