Adult Time!

mummabearoftwo · July 2015

For most of my pregnancy I've managed to have a good libido.

Now at 22 weeks I'm starting to feel bubs move, my libido has stuck around but I feel so strange if she were to move around in my belly while we were having "adult time"...

I've still got a bit of morning sickness, I still want to but I'm a big hesitant something sets me off during...

:-&

Who has kept up "adult time" & how often?

Ivyblue92 · July 2015

Ha "adult time" went out the window for me long ago. I've just not been in the mood so to say. I kind of feel sorry for my OH but he's been ok with it so far.

august111966 · July 2015

Oddly enough, work related stress and whatever else kind of put a strain on our sexual relationship a long time ago. However, since the random magical morning we conceived tiny human, things have really been looking up for us in that regard. I'm considering the idea that perhaps my husband has a pregnant chick fetish. We shall see. I have felt movement. We have done dirty things. Luckily these have yet to intertwine. But isn't it kind of just like doing it with your kid in the next room? Except the next room is your uterus?

thefithuntress · July 2015

Just remember baby has no idea what you're doing. It's the equivalent of you exercising or taking the stairs to them, just a little jostling. Have fun!

JLW0504 · July 2015

I've got the drive but, being on pelvic rest since week 10, I can do nothing about it.

kmkrushi · July 2015

Finally, I'm getting more in the mood now. It sometimes takes me a little longer to get really into it. But when I get there, it's freaking amazing!!!!!

scw89 · July 2015

Kept it up since found out I was pregnant. Same amount as before--even through morning sickness in first tri. That's because I feel like my libido has increased!

lakesideknitter · July 2015

We've stayed pretty consistent, with the exception of a few weeks in the first tri when I was super tired. I have to admit, I have felt movement during, and it did throw me off the first time it happened. I've gotten more used to it now. As PP's have said, just remind yourself that LO has no idea what's happening. I'm taking advantage of it while I can - who knows how I'll feel after LO arrives..
Edit - I suck at words.

rachswi · July 2015

The thing that sucks for me is that my libido isn't what it was before pregnancy whereas my husband will kiss/hug me and all of a sudden he's ready to go. It caused a pretty major fight a few weeks ago because I was so frustrated that he was so horny and I felt terrible that I couldn't respond because I just wasn't into it. We've gotten better and now we're having adult time most days (maybe 5 times/week), but that's because we actually started communicating about it instead of me just feeling like I should. Turns out, that's made adult time far more enjoyable.

On the other part of your question, I've definitely felt him move while we're in the act. It threw me the first time, but then I stopped worrying about it... If I flop down on the bed or make some sudden move be he reacts the same way, so it's not that big a deal for me.

CupcakesRamazing · July 2015

It makes me giggle when people can't say "have sex" on a pregnancy website.

rox7777 · July 2015

Eh, if you're really into it, it shouldn't distract you or even bother you. I've managed to have awesome sex for two pregnancies now with two very active babies. As long as my husband's doing it right, there's no distracting me. It's much harder to have sex with a toddler than while pregnant.

Motomama67 · July 2015

My poor hub. Lately it's been me laying on my side and tell him to hurry up...and don't even think about touching the boobs... Poor dude... Hope it gets better haha

rachswi · July 2015

CupcakesRamazing said:

It makes me giggle when people can't say "have sex" on a pregnancy website.

*gasp* don't you know that "having sex" was how we needed this pregnancy site in the first place?!?! We can't utter those dirty words.

helsbels222 · July 2015

:-O Who's "having sex?" I'm still a virgin!

urby87 · July 2015

I definitely haven't been having as much sex as I was prior to pregnancy, but it's gotten better in the second tri (my drive was still there in the first tri, but between the fatigue, nausea, and headaches, it wasn't happening very often).

mamavbs · July 2015

If you think about sex rationally, the only thing the baby will feel is rocking or jiggling or jumping depending on how adventurous you're being haha (you could argue it's relaxing for them during sex and the rocking may actually send them to sleep), and then when you orgasm they get a huge rush of blood and so feel a bit hyper (hence the crazy kicking after). They have no idea what's going on. I just don't think about the baby when I'm having sex, and that stops it from being weird. We probably have sex less than before but that could be because I'm falling asleep at 9pm

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lyankowi · July 2015

H moved out, I've been super horny since day one, still am but no sex.

dmiller1213 · July 2015

What is sex?

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sullyv23 · July 2015

I have recently gotten in the mood, but hubby wont even try to touch me since he saw our girl in the ultrasound. Before i was in no mood and he wanted it all the time. But since the u/s he feels like hes gonna poke our girl

selimunoz · July 2015

I feel like my Bf has it easy because I'm always up to having sex, whenever he wants it he gets it. My hormones are up at a high ! I'm at 22 weeks and still haven't really felt movement but the only thing that bothers me is when he plays with my boobs it can get sorta leaky and I just ignore it but he doesn't say anything and keeps it going :-\" (sorry if t.m.i)

Cook3133 · July 2015

dapoint23 · July 2015

My husband is loving the pregnant body and I have moments of horniness when I'm not constipated, we just need to get the 2 yr old out of our bed!

makeoutside7 · July 2015

I got my mojo back when the second trimester started (we didn't have any during the first because I was sick all the time and bled the two times we tried). Not a ton, like twice a week...nothing adventurous. I'm just trying to get it in before I get too big and uncomfortable for it. I say, go for it! It's the best destresser!

Unica1302+ · July 2015

My libido sadly took a dive- a big dive. I try at least twice a week but things feel very different down there(there's a thread on this topic else where). It takes much longer to get me going but the couple of times we have taken the time, its been great. No bleeding or cramping thank god. But the last time we did it (im 20 weeks now) I felt physically odd the rest of the day and honestly don't feel up to doing that again. He's been good about it and it's only 26 weeks to go (including the 6 weeks after delivery)...sigh. I miss a good sex life.

SoFlaMommie1128 · July 2015

sullyv23 said:
I have recently gotten in the mood, but hubby wont even try to touch me since he saw our girl in the ultrasound. Before i was in no mood and he wanted it all the time. But since the u/s he feels like hes gonna poke our girl

Tell him that it's impossible he could poke the baby!

Just found this from parents.com. It's referring to sex in the third tri specifically, but the same goes for the second tri:

"Your unborn child is nicely protected against jolts by your fluid-filled uterus, and there's no risk of infection because the mucus plug in your cervical canal blocks out unwanted organisms. There's also no possible way that your husband's penis can touch the baby. This doesn't mean that you should be swinging from the chandeliers -- heck, by this time, you may have trouble tying your shoes -- but you can certainly enjoy yourself."

Here's the full story: https://www.parents.com/pregnancy/my-life/sex-relationship/last-trimester-sex

==Mrs=Pagan=2015== · July 2015

The first couple of times we tried it after finding out I was pregnant, I bled a little, and told him about it before I found out that it was totally normal. That, combined with a general ick factor he feels about the baby being so close to us, has left our encounters few and far between! We do other things but it takes me a long time to get into it anyway. I guess we'll get it back eventually! No big worries so far!

mamax6 · July 2015

My DH wanted to always do it during my worst first trimester! Now I feel like trying to do something again and he has no interest in it. He says the thought of touching baby but he also doesn't like naked pregnant belly.

DrMommaDVM · July 2015

I can't believe all of the men who are put off by their wives' pregnant bodies. How sad! I feel super sexy in my 2nd trimester body and my husband loves it too.

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