Facebook Announcement and not by you!

potofgolden · June 2015

My DH and I are trying to keep our first pregnancy on the DL until we know for sure and then can do a cute announcement photo that I have been thinking of even before I was Prego. We decided to tell our mothers. The mother-n-law told her friend that just announced it for us on FB, how wonderful!!! We have not told the rest of our family or friends. I'm so angry right now!! It was takin down, but it already had a few likes and being from a small town, everyone will know by the end of the week. Should I withhold all future info from my family? Should I hurry up and make my announcement on Facebook, or deny to those who ask and congratulate me. Im only in my 6th week.

potofgolden · June 2015

Sorry for the rant, but who does that!!!!!??

BabyHope2013 · June 2015

Personally I wouldn't make an announcement yet on social media. If people find out and say anything, I would probably just thank them and let them know that you are still keeping it fairly down low until you are closer to 12 weeks.

That is unfortunate that her friend did that---but probably didn't think that it wasn't public information. If it makes you feel any better---when my DS was born my MIL and SL decided that they were going to plaster the two photos we sent of DS a few hours after he was born on Facebook before we could even announce his birth ourselves. We were trying to enjoy a few moments in the hospital ourselves before we announced to the world. This time I might even tell DH not to tell them right away after I deliver because I know they will just do it again.

SarahChristine12 · June 2015

I experienced this with my 2nd child. We announced it to our immediate family only and even told them we were waiting to tell everyone else. My mother-in-law proceeded to put it on Facebook where my best friend saw it. I was so upset that my best friend found out from her rather than me. We were farther along in our pregnancy so I ended up announcing on Facebook, but it was very frustrating.

So with our 3rd child we made sure to tell her not to be saying anything on Facebook until we had made an official announcement. We will probably have to do the same with this pregnancy too.

charliegoldengirl · June 2015

I would be soooo pissed! If it were me, I'd still wait on making he announcement myself and if anyone asked about, just be honest and be like "yeah but it's still so early so we aren't telling people. I'm so pissed that woman put it on FB".

je5sc0 · June 2015

My MIL posted on her FB at 4 weeks (!!!!) that we were pregnant. Two seconds after we called her and said to keep it on the DL. Thankfully it's mostly people that I don't know, so nobody has said anything to us. But last week on our anniversary she posted on my husbands FB and I immediately called her and explained it was our news to share, we weren't ready to announce, etc. She acted so surprised, so annoying. We have decided she will be the last to know since she literally goes right to FB to tell her friends.

twinmom1121 · June 2015

BabyHope2013 said:
Personally I wouldn't make an announcement yet on social media. If people find out and say anything, I would probably just thank them and let them know that you are still keeping it fairly down low until you are closer to 12 weeks.

That is unfortunate that her friend did that---but probably didn't think that it wasn't public information. If it makes you feel any better---when my DS was born my MIL and SL decided that they were going to plaster the two photos we sent of DS a few hours after he was born on Facebook before we could even announce his birth ourselves. We were trying to enjoy a few moments in the hospital ourselves before we announced to the world. This time I might even tell DH not to tell them right away after I deliver because I know they will just do it again.

I hate when people do this!!! Makes me so mad when others think it's ok to announce things in your life before you even get a chance to.

Quazel · June 2015

That stinks!! Ditto people, make your announcement when you are ready. If people ask, confirm but say you really aren't ready to share and are disappointed someone did.

HBirdie · June 2015

Uhhh WTF. That is NOT OKAY. This was/is honestly one of my biggest fears, so everyone that I tell I probably really annoy because I say, more than once, "This is still a secret, just so you know."

This honestly just really pisses me off. That is NOT your news to tell! When you tag someone on FB, everyone they are friends with sees it! That's incredibly rude and presumptuous. Ugh. This irks me so much and I don't even know you.

I was terrified that someone was going to announce our son's birth or put up pictures before we did, so I didn't send anyone pictures and I told everyone that met him that first day that he wasn't "FB official," haha. I also changed my privacy settings so that no one could tag me in stuff without my approval.

