Frustrated Rant About OB

sadyy131 · July 2015

I get a call from my OB office that my next appointment needs to be moved because my doctor had to take an unexpected leave. She is the only doctor in the practice so they want me to see her fill in instead for my next appointment. After prying for a good ten minutes, I finally got them to admit that she will be leaving the practice and she will not be here in November when I deliver. I'm so upset that they wouldn't just say this from the start of the call. I really loved her and now I have no idea what to do. I've spent the day trying to find doctors in my plan but I'm having a hard time because I'm not sure if I feel comfortable with a male doctor.

wedding crazed · July 2015

That sucks to have to deal with. I have a male OB though and love him. I was hesitant at first too as all my gyno's had been female. However, his rave reviews from friends had me give him a host and I am glad I did. But, this is my 4th pregnancy and he's retiring in t he middle of it so I picked another OB, whom is also male. I google stalked all the OB's at the office I go to and picked the one with the best reviews. So, you may give a male a shot, but in the end go with someone you are comfortable with.

megandchase · July 2015

I wouldn't be happy that they didn't tell me she was leaving for good. Have you met her fill in? You still have time to find someone new. Good luck!

CarrieOct15 · July 2015

That must be so stressful! I'm sorry.

100% of the ladies I've chatted with that have had male OBs have loved them. I would go to the appt with the fill in, and you can always look elsewhere if he really makes you uncomfortable.

Good luck!

ash413 · July 2015

That is frustrating, you could try the new doctor and if you don't like him make an appointment with another practice.

jessilee15 · July 2015

I would give the new one a shot before you drive yourself crazy searching for a replacement. I actually switched from a female to male OB last time; gender was never really a factor, though I thought it would be

MoRay05 · July 2015

I have a male OB and love him! Ive been seeing him for several years now. I was unsure of having a male as well but once I met him I loved him! Give the other doctors a chance. You might like one even better than your old doctor.

lfriedla · July 2015

Did you find out where your old OB is going? Perhaps you can follow her to her next location...if she accepts your insurance. I have a male OB and honestly, as long as the doctor is competent, gender shouldn't really matter.

modanz1 · July 2015

My OB left the practice just a few weeks ago and I didn't know until the end of my appointment with her. I was not happy either, but I think they do that to prevent all the patients from freaking out and leaving. My practice is all female doctors, so I stayed with them. But I am with you, I would not be comfortable with a male (mainly for annual appointments going forward), so I would probably have switched had they passed me to a man.

jasbaby2 · July 2015

I'd give the new one a chance. I just found out today that my ob is pregnant and due a few weeks before me so I'm going to be seeing another ob in the practice who happens to be male. I have seen him before and it really doesn't bother me.

JLW0504 · July 2015

I've never had a female OB. I've had the same since my very first appointment when I was 21.(a little late in the game, I know).

Go with your gut. But for convenience factors, I'd go with the fill in for at least one appointment since most doctors have lengthy waiting periods, even if you're pregnant.

stacyw466 · July 2015

My first pregnancy I had a WONDERFUL midwife. One day I was at my appointment and the office was extremely crowded. Here the midwife was no longer there but they didn't tell anyone. When I went back for my appointment they told me I would be seeing the regular doctor for the office. I didn't like him at all. And after my appointment he was trying to induce me because my blood pressure was slightly high from my normal. I told him no way was that happening. Later that week my midwife called me from her home to tell me what was going on and that she wouldn't be back there. She was letting all her patients know since the office wasn't telling anyone. In the end I switched over to her new office for the last of my pregnancy. If you aren't comfortable do what you have to do. If I didn't move I would still use her.

RaisingJulian · July 2015

I couldn't imagine having to switch OB's. My OB is going on vacation so when I have my a/s she won't be the dr I talk to after and I am completely nervous about that. I saw her all through out my last pregnancy and she delivered my son so we have gotten really close. Plus unlike a lot of other doctors I don't feel judgement with her about my age. I understand why you would be nervous because we tend to get somewhat of a bond with these doctors. Specially when we see them all the time. I would see the fill in and look at some reviews of doctors. Male or female. I think of it this way. When you are delivering your baby it doesn't matter who your OB is the dr on call will deliver your baby (at least with the office I go to) and if he's male I don't think you'd just not want to deliver.

peachesnpearls · July 2015

This happens. I'm in a 6 person call group so it's crap shoot anyways! There is one crazy hippie md who won't give enemas and I will be praying she's not on call when I deliver.

Pontot31 · July 2015

peachesnpearls said:
This happens. I'm in a 6 person call group so it's crap shoot anyways! There is one crazy hippie md who won't give enemas and I will be praying she's not on call when I deliver.

Won't give enemas? As in you want one during labor? Why???
You know that's an old outdated practice right?

