I peeked- now what? Update

lmgagliardi@hotmail.com · June 2015

so I had my anatomy scan this morning. I had her put the gender in an envelope but she didn't seal it. And then they left me to clean up. DH wasn't with me. We are having a gender reveal party next weekend....sooo long from now. I couldn't help myself. I looked. Omg I looked. So now the question is, do I act surprised the day of the party and tell no one I know? Or do I tell DH that I peeke and see if he wants to know too? I mean, I'm sure he'll be disappointed in me, so do I keep the secret or do I tell him and then we both pretend we don't know??

Apparently the new software deleted my update- so DH was pissed. He's still mad at me this morning and is making me feel like crap. Apparently he never wanted the gender party to begin with and never told me so now "he's the one that doesn't know for my stupid party"

he doesn't want me to tell him but he wants to know so bad and I feel really bad. I never thought he would react like that- probably would have kept it to myself if I did

sgancho · June 2015

That's normal! But I think you should tell your DH that you know the sex and see if he wants yo know too. That way you two will know by the time of the party this weekend.

stephaniearthurs · June 2015

lmgagliardi@hotmail.com said:
so I had my anatomy scan this morning. I had her put the gender in an envelope but she didn't seal it. And then they left me to clean up. DH wasn't with me. We are having a gender reveal party next weekend....sooo long from now. I couldn't help myself. I looked. Omg I looked. So now the question is, do I act surprised the day of the party and tell no one I know? Or do I tell DH that I peeke and see if he wants to know too? I mean, I'm sure he'll be disappointed in me, so do I keep the secret or do I tell him and then we both pretend we don't know??

I would just act like you didn't see it! It will still be fun for everyone else, and you won't have to keep it secret for too long!!

I, by te way, would never be able to not peek!!

koala1107 · June 2015

Haha I don't blame you for cracking, she should've sealed it to keep the temptation away! Lol. But I know personally I'm a terrible secret keeper and would have to spill to my DH. Good luck, practice your surprised face!

ToneGirl · June 2015

Oh my! I have a feeling I will be the same way. We are having them put it in an envelope too and taking it to beach with us for our family vacation to do a reveal there. I will probably stare at that envelope every single day and the whole drive down to the beach. I think I would tell my husband and just you and him keep the secret and act surprised at the reveal.

BostonBaby1 · June 2015

If it were me, I would tell my DH. I would then give him the option to know too ahead of time. It's not the same thing as a lie if you don't tell him, but it's sort of a lie of omission.

CMDD · June 2015

I think lying by omission is lying and I strive to live a very truthful life. So, I would tell DH.

CMDD · June 2015

That sounded condescending. Sorry. Just wanted to tell you my opinion. It's not the worst thing in the world to find out early so I bet your DH will understand

you two might even celebrate tonight privately and that can be sweet.

Melissadmag · June 2015

Lol I kept the info to myself and got totally busted. During my first trimester screening or whatever where the tech is checking for a nasal bone and everything I was at the appointment alone because I thought I was just doing a blood draw, didn't realize it was an appointment my hubby would have wanted to come to...ooops. Anyway the tech wrote all these things like by the hands she wrote hi mommy and daddy, and then by the gender she said it's not 100% but it' most likely a girl, and then wrote I'm probably a girl in the pics. I was like oh crap, I think I just found out the gender....sooooo not telling hubby since we were doing a gender scan with the family and everyone the next week. She printed out the pictures and I tried to find the gender one and couldn't find it, thought I was safe to show hubby the ultrasound pics and went home with them. He studied all of them and managed to find the thing that said I'm probably a girl even though I had somehow missed it while looking for it! This was after he kept asking if I had found out the gender and I denied it all the way lol! After that I was just like well....at this point it's not a sure thing so I didn't want to get our hearts set on girl.....total b.s. on my part but I just felt so bad lol. Not sure what you should do, but if you don't tell just cover your tracks lol!

angetralala · June 2015

That's definitely tricky! I would probably tell my husband - I'm good at keeping secrets, except from him. Let him decide if he wants to find out, and then you can pretend to be surprised together...or just tell everyone you peeked!

redfallon · June 2015

I wouldn't call it a lie if you don't tell him. There are some things that are secrets, like surprise parties, or a gift that you have wrapped up. You keep those from people and don't call them lies, right?

The question is, did you guys have a pact that you would absolutely not find out before the party? Do you think he is going to be devastated if you know before he does?

You could also let him know that you peeked in the envelope and then ask him if he wants you to tell him or not. He may want you to keep it a secret from him, anyway, so that he can be surprised at the party, too.

Catherine1021 · June 2015

I would tell my husband. I'm not very good at keeping secrets though, I almost always slip up and say something without even meaning too!

LC122 · June 2015

Have you sealed the envelope yet?
You could tell him that they didn't seal it and ask him if he wants to know before you seal it up.
I wouldn't tell others that you know. I think people like the excitement of thinking everyone is finding out together. Then again, I have trouble not fessing up if someone asks me outright. We just announced this week but when the sales lady at our favorite kids furniture store asked us last week if we were expecting again, we said yes.

lmgagliardi@hotmail.com · June 2015

Thanks for all the input guys. I'm gonna tell DH I know and see if he wants to know too. On a side note, it's a boy

first in my family in 22 years!!

Jazmine928 · June 2015

What are you having??!!

Jazmine928 · June 2015

I know you probably need to have your party before you tell us

clearly I would probably peek too!!

BostonBaby1 · June 2015

What are your DH say?

kristen2b · June 2015

She posted last night that he didn't want to know and was pissed at her but the update wiped all new comments out apparently.

MamaLindsey15 · June 2015

I went to get my results and knew I wouldn't be able to wait until we planned a party. So we decided on dinner that night and invited everyone. I had the envelope in my purse for 5 hours and it KILLED me not to look.. But I didn't! Everyone thought I did because typically I would. Lol but I wanted to be surprised also.

LauraSmarterSpam · June 2015

Sorry he felt that way. Y'all would find out eventually whether it was now or when your little boy arrives so he can't stay mad for too long.
I hope he recovers from the upsetness soon!

0leahmarie · June 2015

Don't think you're the only one who peaked... I did the same thing and called my DH right after I found out and asked him if I could open the envelope. I'm a little mad at myself for not having the patience to wait for the surprise... But I'm so glad I know! Don't let it get you down too much!

redfallon · June 2015

update thread: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12594017/dh-can-kiss-my-fat-pregnant-butt#latest

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