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Just had the most negative experience with my doc!!!

nakoppelnakoppel member
edited July 2015 in August 2015 Moms
So this maybe more of a vent but I just had my worst appointment of the pregnancy! My doctors office is a group practice so you don't always see the same ob or midwife but I deff have my favorite OB and midwife. Well I decided this time to not make an appointment with one of my favored ones in case they aren't avalible when I go into labor. Well I've leanred my lesson! The doc I had today was so rude. First she really talked down to me I asked her about pernieal (sp?) massage simply because I read about it and was curious. She rolled her eyes at me and went 'um I don't do that...' Now maybe this is annoying but I always have my pad of paper with my questions I write down in between appointments. Granted I did have a lot this time but when I was right in the middle of one of my last questions she stands up and goes 'well let me get you your prescription, walks out of the room, comes back hands me the script says 'we'll see you in a few weeks' and leaves! She didn't measure my belly or anything. She just made me feel so dumb and like I was wasting her time. I'm trying not to let it ruin my day but boy did that suck
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  • breezymeema7breezymeema7 member
    That would frustrate me too. Perhaps she thought you were done? I hope you are able to deliver with the OB/midwife that you like.
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  • louiseambroselouiseambrose member
    Docs who don't listen are the WORST. I saw a different doc earlier this week and he hadn't even looked at my chart before I got there. Then when I was trying to describe my symptoms (another UTI), he just ignored me. He also only shook hands with my DH, not me. Thank goodness he isn't part of the practice where I'll deliver.
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  • kedbachkedbach member
    I would be so annoyed!! My practice is like this too, but they typically require/ request you make an appointment with all of the doctors in the event that you so deliver with someone other than your preferred. I definitely have my favorite it's and I'm praying she's on hospital rounds when I go into labor!! I'm so sorry you had such a bad experience!
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  • lifesabeach85lifesabeach85 member
    That's awful!! I would send an email to your usual OB just letting her know what happened and that it upset you. Your doc should treat you with courtesy and respect


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  • nakoppelnakoppel member
    Thanks for the kind words ladies! I just called to change my appointment for next time to the doc I do like! The nurse reminded me they all work as a team and I just said that the doctor I had today had a minor personality clash and I would just feel more comfortable with the other OB.
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  • dkizz82dkizz82 member
    I am so glad that I like all the OBs but one. I'm so afraid I'll get him for delivery. :(
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  • nakoppelnakoppel member
    dkizz82 said:
    I am so glad that I like all the OBs but one. I'm so afraid I'll get him for delivery. :(

    So far I've liked everyone except for this one woman today ugh my luck she'll be on call for delivery. Luckily I hear the nurses do most of the work at the hospital im delivering at.
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  • Shine2015Shine2015 member
    I have my favorite at my practice too. Out of 4 doctors, the 3rd on my list delivered my first. I was worried when I found out he was the one there all weekend. When it came right down to it, when it was time I really didn't care who was there as long as the baby was delivered. When making a recent appointment the only doc available was my least favorite and I said something to the office staff. They agreed that he had a different bedside manner and just reminded me to take it with a grain of salt and go back to my favorite for future visits. He will probably deliver this little one too with my luck but at least I know what to expect!
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  • nakoppelnakoppel member
    Shine2015 said:
    I have my favorite at my practice too. Out of 4 doctors, the 3rd on my list delivered my first. I was worried when I found out he was the one there all weekend. When it came right down to it, when it was time I really didn't care who was there as long as the baby was delivered. When making a recent appointment the only doc available was my least favorite and I said something to the office staff. They agreed that he had a different bedside manner and just reminded me to take it with a grain of salt and go back to my favorite for future visits. He will probably deliver this little one too with my luck but at least I know what to expect!

