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STM freak out

confuegosuzyconfuegosuzy member
in July 2015 Moms
My c-section is in 9 hours and I have been a mess all day. I'm talking panic attacks, anxiety, and ugly cries. I didn't do that with my first!

-My pregnancy was really disappointing. DH has been extremely absent and nothing has gone how I wanted (and these are things I could control).
-I know this is my last baby, and while I don't want more kids, I'm freaking out about my child bearing years being over.
-I HATE being away from DS for more than a few hours. DH works a lot and I'm a SAHM so the better part of the last 4 years has been just my little guy and me. I don't know how either of us will do with the change.
-I don't feel bonded with this baby. I'm sure part of that is coming from the negative feels that have permeated my pregnancy, though.

Anyone else just not excited to meet their LO and be done with their pregnancy?
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Re: STM freak out

  • ktabsktabs member
    Yikes lady! I think it's normal to be freaking out. Sorry things haven't gone your way but I think it's the hormones talking. Keep calm and make it through the day tomorrow and tell hubby to man up! I think once baby is here you will feel a bit more at ease and in control.

    Good luck!
    PAIF
    pregnant after round 2 of IVF. Transferred 2 embryos and (surprise!) was pregnant with triplets. Identicals passed at 8 and 10 weeks. Still have one healthy baby boy with EDD of July 30!


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  • rcsudsrcsuds member
    While my husband has been supportive and is obviously excited over baby, I don't feel so much excited as extremely terrified. Ftm, so it's a little different, but I'm worried about being a good mom, and about how attached I am (or not, currently). 36 weeks, and I feel depressed about not knowing how I really feel about having a baby.

    It's all normal, I guess, especially with the extra hormones. Be brave! Or fake it til you make it (that's my plan, anyway).
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  • bethanylynn456bethanylynn456 member
    Sorry you're having a tough time! I hate being away from my son too and was worried about how our relationship would change, luckily kids are super resilient, I'm sure he will this being a brother is awesome!
    That's sucks that DH isn't being supportive, wonder if he's getting anxious too? For me it's a control thing, I don't like not being in charge which you definitely aren't while in labor or at the hospital!
    Take some deep breaths and stay calm for your little ones, you know it will be worth it in the end. I hope you feel better!!!
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  • confuegosuzyconfuegosuzy member
    It's less about him not being supportive and more about him working crazy hours and then totally phoning it in at home. Getting him to do anything has turned me into this awful nasty bitch, or he's so tired and distracted that he doesn't realize how mean he gets or the nasty faces he pulls when I ask for help. It's been very isolating. I know he's excited, he just is physically and emotionally absent because he's got such a crappy job.

    I didn't sleep at all last night (which I'm sure I'll regret), we're on our way to the hospital now, and I cried when I snuck in to kiss DS goodbye and pray over him.

    In 3 hours my new baby will be here and hopefully I'll end up laughing about what a crazy person I was.

    Thanks for the encouragement, ladies!
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  • NumajawaraNumajawara member
    Congratulations!!! Hope all goes well and everything gets better!!!
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  • mamaklemondmamaklemond member
    Best of luck momma!! I'm soon to be a STM too (in 21 days we have our c section scheduled)...my LO is only 17 months. The last 2 days I have been crazy emotional. One minute I feel like I have zero patience and the next I'm covered in alligator tears. It's insane. I'm struggling with all kinds of thoughts on how adding a new baby will change the bonding between my 17 month old and I - he's crazy attached to me currently. Also can't help but think about how it will change the hubby and I's time together that we rarely seem to get now with one child. Ugh, it's all just so emotional!!!! I feel ya...but know in the end it will all work out. God gives us what we need (in His eyes) even if we can't see it clearly at the moment. Best of luck on your journey today!!! Many prayers and hugs.
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  • KAR8706KAR8706 member
    T&P for you and your LO, Hope all goes well and the stress/anxiety leaves so you can have a smooth birth!
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  • ktabsktabs member
    See you did it and already have a photo for us to go crazy over! He is a cutie! I hope you continue getting settled in :)
    PAIF
    pregnant after round 2 of IVF. Transferred 2 embryos and (surprise!) was pregnant with triplets. Identicals passed at 8 and 10 weeks. Still have one healthy baby boy with EDD of July 30!


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  • smccall3838smccall3838 member
    I can relate @confuegosuzy. DH and I are a fairly new blended family, and this is our first (and last) child together. I'm so used to things being just my DS and I. I can't picture this LO yet which makes me nervous. DH has been trying to connect with our baby by talking to her thru belly conversations. It's still awkward for me, but I'm hopeful.

    Your baby is handsome! Big handsome boy! Good luck, hun. Thoughts & prayers that all that love for baby boy will spark magic for y'all!
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