Fear of incorrect Gender prediction

981074 · June 2015

Hi:) I am 34 weeks pregnant on my fourth child ( 7th pregnancy). I have 3 healthy boys who I am delighted with. This pregnancy came as a big surprise!! I was told at 2 ultrasounds that I'm carrying a girl which has made me anxious, I've gotten my hopes up of having the daughter I've always wanted and I am petrified now that I will end up having a boy and feel disappointed:( I'm sorry I was told the gender at all!! I want to not feel like this and focus on a healthy baby but I just can't seem to stop feeling anxious about it:(

Miz_Liz · June 2015

Honestly, this happens a lot less now than it used to due to better technology and such. If you were told at two that you are having a girl, odds are you are having a girl! Even if you were one of the very rare occurances where they were wrong, you wouldn't find out until baby was physically there and any disappointment over them being incorrect would melt right away I am sure when you lay eyes on your baby. I honestly wouldn't worry though - go buy cute girl stuff and enjoy this new baby!

lifesabeach85 · June 2015

I think this anxiety is understandable. Obviously if this did happen your disappointment would fade quickly.

If your ultrasound techs seemed sure, I wouldn't worry about it! Someone asked this at my birth class, and the doula said in over 100 births she has never seen that happen. You could always go for a 3d scan (they cost around $75 in my area) to have added peace of mind!

981074 · June 2015

Thank you both

I was thinking of a 3d scan it may be the way to go!!
It's so trivial I know! I just would love a daughter so much although I do know I love this child no matter what!
I find myself daydreaming about 'her' planning in my mind and looking forward to it. I almost wish I never knew!!

Miz_Liz · June 2015

Totally understandable to be excited and feel like it is not real - but it isn't like you are saying you aren't going to love this baby regardless, so don't be so hard on yourself!

thesportsgal · June 2015

There is no mistaking my boy for a girl (twins). But I also get scanned at every appointment so I'm used to seeing the penis vs. vagina. I don't think they make the "mistake" like they used to either. I wouldn't bother with another scan at 34 weeks but that's just me. Like I said, the penis is pretty obvious!

981074 · June 2015

That's the thing I saw the penis on my last 2, it was unmistakable and left me in no doubt. I think I'm just fearful to believe it's a girl after 3 boys and I suppose hoping that the anxiety I'm feeling is somewhat 'normal'!?
I hate this anxiety I just feel like I want the next 6 weeks to pass by with excitement not this silly feeling!

ptelfra · June 2015

This was and still is sometimes my biggest fear as a FTM. When I went for my anatomy scan he had his legs crossed so the nurse told us she wasn't able to see anything. Then a second nurse came in to double check everything and showed me his testicles. After everything was done and I was receiving my pictures I asked the first nurse are we sure it's a boy from looking at this picture? and she said "yeah I got a great picture!" (His testicles and penis!) but she had said she wasn't able to see anything at first :-/

Anyways a couple weeks ago at maybe 29-30 weeks I went in to L&D to get checked out because I wasn't feeling baby boy move and during the ultrasound I HAD to ask to see his little parts, it's a boy alright

981074 · June 2015

It's just that reassurance that what your heart is set on won't be anything different! Best wishes in your pregnancies x

sjra1028 · June 2015

Don't feel bad! I felt the same way! We've had several 3d scans and I had them check each time. Haha
We're also finally having a girl! Still somewhat in disbelief, but so excited!

ashbash1012 · June 2015

My friend thought her whole pregnancy she was having a girl. Had a pink and green baby shower and everything. Popped the kid out and her dr says "oops, I was wrong!" :-/ I've had 3 ultrasounds....wait maybe 4 and he had confirmed in the last 3 this one is a boy. Omg I'm hoping he's right!

981074 · June 2015

You see that's my fear I don't want to get my hopes up, I've always wanted a daughter and am so afraid . Just wish I could get the girl thing out of my head as if I never knew and just have the surprise!!
Best wishes boys are great too, I have 3 fab boys:)

Lorga · June 2015

There is a blood test that you can get that will tell you for sure if your having a boy or girl. I don't know the cost but I got one done when I had my amino. It also tests for some chromosome abnormalities. It just a blood draw.

mriee · July 2015

I'm so scared of this too! During scans my husband has insisted the penis/balls are really obvious but I can never see a thing so I think he's deluding himself lol. I think it's pretty rare for the technicians to get it wrong these days but untill the babies born nothing we say will reassure you I'm sure but it will all be ok.

squigles28 · July 2015

I had another US and just asked them to check again! They laughed but totally got it!

astreetx3 · July 2015

Every time I have an ultrasound they tell me its a boy, I totally get it though, its happened to a girl i went to school with, the whole pregnancy she was told the baby was a boy and surprise! She popped out a girl lol. I dont even know what id do lol

KaylaLovesNoah · July 2015

I have a TON of girl clothes so if the ultrasound was wrong....he'll just be fabulous until I can stock up on boy stuff lol \:D/

shmarpler · July 2015

My friend bought she was having a girl, but got a boy about a month or two ago and that made me nervous. I've only washed one pack of onesies, one dress, and some gender neutral sheets, etc. I have so many adorable little summer dresses I would be sad to not get to use them, no matter how much I would love to have a boy. Fingers crossed for both of us!

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