    You make a really good point about delivery. At the end of the day I'm sure even though our personalities clash she is a VERY competent doctor. I think just at my regular appointments of it can be helped I would rather not see her
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  • meandmrjones14meandmrjones14 member
    That sort of thing happened to me! I've been with the same office since I was 18, going in for yearly and birth control. This one doc I swear is on Anti depressants and hates his job, or at least me. Every time I go in he is short and vague.

    I went in Monday with slight Braxton Hicks with sorry tmi spotting old blood. They did all the usual U/S, baby HR and hooked me up to see if I was having real contractions. When all was said and done all he said was "your good to go, see you on Wednesday" ....so why am I feeling this way!? Go back on Wednesday and again all he says is I recommend no heavy lifting, vigorous activity and no sex....again...so what's going on? Again all he said was "the only way I can tell, is if you deliver the baby"

    I hope he isn't the one on call when I deliver, because I love the rest in the practice.
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  • hclzmm14hclzmm14 member
    The good thing about the OB is they only come in to check on your progress a few times and to catch the baby when you're in your final pushes. The nurses pretty much do the rest of the work so if you like the nurses then you'll be just fine during delivery. I didn't know the OB who delivered my baby last time, and really it didn't matter much.
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  • nakoppelnakoppel member
    cllgarrison said:
    The good thing about the OB is they only come in to check on your progress a few times and to catch the baby when you're in your final pushes. The nurses pretty much do the rest of the work so if you like the nurses then you'll be just fine during delivery. I didn't know the OB who delivered my baby last time, and really it didn't matter much.

    That's good to know! Unfortunately, I had to go up to L&D once and all the nurses were SO AWESOME so now I feel better.
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  • Miz_LizMiz_Liz member
    cllgarrison said:
    The good thing about the OB is they only come in to check on your progress a few times and to catch the baby when you're in your final pushes. The nurses pretty much do the rest of the work so if you like the nurses then you'll be just fine during delivery. I didn't know the OB who delivered my baby last time, and really it didn't matter much.

    Yep! And by then I didn't give a rat's ass who it was as long as they got the baby OUT!
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  • schup156schup156 member
    There are 3 different OB's where I go and I have had all but 2 appointments with the same one.  I've worked with him before at the hospital, he's so caring, great with my toddler when she has to accompany appointments, and I just feel like we're always on the same page.  I'd love if he could deliver this baby, but I'm realistic that it most likely won't happen now (I've turned into high risk and will most likely have to deliver at a different facility).  My first time around, the doctor barely sat down in time to deliver baby and the majority of my interactions were with the nursing staff.  I think it's more important to feel comfortable with the doctor you see at your regular appointments, than making sure you see all the different providers because they may or may not deliver baby.
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  • candicejeff2013candicejeff2013 member
    I had to switch docs early on because I simply did NOT jive with my first one. I know they're busy but damn this is your job!!!!!! I would be totally honest with your concerns about the treatment you received. That is unacceptable.
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  • firsttimer823firsttimer823 member
    I had my first bad experience at my OB today too! The clinic I go to is staffed by mainly nurses and midwives, and I've seen a different midwife each of the five times I've been (to try and ensure I can at least recognize the lady who delivers me). All of the nurses and midwives have been friendly and super nice so far, but on my first visit the midwife asked me if I had any questions and I said no and she looked at me like I was sort of uneducated or something. So I started doing some reading. Now on this visit when the midwife asked if I had any questions, I asked her if I should draw up a birth plan and she said "honestly, it usually puts the nurses in a bad mood". And of course I've heard that that is the case, but I am not high maintenance! All mine would really say is: I plan to deliver vaginally with an epidural, I want my husband there at all times, no students in the delivery room, and I want to breastfeed. Personally, I just figured it would be easier because I've never seen the same midwife twice and so no one really knows my case, but she made me feel so silly! Obviously medical professionals know more than I do, but even if I did have a 30+ page birth plan, it is MY body and MY baby and MY right to try to have some control what happens to me and my child. Needless to say, it just rubbed me the wrong way.
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