Hi!
We are at a crossroads and trying to decide our next move. My 5 month old currently comes to work with me. We have the option of me staying home but putting financial strain on our family, or her being in daycare for around 25-30 hours a week while I work. Our daughter is very attached to us and since 2 months old (yes, really!) she cries if anyone else tries to hold her. I am not talking about being sensitive to how she is being soothed. She could be totally content on my lap doing nothing, then someone else gets too close and she cries! Even close family members, regardless of the fact she has been around lots of people since she was born. At 12 weeks we tried her staying with my very good friend who has a home daycare but was not taking any other children at the time since she is pregnant. She went for 4 hours 12 different times and never adjusted at all. She cried, refused to eat, etc. which is not at all her personality. She is so smiley with us! My friend, who has a degree in childhood development and has worked in daycares, told me that it is unusual for a child to act that way at such a young age and perhaps it would be best to find a way for her to stay with me.
We are trying to decide if we should try daycare again at 6 months or have me stay home with her. Any experience with a very shy child in daycare?
Thanks!
Re: Daychare for a shy child
It sounds like she just has separation anxiety, which is completely normal for that age. My daughter was the same way. She was clingy to me and my husband, and screamed whenever anyone else came near her. I think it is a little too early to label her as shy.
It is completely your decision, but I would look at as a good thing to put her in daycare. She may struggle at first and scream and cry at drop off, but once she saw you coming back for her in the afternoon she would get over it. It is a way to learn object permanence. As she gets older, it will be easier to drop her off at places (even new ones).
Have you considered a child care that has video monitoring that you can see while at work? That might give you reassurance while you are working.