Those Moments When You DON'T Feel Like a Bad Parent...

Miz_Liz · June 2015

I've noticed there are a lot of us on the board who have toddlers or other kids at home and lately it seems like a lot of us find that we are losing our cool a lot or we are feeling like a bad parent for whatever reason. I am sure that it is because we are all insanely pregnant, exhausted, and just tired from chasing other kids around all day when what we really want to do is sit on the couch with a tub of ice cream and our feet up while we binge watch Netflix (at least this is what I would rather do). Anyway, there are still those moments no matter how small that make you step back and say, "Wow, I am NOT a bad parent...I did not epically fail....I AM doing something right!!" For me, it is when my DS says please/thank you/excuse me/bless you all by himself at appropriate times. Another was the other day my 92 (soon to be 93) year old grandmother was over and she was telling us how she pinched here finger in my aunt's car door - DS leaned down and kissed her "boo boo" to make it feel better. She has been talking about it non-stop since, it totally melted her heart and seeing her this happy about something has melted mine. Overall my boy is an extremely sweet, loving, and friggin adorable little man - but my goodness sometimes that is the only thing that keeps me from losing my sh*t. What are your moments that make you realize you are not a bad parent?

CaliforniaDream87 · June 2015

Your son sounds like a little gentleman

DS is saying "pease" (please) now for everything. I think it's the cutest thing. Although he isn't saying too many words I love that he is starting to pick up more and have some sort of *manners* at this stage. Right after he says "pease" and you don't give him what he wants he turns into the hulk. HOWEVER, he's still super cute so that counts right?

#becausetoddler (my hashtag for everything in my life right now) lol.

Miz_Liz · June 2015

CaliforniaDream87 said:

Your son sounds like a little gentleman DS is saying "pease" (please) now for everything. I think it's the cutest thing. Although he isn't saying too many words I love that he is starting to pick up more and have some sort of *manners* at this stage. Right after he says "pease" and you don't give him what he wants he turns into the hulk. HOWEVER, he's still super cute so that counts right? #becausetoddler (my hashtag for everything in my life right now) lol.

LOL, the hulk reference made me crack up because I know EXACTLY what this looks like!!! The Hulk comes out to play at our house too!

Shine2015 · June 2015

Yep, I would say when DS uses his manners. The other day he said, "Thank you mom for making me a great dinner!" Melted my heart. Also when I am having a bad day and end up crying, he will go get me a tissue and tell me that it's alright!

breezymeema7 · June 2015

I stubbed my toe really good this evening, enough to bring tears to my eyes, especially after the long day it was. DD1 runs over and gives me a huge hug and asks if I'm okay. DD2 follows suit and then gets on her belly to kiss my toe. She gets up and asks "all better?" They are incredibly kind and gentle girls (for the most part

) and the love they so freely give always blows me over. And now I kinda want to cry again...I am blessed. Thanks @Miz_Liz I needed this

bpwife&mama · June 2015

DS loves me unconditionally. Everyday I leave for work he says "mama you can't go buh-bye" and I know he means it. When I get home he always says "mama you back"! Even on my hardest days he knows how to make me feel better.

emmacake08 · June 2015

Both my LOs have a virus that's making them really needy and difficult. Lately just having them reach for me and want me reminds me of how much they do love me and rely on me.

Then one kid wakes up at midnight and won't go back to sleep while I cuss at the monitor and I'm back to feeling like a bad mom. It's a roller coaster for sure

PixelPosy · June 2015

We are potty training and I was in a public bathroom with DD. When we exited the stall an elderly lady was waiting to tell me it was so great how I use please and thank you with DD, because it is so important to lead by example. I was confused at first, then later realized I almost always ask her to "please do xyz" and I say thank you when she complies. It's so second nature, I didn't even recognize that it was helping to teach her respect and manners. Always nice to get compliments on your parenting from strangers.

jlsweets · June 2015

Good perspective and timing on the post. It was a beautiful night out last night and all my DS wanted was to go to the park. I just couldn't muster up the energy to take him out, felt too wiped. Instead we laid on the couch watching Ice Age. I was starting to feel really guilty that he was laying inside watching tv when he should be out running around. I try to remind myself while I feel like a bad mom he wakes up in the morning so happy and ready to start a new day. I'm sure he doesn't remember or harping on the fact that I didn't take him to the park ha.

toccoaparker · June 2015

DS holds two fingers together and kisses them and puts them to my belly, then says I love you baby sister I'm so excited. Oh my goodness, it is the sweetest thing ever.
(Cue DS2 to come try and dive bomb me lol)

bhargrave88 · June 2015

My daughter isn't very verbal, as she has autism, and is in speech and OT. However, I'm reminded I'm not a horrible parent for letting her watch her beloved super why to get her to stop climbing on top of my head(yes.. She uses me as a jungle gym lol) when she began to sing the alphabet letters with me. And began to draw her letters on paper, and can "read" letters on bottles. It's really exploding her babbling and helping us get words here and there. And when I tell her "great job big girl!" she runs up, claps, then hugs and kisses me.

