overweight pregnancy - compliment or insult?

lelica01 · June 2015

I was about 60 pounds overweight before getting pregnant. I've always been very self-conscious about my belly. Now that I'm pregnant and we've announced it, most people say "oh wow, you're already showing so much! " or they say "I'm guessing you're having a girl because of how full your belly looks" I just smile and nod when really I want to say, I'm only 15 weeks along so most of my "bump" is just belly fat. Anyone else not sure how yo handle comments like these?

SantistevanMommie · June 2015

I've had people ask if I was having twins. I just blow them off. Even my grandpa said I was getting fat. I was overweight too and self conscious about my look but the way I see it now is I have a baby in my belly and no matter what people say I'm happy she's there

amm0512 · June 2015

I've had people say they can "really see it in my face". I haven't put on a pound yet, so either they are referring to the insane amount of acne I now have or they are seeing something I don't. I'm only 16 weeks, so no major increase in blood volume yet.

kimsem96 · June 2015

I'm exactly the same and find it really rude. On a couple of occasions I've been really straight up and said "I haven't actually put any weight on at all so you've essentially just called me fat." That was only in the really early days when I was only about 8 weeks and people said it, now at 16 weeks I just don't say anything even though I still haven't gained a pound.

VegetaElPrincipe · June 2015

I'm considered morbidly obese and was told I could gain like 15 lbs max. I am no 16 weeks and 3 days, I've lose 13 lbs and still get those dumb comments. People don't have tact or common sense. Please don't be offended either. You are blessed and creating new life, unless your doctor has a comment or concern about your weight, what anyone else says is null and void. For all you know, your extra pounds may come in handy for baby like I did. I've never appreciated being overweight until I was pregnant. Imagine losing so much weight while pregnant and no having the extra pounds? Don't let anyone take your happiness or make you feel bad. I'm positive you look amazing and will only look better. Sorry if I sound a little self centered in my examples, it was the easiest way for me to relate to your story. I hope it helped.

jenbstevens · July 2015

I think that if you have a choice between being upset about something or not, I would choose not. You know the comments are innocent enough and not meant to insult, so you would be doing nothing but causing yourself undue stress by deciding to be offended about it. Just smile and nod

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