I just need to rant..

lwoodruff15 · June 2015

he's made at me cuz I'm not in the mood for sex..well he says he isn't mad but he seems mad. He just rolled to the other side of the bed and went silent..I feel terrible!):

lindsleee · June 2015

Yeah. I get that. I had a cramp once during "the act" and my man took it very personally. He blamed himself for hurting me and did the same thing. I felt awful. All I can suggest is give it a few days. When you do feel up to it, let him know. He will be happy to try again I'm sure.

ash413 · June 2015

Has it been awhile since you guys have done anything? My DH doesn't get mad, but sometimes he feels rejected if I have turned him down multiple times. This often happens when we have been busy and I haven't really down him affection in other ways either.

modanz1 · June 2015

I see no reason for you to feel terrible. He should feel terrible for making a pregnant woman feel bad about herself because she isn't in the mood to make sure he gets off. Masturbation is a wonderful thing.

KeHill08 · June 2015

If my husband did that, I would probably be pissed at him for getting all pouty over it. You don't have to have sex if you don't want to, and you shouldn't feel bad about it either. He's a big boy and will get over it.

bellie1223 · June 2015

yes to the above, he should NOT be making you feel bad!

ashleywuli · June 2015

I completely agree with above, your body is changing in multiple ways. You can't help how you feel or don't feel. He should never make you feel bad or guilty for not wanting sex. If my husband did that, I'd make him sleep on the couch or with our twins for a few nights. Best advice I have is to talk to him about how your body is feeling so maybe he doesn't take it personally. I know when I'm hurting or feel off I tell him exactly how I feel.

tayzav · June 2015

My BF hasn't talked to me going on 3 days, and I know it's because he's sexually frustrated. If he doesn't get it at least every other day, specially for a while, he turns into a pouty ass. Then it makes me want him less so it really doesn't help his case. It's not like he doesn't get it, it's just not daily how it used to be. Well I'm sorry I'm not in the mood constantly, my body is not what I'm used to seeing so I'm super self conscious, and I'm asleep long before he's ready for bed. So when he does get it it's in the mornings and he gets mad that's it's like a set schedule. I can't win. Talk about awkward in my house right now. He's been on the couch all three nights. I can't deal, so I feel everyone's pain.

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ashleywuli · June 2015

tayzav said:
My BF hasn't talked to me going on 3 days, and I know it's because he's sexually frustrated. If he doesn't get it at least every other day, specially for a while, he turns into a pouty ass. Then it makes me want him less so it really doesn't help his case. It's not like he doesn't get it, it's just not daily how it used to be. Well I'm sorry I'm not in the mood constantly, my body is not what I'm used to seeing so I'm super self conscious, and I'm asleep long before he's ready for bed. So when he does get it it's in the mornings and he gets mad that's it's like a set schedule. I can't win. Talk about awkward in my house right now. He's been on the couch all three nights. I can't deal, so I feel everyone's pain. (

If he's like this now, just wait till baby comes. You're really not going to want sex for a while. I mean, come on time to grow up and realize it's not about you (him) anymore. Men are so selfish sometimes!

ash413 · June 2015

tayzav said:
My BF hasn't talked to me going on 3 days, and I know it's because he's sexually frustrated. If he doesn't get it at least every other day, specially for a while, he turns into a pouty ass. Then it makes me want him less so it really doesn't help his case. It's not like he doesn't get it, it's just not daily how it used to be. Well I'm sorry I'm not in the mood constantly, my body is not what I'm used to seeing so I'm super self conscious, and I'm asleep long before he's ready for bed. So when he does get it it's in the mornings and he gets mad that's it's like a set schedule. I can't win. Talk about awkward in my house right now. He's been on the couch all three nights. I can't deal, so I feel everyone's pain. (

What is he going to do after baby is born, and you can have sex for several weeks haha!

LSRoo · June 2015

Hahah these posts are hilarious. Between being pregnant, working and having a toddler- sex is the last thing on my mind. Wait until you are stitched up and swollen and can't have sex for 6-8 weeks! That's what separates the men from the boys.

tayzav · June 2015

ash413 said:

tayzav said:
My BF hasn't talked to me going on 3 days, and I know it's because he's sexually frustrated. If he doesn't get it at least every other day, specially for a while, he turns into a pouty ass. Then it makes me want him less so it really doesn't help his case. It's not like he doesn't get it, it's just not daily how it used to be. Well I'm sorry I'm not in the mood constantly, my body is not what I'm used to seeing so I'm super self conscious, and I'm asleep long before he's ready for bed. So when he does get it it's in the mornings and he gets mad that's it's like a set schedule. I can't win. Talk about awkward in my house right now. He's been on the couch all three nights. I can't deal, so I feel everyone's pain. (
What is he going to do after baby is born, and you can have sex for several weeks haha!

