Not going back to work?

tiffanylea0320 · June 2015

Is anyone on here not planning on going back to work after the baby comes?

I found out I was expecting my second day at a new job. My husband and I were trying, but I didn't know I was pregnant when I was interviewing. I just want to work and save up as long as I'm able. Since we live far away from family, I am planning on staying at home full time instead of working to pay for childcare. I don't plan on telling my boss until I have to, especially since I'm worried they will try to find a reason to let me go after I tell them I'm pregnant. There's a probation period of 3 months, so I'm definitely waiting until that's up.

Has anyone else been through this or have a plan to tell your boss you're pregnant and leaving in December/early January?

Knottie28750268 · June 2015

I'm on the fence. I like my job but even now I have other things that I want to take care of rather than work. I've already taken off one day a week to have time to start getting things done around my house and ready for the baby. I work in finance for a company and actually, leaving in December would be perfect since its the end of our fiscal year. However, I think I may offer 1/2 days a week after a maternity leave period. It's a small company and I don't want to leave my boss out to dry. I also run our concrete business that my husband owns and do all the administrative side of that as well as financial and that's a job I can't quit lol so...I have a lot of organizing to do with work and schedule and baby etc. But I totally have the same feelings.

Malic · June 2015

I'm planning on staying home once I have the baby bc daycare is so expensive and my current commute is really long. It just doesn't make sense once a baby is in the picture. I was just stressing about how to handle it last night. I'm going to wait to tell them I'm pregnant until I start showing. Not sure whether to tell them right away that I won't be coming back or if I should initially say I'm staying and then "change my mind" later. So glad you posted this! I'm curious as to how others handled it...

alyssawalsh · June 2015

My husband decided it would be best if I stopped working now and just stayed home with my 2.5 year old so he could work more since he makes more money. I didn't object at all. I stayed home with my daughter until she was almost 2 and I love that I will be able to do the same with the next baby.

Blueyedsky · June 2015

I'll be staying home

hubby makes a lot so me staying home will allow him to do his thing and not have to worry so much about the kiddo and home stuff. I will be working on my grad degree still, but that's something I can do at home.

CaraBoonie · June 2015

I plan on staying home the first 6 months but it's a unique situation...I'm in grad school to become an elementary school teacher and planned this baby exactly to pop it out a month after I graduate (in December) and then have all Feb-Aug to stay with baby before hopefully being a fulltime teacher next fall, so it was a meticulously planned time off where I likely would have been jobless anyway

laxdixdar · June 2015

I'm on the fence. I'm currently at my dream job, but I'm 97% sure I won't be able to leave an infant with anyone else. My husband makes plenty to keep us comfortable, but the extravagance my income allows will be missed. That being said I will probably not make my decision until my 12 weeks maternity are almost up.

steph_pegasus · June 2015

I already stay at home with DD, but when my sister had her son she used up all the leave and paid vacation she could before quitting. She worked for a large retail store though, so they were probably not hard pressed by her doing so. I'd say it depends on the employee situation at your company, as well as your maternity or leave benefits.

babybluu · June 2015

I will be quitting after the baby is born. I never thought I would but by the time I will be cleared to go back to work, dh will be deploying. So he won't be able to watch the baby while I'm at work. And the only way it would be worth it paying for day care is if I worked a ton, mostly late nights because that's where the money/tips come in at my job. And I don't really want to be missing out on that much of my child's life just to go to work to make a little bit of money. I may go back when dh gets back from deployment but by then I will have been gone for 8-10 months already. It doesn't seem to be possible, and we don't NEED my job especially since dh just got promoted/pay raise.

Paige6410 · June 2015

DH had a slightly higher paying job when DS2 came around, so I took a year off. It made breastfeeding so much easier. After DS1, I only took 3 months and it made me really depressed.

This time I'm hoping to save as much as possible and that DH gets a raise that he put in for. I plan on EBF this baby as well and it's impossible as a bartender/server to take breaks to pump. Plus, there's literally no where for me to go and do it privately. I'm hoping to take a year again, but it's a wait and see kind of thing.

babybluu · June 2015

Paige6410 said:
DH had a slightly higher paying job when DS2 came around, so I took a year off. It made breastfeeding so much easier. After DS1, I only took 3 months and it made me really depressed.

This time I'm hoping to save as much as possible and that DH gets a raise that he put in for. I plan on EBF this baby as well and it's impossible as a bartender/server to take breaks to pump. Plus, there's literally no where for me to go and do it privately. I'm hoping to take a year again, but it's a wait and see kind of thing.

