Another friend announces her BFP

BlueGal1 · June 2015

I am so depressed again and again another friend is pregnant - in the last 1 month 4 friends have announced it.

I'm in pain I'm so upset I feel like a terrible friend.

Why do we have such unfortunate luck ?

Nobody can console me.

My tears are constant .

I'm at a loss.

I feel so worthless

GoldenKeys · June 2015

HUGS! Of course you aren't worthless, that's what's so horrible about IF, it does terrible things to our esteem. I'm a bit worried about you and think that it's probably a good idea to reach out to someone to help you deal with your grief. What you are experiencing is very common with infertility and loss, and getting counseling or visiting a local support group like RESOLVE can make a huge difference.

Fight for yourself! Do not let IF take more from you. If you need further help looking for support, PM me.

susykat77 · June 2015

So sorry. Just wanted to offer my support.

lifeislove87 · June 2015

You are not worthless

You are allowed to grieve and not immediately be happy for people

Your feelings are normal

If you haven't, please consider going to talk to someone who will listen. Support groups are great as are therapists who can be a great support. Infertility sucks and you shouldn't have to go through this alone

BlueGal1 · June 2015

All of you :-)

Thank you so much for your advise and kindness xx

gengarza · June 2015

You are not alone. I too have been struggling to get pregnant and all my sisters and friends are all pregnant!

kristylang · June 2015

You are definitely not alone. I have a friend who went through all of this and got pregnant doing IVF. She has been helping me with all my jealousy of others. She told me that you are going to be jealous, but you don't know if that couple struggled like I am. That has opened my eyes when friends announce they are pregnant to not be so envious of them because you don't know if they struggled to get pregnant too. Kind of opened my eyes up. You have to try and stay positive through this because when the time is right it will be your turn to be pregnant and it will be the happiest day of your life. At least, this is how I find comfort in all the struggles during this time of TTC. I hope for the best for everyone on here.

blackhuckleberry · June 2015

I feel you. This week I've been feeling particularly useless, even though I know that's not true. Sometimes the heart overrides the head.

Aera11 · June 2015

@BlueGal1 you are strong and amazing, never question that! I feel for you and it's totally okay to be envious, I am right there with you. Just know you are never alone and you can always talk to any of us

sending lots of HUGS your way!

BlueGal1 · June 2015

Thank you all so much - when I here such kind words from other women who are going through what I am going through , it gives me strength.

We will all get there - it's just we have to wait until it's our time xx

tripplek1988 · June 2015

(**AB mentioned) Waiting is easier said than done and I understand your fustration and sometimes may seem that life is so unfair. I'm going through similar situation with a few friends and one in particular ended a few of her pregnancy and still has 7 kids. Makes me wonder what I've done wrong to deserve this. I don't know if you have heared of this, but I've found the serenity prayer to give me some comfort at times. I wish you all the best and just know that your not alone

BlueGal1 · June 2015

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Beautiful - I will think of this when I am feeling down x

ALC08 · June 2015

Hang in there!! I went through the same thing after my first miscarriage. It seemed like everyone was pregnant and several with their 3rd child!! I was so depressed! I don't have much advice but know you are not alone. If you know anyone who has been through it, it may help to reach out. A lot of people just do not understand if they haven't dealt with it.

tripplek1988 · July 2015

@BlueGal1 I'm glad you like it

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