I think that he'll die, curl up into a little feel sorry for himself ball, and die. Lol I'm not even kidding. I've told him multiple times how long it could be after baby is here and he just shrugs it off, apparently he thinks I'm joking. I can't get him to read a book for the life of me either. Some men are morons when it comes to sex, mine is one of them. Boy I got lucky didn't I?!

oliarnmom1517 · June 2015

tayzav said:

ash413 said:

tayzav said:
My BF hasn't talked to me going on 3 days, and I know it's because he's sexually frustrated. If he doesn't get it at least every other day, specially for a while, he turns into a pouty ass. Then it makes me want him less so it really doesn't help his case. It's not like he doesn't get it, it's just not daily how it used to be. Well I'm sorry I'm not in the mood constantly, my body is not what I'm used to seeing so I'm super self conscious, and I'm asleep long before he's ready for bed. So when he does get it it's in the mornings and he gets mad that's it's like a set schedule. I can't win. Talk about awkward in my house right now. He's been on the couch all three nights. I can't deal, so I feel everyone's pain. (
What is he going to do after baby is born, and you can have sex for several weeks haha!
I think that he'll die, curl up into a little feel sorry for himself ball, and die. Lol I'm not even kidding. I've told him multiple times how long it could be after baby is here and he just shrugs it off, apparently he thinks I'm joking. I can't get him to read a book for the life of me either. Some men are morons when it comes to sex, mine is one of them. Boy I got lucky didn't I?!

It's ok my husband is in the same boat!! He's trying to get as much as he can now because he knows how we won't get anything for awhile after the baby is here!!

kmkrushi · June 2015

I got pretty lucky with DH. He may not get it but he understands enough not to push it. I think watching me limp through house or hearing me puke in the bathroom gives him enough physical evidence of how just not in the mood I can be!

lwoodruff15 · June 2015

My bf is like an everyday to every other day sort of guy when it comes to sex. It was fun before I was pregnant but now it just seems like a task. Maybe he gets pouty after a few days of me rejecting him because he feels like I just don't want him. I don't know. I just wish there was a way for him to get what my body is going through. When I try to explain it I'm just complaining to him. Ugh it's just so frustrating.

tayzav · June 2015

@lwoodruff15 I completely understand you on that one.

ashleywuli · June 2015

lwoodruff15 said:
My bf is like an everyday to every other day sort of guy when it comes to sex. It was fun before I was pregnant but now it just seems like a task. Maybe he gets pouty after a few days of me rejecting him because he feels like I just don't want him. I don't know. I just wish there was a way for him to get what my body is going through. When I try to explain it I'm just complaining to him. Ugh it's just so frustrating.

I wish they had to endure just three days of pregnancy, and 1 hour of active labor pains! Then they would understand. As much as they try to get it they just don't!

modanz1 · June 2015

@cupcake0987 I don't think you are allowed to continually post links to other communities. Just a heads up.

cupcake0987 · June 2015

Ok

cjlongwell · June 2015

I turn down my man a lot, depending on mood. He never gets mad, he just takes care of it while holding me. So we can be intimate without penetration. I wouldn't want it any other way.

erodgers024 · June 2015

I have experienced this too, I don't think he is trying to make me feel bad but he is genuinely disappointed or frustrated and I am okay to let him feel that way, I think as hard as it is to be pregnanat, it also must be hard to be in a relationship with a pregnant woman. I've found that when I am feeling in the mood, maybe the next day or a couple days later, I go above and beyond to make him feel desired sexually and it seems to be really helpful, he is understanding and happy that we are able to be intimate when the time comes, he doesn't hold on to their feeligs of disappointment or frustration.

dramaphile · June 2015

DH and I had an argument a couple of days ago about sex, mainly that I feel like he doesn't know what to do if he can't do what we usually do (i used to like a lot of breast stimulation, but I am too sensitive for that now). It's like he forgot he can touch me other places... We had an argument that ended in my crying, and then ended up having pretty good makeup sex, so. Hopefully that will help for next time.

QueenWaldorf2 · June 2015

cupcake0987 said:
It seems like men start to act funny now that your pregnant. With our first baby, it was like that but now that we have a child already, sex seems hard to come by these days. I wouldn't worry but it's just going to get harder and harder. Have you tried the Preggie community. It's a great place to vent. Lots of moms going through the same thing. https://preggieapp.com/r/preggie_usa

I think this is a pretty great place to vent and I see quite a few women posting that they are also going through this so I'm not sure what the point of posting a different community is.

mic411 · June 2015

kmkrushi said:
I got pretty lucky with DH. He may not get it but he understands enough not to push it. I think watching me limp through house or hearing me puke in the bathroom gives him enough physical evidence of how just not in the mood I can be!

Thank God for the good husbands out there!!!

taykerslake · June 2015

I had an ex that would get pouty if we didn't have sex when he wanted. Needless to say that was a key factor in our breakup. My fiancé never pressures me or makes me feel bad about it which makes me want to pleasure him even more when I'm actually in the mood. I'm just so thankful for that amazing man! ❤️

shortiebs · June 2015

What about hand jobs or oral if you are feeling crampy? And if he pouts.....

marsbars25 · June 2015

I think cupcake0987 must work for Preggie; she's commenting all over this board to recommend going there.

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