Ugh I'm a server as well and I didn't even think about pumping! Yeah... Definitely not going to be able to go back to work.

l4rk · June 2015

I plan to take 6 months to a year off, but my province covers maternity/paternity benefits for that long. My SO and I might split the tim off or I might just take it all. He makes quite a bit more so financially it makes sense for him to work, but there's more to life than money so we're leaving our options open. Anyway, we both work for the same company, and we both run departments, so I plan to tell them once I make it out of the first tri. I want as much time as possible to prepare, and it will also explain some things to my boss (like why I'm so eager to hire more staff right now and why I don't want to attend an out of country conference in December...)

thereisalight · June 2015

After DS I became SAH. My husband worked random hours at the time and would be on call which made it really difficult to plan around. My income would be barely anything after daycare, it just wasn't worth it. Times were tight for a few months there but he got a promotion and raise that gave us breathing room.

Fast forward 2 years and I now work part time. I went back so we could afford to move to a better school district, aka our mortgage doubled. DH is up for a raise at the end of the year... I'm hoping it's decent so that I can drop a morning or two. I loved being home full time with DS and feel guilty that it's not looking possible with the next one. I shouldn't complain because it's only part time, I just loved my experience the first time around.

I feel like everyone's different. I've never been very invested in my career so it wasn't a difficult decision. I can see why women who have invested a lot in their career stay... Not to mention its a huge financial choice that not everyone can manage.

MissMheMhe · June 2015

I would love to be able to stay home. But the cost of insurance alone is reason for me to go back to work. I work for the state and have great family coverage for $180/month. If I and the baby were to go on DH's insurance, it would be over $700/month. The cost of childcare and insurance together will not add up to that amount.

yankeeinthesouth · June 2015

I am planning to stay home for quite a while after our baby comes. It will definitely make things more tight financially but manageable none-the-less. Yes, childcare is crazy expensive. But more than that, I just don't want my baby to have to spend all day in a preschool.

dksport03 · June 2015

I'll probably stay home. If not i'll be working to pay daycare and nothing else, plus itll save money on DS before and after school care.

SparklesC · June 2015

I'm still on the fence. I work for the state and I finally landed a job that I like, but I work an hour away from home and daycare is expensive. I don't want my kid with someone else all day instead of me. My husband really wants me to stay at home, but I worry about money being tight. I also worry about when I re-enter the workforce and not being able to land something I like again.

carlyhammond · June 2015

I've been working almost 6 days a week since I was 18 (I'm 24 now).
I'm getting tired and restless- especially with the baby on the way.
My boyfriend is suggesting that I stay at home with the baby. I'm not complaining.
I don't want to burden my family with having to babysit, plus I'm planning on breast feeding so it'll just be a hassle to have to find someone to babysit plus finding a way to pump - so I'm planning on staying at home.
My boyfriend makes enough for us to live comfortably and be ok with everything so... I'm ok with it. I actually can't wait

kmcc14 · June 2015

I will be quitting my job to STAH. I hate my job, and since my SKs are with us 50% of the time already, we would be spending most of my income on daycare for them and LO. I'm not sure when I will let my work know that I am not coming back.

mom2be2016 · June 2015

I'm pretty positive I will end up staying at home. As far as telling work you are not coming back, I am wondering the same thing. I still want to take advantage of maternity leave. My plan is to tell work I am coming back, and then towards the end of leave telling them I have decided to stay at home, and I won't be coming back. Otherwise, if you tell them upfront you are not coming back then I am not sure that you would get any maternity leave/pay (assuming not). Our maternity leave is covered by short term disability (60% of regular pay), which is better than nothing at all.

cyanope · June 2015

I would love to stay at home. Unfortunately, I live in Sam Diego (crazy expensive), and DH and I just bought a home...so that's not possible. Luckily I'm a teacher, so I will have all holidays/summers off. Also, my MIL has a really small (usually only 1-4 kids depending on the day), at-home daycare that she has run for 20+ years, and I don't see her stopping anything soon. Who better to watch LO than someone who loves him/her? Of course I struggle with this, but it is the reality if we want to survive financially!

mamaksweez · June 2015

My dd just turned 1. When I was pregnant with her I was working at an elementary school and I had her the week before the last week of school. I told my principal I'd be staying home, she said ok, but called me at the end of June to check that I still was planning to stay home, before she gave my job away. (Because it really is different than you think it will be.) after the first 4 months - which are a little slice of hell - I totally loved it, and I'm super glad I get to spend my days with my little princess!

apinkpelican · June 2015

I have a 13month old and have worked after she was born but am going to put my notice in next week. So I'll work through Aug. We are crazy busy in the fall/winter and since I know I'm leaving I figure it'd be better to leave now than to put them in a bad position being down a person during busy season.

I also don't feel comfortable taking maternity leave with them thinking I'll be back just to say that I won't be. My husband makes enough so that this is possible but I understand those that want to stretch the pay checks until the end. This will also give me some extra time to spend with my girl before the new one comes along.

I'm excited and sad at the same time. I have a great job and a lot if responsibility that I will miss. I'm worried about losing my identity and am worried about being bored. I've also been independent and made my own money for so long that it will be hard to depend on my husband. I guess we need to establish a good system so I'm not asking permission to buy a damn Starbucks :-S

allslee · June 2015

I wish! But not feasible.

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