February 2016 Moms

Homicidal rage... Side effect? Or really stupid boyfriend?!?

Today is Canada Day so we have a day off... I've been waiting all day for my boyfriend do we can hang or chat or anything... Hours later he tells me he's been doing crosswords all day...

Then when he finally pops up again, he asks me if he should do more...

I feel like taking a very blunt object and hitting him in the head... Is this normal, or am I being hormonal?

Re: Homicidal rage... Side effect? Or really stupid boyfriend?!?

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  • From the convo you posted, I didn't get the impression he knew you were waiting around for him... Did he know or are you mad that he didn't read your mind?
  • miritako said:
    Today is Canada Day so we have a day off... I've been waiting all day for my boyfriend do we can hang or chat or anything... Hours later he tells me he's been doing crosswords all day... Then when he finally pops up again, he asks me if he should do more... I feel like taking a very blunt object and hitting him in the head... Is this normal, or am I being hormonal?
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    He seems like he's being playful. But I have been annoyed the same way! I asked a waitress for a straw and she said no, then giggled. I wanted to rip her face off!!!

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  • Not that it's easy to do...I know I often wish DH would read my mind- but it looks like you just need to tell him you want him to take a break in he crosswords so the two of you can do something together. He probably saw a day off as a chance to relax (crosswords).

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  • Why didn't you just say, "drop the crosswords, let's go do something!"
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  • really stupid boyfriend, but then again, that's most guys when you want them to do something.  You have to think of something, but make it his idea.

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  • Looks like a massive communication break down to me. Communication problems are often two-sided...



  • Why didn't you make plans? Or ask him to do something?
  • I know I should have been explicit... But I guess I would like him to read my mind! Or at the very least I would like him to think, hey I have a day off this is s great opportunity to spend time with my pregnant girl... But that's not the case, and I do have a tendency to be passive aggressive. Which I admit is not ideal... I guess since I've been pregnant I'm even more sensitive to this. I feel like he should always want to be there, and am annoyed that he doesn't...
  • As a dirty lurker I'm going to be brutally honest right now, I promise that I don't mean for this to come of as spiteful. Ask yourself this question - would you want to spend time with you? The first tri sucks. Your body is getting flooded with new hormones, you just found out that you're growing a human, and you're probably nauseous at least 75% of the time. In the first tri, I didn't want to spend time with me let alone anyone else!

    Okay now that's out, for your own sanity for the next year at least make it your mission to just tell people what you want. It will save you a lot of annoyance with the world. I hate blaming hormones for anything, but you are slightly more sensitive now. If you chose to stick with the passive agressive route you will explode as a pregnant ball of fury by the middle of your second tri.
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  • I totally agree that complaining about aches and pains, and nausea is not the funnest thing to be around... But I am not that bad (I am on diclegis:), and this is an issue that I have had for a while, but I think pregnancy just put a magnifying lens on it.

    He is just a little different then me, and doesn't get involved much without me asking directly. Which is sort of frustrating to me, and now pregnant, making me a little rage-y... But you are right, I should just say what I want and not turn into a pregnant exploding ball of fury X(
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