Scared to not hear the heartbeat

Rachm1993 · June 2015

this is my first pregnancy, but for some reason with others I know the baby's heart beat isn't there , I'm so scared for my scan on Tuesday

I'm 9wk6days

Blueyedsky · June 2015

Relax! The outcome is going to be the same whether you're stressing about it or not. Enjoy this pregnancy while you are pregnant. That's what I've had to keep telling myself. It also helped me to get a doppler, but you only have to make it one more weekend before finding out, and think how wonderful it's going to be to hear that heartbeat.

jess147ga · June 2015

I feel the same way! Nothing but worries! I feel like once I hear the heart beat I'll feel better! We go to the doc Tuesday to hear it! I can't wait but worried of course!

jrouge12 · June 2015

For various reasons you might not hear it at 9-weeks. I was at the doctors last week (9 w 3 d) and the doctor said we would try but because of the position of my uterus it was highly unlikely we would hear anything. She made me promise not to get upset or freak out if we didn't hear anything. We didn't hear the heart beat. I'm not worried. Just go in knowing it's ok and normal to not pick it up at 9-weeks.

mbgallo42 · June 2015

Same boat! I'm 10W1D and my first ultrasound is Monday. My symptoms have been mild and I haven't had any spotting, but I'm terrified they're not going to find anything. I'm glad I'm not totally insane. Will be thinking about you and hope both of our fears will be quelled soon

Kris10day · June 2015

I don't get to go to the doc for my first ultrasound until July 9th! I'm 9w5d, so I'm worried too. I don't want to wait that long but that's the earliest they could get me in. I figure as long as my symptoms continue and I'm not bleeding or having issues, the little nugget's heart is beating and doing fine

sgraham1589 · June 2015

I know the feeling every time I go I'm nervous it won't be there this time but it always is... I have my 12 week scan soon and I'm nervous

makeshifwings · June 2015

I was terrified of this too...but we heard ours loud and proud at 7w4d! I'm 9w4d now, and I cannot wait to hear it again!!

KaraEpp16 · June 2015

I was very anxious, too. What does your partner say?

emililyha · June 2015

I had a doppler scan at 10w and the doc didn't find the HB. It was okay. We did an u/s righty afterward and there was baby - wiggling with a strong heart beat. Don't let the doppler freak you out. Think happy thoughts!

terese0913 · June 2015

I had some spotting yesterday so I was freaking out before my appointment, and it took the midwife a few minutes to find the heartbeat which felt like an eternity. Then we did a US and we got to see baby moving all around! It was great! She said the position of the baby at this point can make the heartbeat hard to hear bc you have to get under the pelvic bone, don't stress!

Shannon76Janmom · June 2015

I was scared too. Yesterday I was 9 weeks and had my first ultrasound. I didn't get to hear the heartbeat but could see it on the monitor and the tech told us the rate. My therapist gave me this advice last week and it helped me get through the few days before...she said think to yourself that "today I am healthy, I'm pregnant, my baby is healthy." Every time I started worrying, I reminded myself of that and it helped. She said that while apps and communities like these are great, it also puts us in the position of knowing too many "what ifs" which can perpetuate more worries. So I've tried to only pop on here occasionally and focus on the topics that don't give me extra angst.

daisymomof3 · June 2015

I got to hear its heartbeat at 7w1d and was overjoyed, but had serious nerves about my 11w appointment. A student was helping the midwife. She couldn't find it. She tried for 10 minutes! The only reason I didn't lose it was because she was gliding it with little pressure. During the ultrasound, the person used A LOT of pressure.

Finally, she went to get the midwife. When the midwife came in, she found it in 3 seconds! Try not to get worked up. I agree with the advise above!

BethP321 · June 2015

I felt the same way so I bought a doppler to use at home. It helps when I'm anxious. It takes a few to find the heartbeat, but it is my favorite sound once I do find it. Don't worry about too much! You'll be over the moon happy once you hear it for the first time.

lyannast · June 2015

I was terrified and sleeping badly for a few days before my scan.. I had it yesterday at 11wks 5days and saw my beautiful lil bub wriggling round, kicking those legs and bouncing

it doesn't always end badly... I know it's scary and I know (very sadly) there have been many posts with some of the other ladies in our group have to say goodbye.. And yes, that is something that could always happen.. But like @Blueyedsky says, if it's gonna happen there is nothing that can change that. Stressing won't help anything. Try not to stress until you have too. If you're past eight weeks, the chances of loss are much lower xx

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