This isn't always cute when she does so while I'm on the toilet and her and the dog insist on sitting with me in the bathroom.. But to know that she loves me so much and is able to also express her affection when some autistic kids can't.. It makes me feel like I've done something right along the way. Even when I get tired and frustrated at times

she never holds it against me

hclzmm14 · June 2015

My DD gave me about ten kisses on the mouth yesterday when we were just sitting and cuddling, complete with the -muah- sound. She barely ever gives me kisses so it was really sweet and just what I needed on a Friday after she had just had some major tantrums. They always find a way to balance it out, don't they?

SashaDenn25 · June 2015

Ive been in my stepdaugthers life since she was 2, now at 6 she makes me feel better about bringing a toddler up to be a beautiful young girl. (Scared to death of the infancy stage still though lol) She is learning all of her big girl things like remembering her own things she takes places and clearing her plate in the garbage and putting it in the sink all to help me out not having to pick up every little thing she leaves out while nearly 8 months pregnant. She is so giving and helping to anyone and everyone and it just makes me feel like myself and DH have been a great parenting team and will make it through this next one too.

Starynightsky24 · June 2015

I love how when we go to other people's houses he walks in going "Hey! Hey you! How you doing?". So sweet.

We bought DS a baby doll to help teach him how to treat babies (since he's not really around any) and I'm loving how he treats the doll too. He kisses her goodnight, rocks her, pretends to change her diaper, feeds her, gives her her paci, kisses her boo boos when he drops her lol.

I love watching him copy what DH and I do for him. Makes me feel like we are doing things right

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Miz_Liz · June 2015

@Starynightsky24 we bought DS a doll too to help him get used to babies. We told him it was a little sister. He named her John. LOL. You're welcome to any of you moms-to-be having girls for the awesome name suggestion provided by my DS

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Starynightsky24 · June 2015

Miz_Liz said:
@Starynightsky24 we bought DS a doll too to help him get used to babies. We told him it was a little sister. He named her John. LOL. You're welcome to any of you moms-to-be having girls for the awesome name suggestion provided by my DS .

Haha! That's adorable. DS just calls his baby. I've been wondering if we should name her! Lol

banfrog · June 2015

Every time DS1 talks about how he feels instead of acting out or stimming. He's autistic (leaning more to Asperger's). It's wonderful to see him reacting appropriately to situations and people. We still have a long way to go but it has been encouraging for DH and I to see the effort and growth DS1 has made.

ashbash1012 · June 2015

When my baby girl helps me put the laundry away! She is an awesome personality and when she isn't totally consumed with her toys, tablet or movies, she constantly helping me. She's turned into my shadow since I started showing. Normally, it's all about daddy! So I have to enjoy her loving me this much before she turns back into daddy's girl! Lol

kettlekitten · June 2015

When I hear a comment from the grandparents or even a stranger about DD's manners, her language, or her big smile, that's when I feel like I must've done something right! Or when I catch her saying something that seems quite advanced for her age, that blows my mind a little.

CarelessDiva89 · June 2015

Since I'm still extremely sore from surgery my 6 yr olds have been super helpful with things around the house & helping chase around my 18 month old. My son went to walk upstairs & said mom I'll be upstairs if you need me!!! Oh that just melted my heart. Also they must love me because before I went to see baby girl in the nicu they said mom will you please eat dinner with us before you go. :x

amylianne · June 2015

DS was a little late talking and the pediatrician had us worried. We had to take him for hearing tests, etc, even though I was pretty sure he was hearing just fine. We read books and worked on letters and songs, tried everything to make learning fun. Finally about 3 months ago (21 months old) he wakes up with a motor mouth, knows all his letters, what sound they make, can count to 20 and backwards from 10. I was so glad he had been taking it all in, and so proud that he really knows SO many words, including his "magic words". I think we may have a stubborn little man!
He named his doll "baby b". We are also trying to teach him to be gentle, etc. He does great, and then tosses her across the room. Can't win them all!

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