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LeaRose87 · July 2015

The father of my son and I have not been together since I found out I was pregnant. And for the first half of my pregnancy he was super negative. He wanted me to get an abortion. He has demanded his "rights" since day one. I tried to involve him in the pregnancy but he was a jerk so I quit doing that. My son is 6wks old and his father has seen him a total of about an hr since his birth. I've invited him over to see him and he ignores me. He doesn't ask to see him. Then turns around and calls me names and says I am refusing to let him be a father. That I won't let him have his "rights". Why do u need ur "rights" to be a father? He hasn't offered a cent towards anything. I've tried to be the decent person in the situation. I'm just tired of him being a jerk and blaming me. I cld spend days venting about all the things he's done. Thanks for letting me get this little bit off my chest.

SammieJ1113 · July 2015

Relationships are hard enough as it is. Adding a baby to that equation makes it even harder. I hope it gets better for you.

Kye042 · July 2015

You're a strong woman! You're doing all the right things caring for your son and as long as you offer time for him to see his son then that's all you can do - it's on the father to involve himself.

Go to court and get full custody so this issue is settled. Good luck! And just remember you're doing all the right things raising your child and being the bigger person

kateamart · July 2015

My DH has been very supportive, but he did experience a bit of what my life has been like last night. My DS is 6 weeks old today, and last night was the first time I left for a couple of hours. I pumped right before I left, and met a friend for dinner. So DS was entirely my DH's responsibility. Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it), DS was gassy and fussy the entire time. DH didn't have a down moment, and didn't even get a chance to eat dinner himself until I got home. I think the experience showed him exactly what I mean when I say the baby is being fussy, and gave him a bit more appreciation for how I spend my days.

duynguyen51 · July 2015

It seem like you are already doing everything you could do to involve him, it's not your fault he is not doing his part, instead he's pointing finger at you. He seem immature to me and need to grow up! Stay strong girl, you are doing great.

mars8k · July 2015

He doesn't want to be involved with the baby but feels guilty about it so he's blaming you, arent you and your baby better off without him?

mamajama3 · July 2015

File a claim about him needing to pay child support ASAP- they'll garnish his wages. If he can't be present physically at least he can be present fiscally. Best wishes to you and your little one- you sound like a strong woman and this baby is lucky to have you!

CanDGrrl · July 2015

Being a single mom is the hardest thing you'll ever do. Take care of yourself and baby as best you can! Surround yourself with people you trust who are willing to lend a helping hand every now and then.

Have you spoken to a lawyer? It's best to have safeguards in place ASAP. Often they will think of things you've not run into yet. Baby is depending on you! Good luck!

~Candie~ with an -IE

jodi1008 · July 2015

Good luck, you can do it! My first son, i was essentially a single mother all along because my ex didn't help me at all and we split when ds was 1. And now I'm married and have a second son but my husband is in the army so I have a toddler and a 6 week old on my own. It's hard but those babies are worth it all

Knottie76365376 · July 2015

Go to court asap and get things sorted! My first son's father and I weren't together but promised to settle things between us. Later on I paid the price of $10,000 in lawyer fees to get things settled. It would have been a couple hundred in the beginning. Don't put it off! As the child grows he will pressure you more and more and continue to sit back while you do all the work- because you "wanted" the child and he didn't. Please protect yourself and the child. I learned the very hard way!

borntorun17 · July 2015

Go. To. Court.
Don't let this asshole skew things or get out of financially supporting his child.

funkychicken789 · July 2015

Along with court, document!! Use text and emails and save them! Then it's no longer a "he said, she said" game. Proof of your attempts to reach out. If he's one to go to social media, take screen shots of those too.

Hope all works out for you! It sounds like you are doing what's best for the little one! Good luck!

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