CupcakesRamazing · July 2015

peachesnpearls said:
This happens. I'm in a 6 person call group so it's crap shoot anyways! There is one crazy hippie md who won't give enemas and I will be praying she's not on call when I deliver.

Wait....you WANT to shit yourself and everywhere while in labor?

scw89 · July 2015

peachesnpearls said:
This happens. I'm in a 6 person call group so it's crap shoot anyways! There is one crazy hippie md who won't give enemas and I will be praying she's not on call when I deliver.

I sincerely hope you are mistaking the word "enemas" for "epidurals"

lyankowi · July 2015

I also love my male OB, I picked him from a friends recommendation. Go with who you are comfortable with and I also get to deliver with whoever is on call in the practice so if you want your OB to deliver your baby make sure you ask who actually does it.

BowWowBowie · July 2015

I've only had a male OB, and I absolutely adore him. He's the OB for all the women in my family, from my great-grandmother to my niece. There's rumors that he's going to retire here soon. However, due to going to him since I was 16, I've had the chance to know the other OB's in his office, granted they're women but I know them and they know me. I would give your OB's replacement a chance and if you don't like that person, do some research and find the next best one

ash413 · July 2015

peachesnpearls said:
This happens. I'm in a 6 person call group so it's crap shoot anyways! There is one crazy hippie md who won't give enemas and I will be praying she's not on call when I deliver.

peachesnpearls · July 2015

Nope nope. Enemas. Don't care if it's outdated. Been to too many deliveries that reek of poo. Pretty sure you can ask any L&D nurse

scw89 · July 2015

peachesnpearls said:
Nope nope. Enemas. Don't care if it's outdated. Been to too many deliveries that reek of poo. Pretty sure you can ask any L&D nurse

I don't know ANYONE who does that anymore! Interesting!

dmiller1213 · July 2015

My random rant about my OB is that yes, I understand it's a holiday weekend but do they really have to be closed at 9:05 AM on Friday morning when I called them? There's worried cranky pregnant women out here!

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And to chime in on this post instead of being an AW I've only ever head a male doctor. Totally not weird to me or anything. It's his job so it makes me feel more at ease. Not like he's some rando creep down there. I'd probably never be able to switch to a female.

CupcakesRamazing · July 2015

peachesnpearls said:
Nope nope. Enemas. Don't care if it's outdated. Been to too many deliveries that reek of poo. Pretty sure you can ask any L&D nurse

But you'll just reek of poop from the beginning then...

ash413 · July 2015

peachesnpearls said:
Nope nope. Enemas. Don't care if it's outdated. Been to too many deliveries that reek of poo. Pretty sure you can ask any L&D nurse

What happens if you get this enema and then labor progresses quickly?!?!

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LetMePatYourHairLots · July 2015

This is weird. I had enough things going in and coming out of me during delivery, no thanks to an enema. It didn't smell like fecal matter at all, I can't even tell you if I pooped.

Anyway, back to the topic at hand. I have had a male OB my entire time seeing one and he is awesome. I was honestly a little bummed I ended up with one of the women doctors when I delivered because he had his recertification the next day, but she did an awesome job as well. He took absolutely amazing care of me when I had PPA and has always made me feel comfortable. At the end of the day you know your own comfort level, but as long as you find a professional, you will be fine either way. Good luck.

Pontot31 · July 2015

peachesnpearls said:
Nope nope. Enemas. Don't care if it's outdated. Been to too many deliveries that reek of poo. Pretty sure you can ask any L&D nurse

It happens. It's natural.
My body cleaned itself out in early labor, which is pretty common.
You're setting yourself up to be uncomfortable.

CupcakesRamazing · July 2015

Hell I pooped three times during labor and thought "heck yes, I can avoid my first post partum poop later"

Priorities.

kcannon7511 · July 2015

I see a lot of ladies commending their male OBs lol and i would definately commend mine as well being only 18 years old the thought of a male OB was weird from the geico but mine has been great and very attentative to all my concerns and questions!

I wouldnt stress out too much on that subject and give it a try if anything im sure you can get a different OB

sadyy131 · July 2015

Thanks ladies! I took your advice and found a great new OB and he is a guy. So glad I gave it a shot.

gvgauthi · July 2015

sadyy131 said:
Thanks ladies! I took your advice and found a great new OB and he is a guy. So glad I gave it a shot.

Glad you found an OB you like! I have had multiple different OBGYNs (history of abnormal PAPs, cervical CA and have moved a bunch) and to be honest every female OBGYN I had was "cold" and almost mean. I made the switch to male OBGYNs when I was 18 and would never have a female OBGYN again!!! I don't know why but they seem to be much more understanding and actually listened to what I had to say. Glad you gave the guys a shot!

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