February 2016 Moms
inomniaparatus
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Gender Reveal
inomniaparatus
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anyone here planning on doing one?
I'm thinking of doing a cake just for the family (parents, grand parents, aunts, uncles and first cousins and one best friend - about 25 of us)
People know it's not a gift giving event, right? I don't want to seem gift grabby doing a gender reveal then having a shower later on.
We have a really cool community room in my new apt. building with a terrace, kitchen, movie room, pool table, etc and it's all cute and hipster-like lol with reclaimed wood, funky seating and colorful antlers mounted on the wall and you can rent it for 200 dollars so was thinking of doing that in mid-September and maybe getting a cool cake from cake boss or empire in nyc.
I'm thinking of doing a cake just for the family (parents, grand parents, aunts, uncles and first cousins and one best friend - about 25 of us)
People know it's not a gift giving event, right? I don't want to seem gift grabby doing a gender reveal then having a shower later on.
We have a really cool community room in my new apt. building with a terrace, kitchen, movie room, pool table, etc and it's all cute and hipster-like lol with reclaimed wood, funky seating and colorful antlers mounted on the wall and you can rent it for 200 dollars so was thinking of doing that in mid-September and maybe getting a cool cake from cake boss or empire in nyc.
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Re: Gender Reveal
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
So it's who I consider to be my immediate family. We do Birthday cakes for everyone with just the same group so it'd be just another occasion with pizza and cake. I live in the city so I don't have a big house, I'll have to have them in them community room.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Edit because fat fingers hit save comment too soon
I'm insulting? Just relax! Geez! It's not the end of the world! Taking a little word so personally. You research sex reveal, and it immediately corrects you and calls it gender reveal. You look it up on pinterest, YouTube, and ppl are calling it gender reveal. So that's what I have always called it, and apparently most of the internet. Sorry I'm offending you, but what I call it should not bother you. yes gender and sex are two completely different things, but that's how most ppl research the topic is "gender reveal". Have a lovely day ladies!
I have never been to a reveal but I would feel weird just going without anything. Can you just wait and do them together or just not have a huge party, and just have maybe your parents? Our immediate family is about that many too so for baby 2 we are definitely not having a party
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
That's exactly why I'm not inviting friends - I don't think they'd care that much. But, my immediate family would be into it.
I guess my mom can casually spread the word that gifts aren't expected. It'd be the first time everyone would be seeing my apt so they may be more apt to bring something for the apartment although I hope they don't - I have no space lol
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
To respond the her question though, we won't be doing one. I wouldn't have a party for this particular reason, but if you happened to have family over for whatever, doing the sex reveal would be cool I guess. I don't live near family, so there's no point for me.
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
This. Saying it's ignorant isn't name calling, it's just fact.
I don't want to have a shower because I'll be a second time mom, but now that you wrote this I think that a party like this sounds like a great compromise.
Really, it seems to me, it's an excuse to celebrate you and your family, and there is nothing wrong with that.
With regards to the gifts, I think you should do what you feel works for you and your family. Are they big into etiquette? Then don't mention the gift thing and try to bill this more as a party. If you are a close, informal bunch, I don't think it would hurt to let everyone know that this is something you are doing for them and don't want anything in return.
As a side note, everyone sense of what one 'should' do differs. I was taught that you should NEVER go anywhere you were invited without bringing something for the host, even something small. So if I was invited, even if I knew you weren't fishing for gifts, I would bring something, because you went through all the trouble of providing a venue, food, drinks, and other entertainment for me.
Also, we did something similar in feel for our first child, only it was a meet and greet party when we traveled to Florida with the baby the first time (We live in CA now). We had already had our baby shower, and most of these people had shipped us gifts even though they couldn't attend. We were only going to be in Florida 9 days and wanted everyone to be able to meet the baby so we decided that throwing a party and having everyone come to us would be easiest. We sent out invitations, rented a public park pavilion and got food and drinks and stuff. A few people brought gifts, which we weren't expecting, but we just graciously accepted them and sent thank you notes. In the end it was a laid back afternoon where we celebrated the new addition to the family.
My husband is an avid fishermen so I was mostly looking at the Lures or Lace theme. Anyways, we'll see.