MississippiCatfish · June 2015

Wow. I've never seen this happen. Some people are idiots. I'm so sorry.

wisco29 · June 2015

I would be livid and I wouldn't be afraid to let EVERYONE know. So disrespectful to share someone else's pregnancy! If you don't do something about it she's going to share your birth announcement before you get a chance too

kayjay44 · June 2015

Ugh, this is one of the many reasons why I hate FB. I don't let anyone tag or post things to my wall without my approval either. Sorry this happened; it totally blows.

sheashea407 · June 2015

There are not words for people who do this. I've seen newborn photos posted before the parents even have the chance to announce...people just have no sense. Plus I think some people just HAVE to be the first to know, first to share something.

To OP, I'm really sorry this happened to you! I echo to share whenever you feel comfortable.

paytonpedro · June 2015

I would be SO MAD! Omg! I would never tell anyone anything again. I have a thing with FB. I don't plan on putting my pregnancy on FB at all or plastering it with pics of my child, which is personally just me. I would be so mad! Ha!

thoughtfulmommy · June 2015

This is so frustrating. I am sorry this happened to you. We had to make it clear with our DS that no one was allowed to post about our pregnancy or pictures until we did.

tooba22 · June 2015

This happened to me! I let my mom and sister know and between the two of them the entire world knows. They told everybody when I had already expressed my feelings of keeping it private until I am further along. Next time I am keeping it to myself. Also they have started blaming everything on me being pregnant. Like oh your mood is really something else now that you are pregnant. Like WTF maybe it is but maybe it's not. It's like now that I am pregnant they have made it an excuse for pretty much everything in my life...also, I've given up on the FB postings after multiple attempts of asking the people that do know to keep it to themselves I have had my SIL,mom,sister and aunt all post and I've still yet to post. I swear they do it to get a rise out of me. Btw I am 8 weeks.

lauren0571 · June 2015

That is crazy. How insensitive and selfish can you be.
Sorry this happened to you.

Wurrkingurrl · June 2015

BabyHope2013 said:

Personally I wouldn't make an announcement yet on social media. If people find out and say anything, I would probably just thank them and let them know that you are still keeping it fairly down low until you are closer to 12 weeks.

I would do exactly this.

And OMG, I can not believe she did that. I would have los tit on her! I'm so sorry you are dealing with this

My sister in law (who I don't get along with all that well to begin with) did this when my son was born. My husband texted her to tell her, and she immediately posted on facebook that she was an aunt and congratulations to us. (I had no intentions of putting anything about him on social media.... I'm weird about babies and privacy) I was livid! So yeah, people have no repect for the news or privacy of others sometimes.

robinj716 · June 2015

That is terrible. I feel so bad for you. I'm glad she took it down. I would do what you feel is right. Whatever your gut is telling you to do. If you're not ready to share, when people ask you can deny it or just do what others said and confirm but ask them to keep it quiet.

Ughhh, Why do people feel the need to share your news for you?! I've discovered that a lot for this pregnancy (our first). Everyone keeps asking me when they can tell other people and I'm like um you can't tell other people, that's for us to tell.

We reiterated to our family several times that they cannot breathe a word to anyone and cannot post on Facebook. When I shared our U/S photo with them I again said this is not for you to show or post on Facebook. My MIL even called a few days later and asked can I tell my parents the news they'll be so happy. What doesn't she get ?! This is not her news to share, it's ours!

Good points about sharing hospital photos. I hadn't even thought about that, but I'm going to have to tell them all again if they come visit they cannot share photos. That is for us to share. Ugh I'm getting irritated just thinking about it now

Cheryl Renee · June 2015

Both my parents and my in laws go to our church and know alot of the same people as we do. We havent told them yet, but when we do I plan on asking them not to say anything to anyone for at least 2 weeks. I want to be able to tell my frienda before they hear it through the grapevine.

potofgolden · June 2015

@robinj716 , I love the not for you to share or post on Facebook disclaimer!! We live a few hours away from family, which can be a great thing. I am seriously thinking about not posting any newborn pictures to FB, just to be a B, if they want to see my baby that bad they can travel!

Erinka · June 2015

We will probably share pregnancy news with family after our 8 w appt this week. I just KNOW I'm going to have to be CRYSTAL CLEAR with my two younger sisters about no Facebook postings!

ChitownHusker · June 2015

This is exactly why we are waiting until after the first trimester to tell my father-in-law. Yeesh, sorry that happened to you!

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