Large age gap between kids.....

kwinsor85 · June 2015

Just curious how many ladies in here have a larger age gap between their children and what their experience has been. I gave birth to my first child in March of 2006 and due to circumstances out of my control I was not able to have another child for quite some time. When we were given the Ok again we started trying. For 3 years now hubby and I have been trying to have a baby and SURPRISE as soon as he left his overly stressful job we get pregnant. We are due February 15th which will make the age gap between our children almost 9 years.

camusoh2011 · June 2015

We have a three year age gap for all except this last one (which will not quite be 2 years). That being said, I have an older brother (6 years older), an older sister (4 years older), a younger brother (by 15 years) and a younger sister (by 18 years). 9 years seems like a lot, but I bet it will actually be pretty helpful. You'll have a good helper on your hands and a kiddo who won't need to be waited on hand and foot.

kris10mac · June 2015

The gap between our two will end up being about 5 years and 8 months. It's almost exactly the distance between me and my little sister and it's always been a pretty good dynamic. I'm excited about DD being my little helper.

As far as 9 years, that's the gap between DH and his older brother. He says there were positives and negatives for him. He had a brother at home for the first nine years and then it was like being an only child. Got to experience a little of both.

erincjackson · June 2015

This will be number 4 for us. Our oldest are 10 (son) and 8 (daughter), our toddler just turned 2 (daughter); so already there is a 6 and 8 year gap and with this baby will be 10 and 8 years. Our experience has been very positive. DH and I were young when we had our first two so being older and the big kids older and more independent was very nice. We got to experience all of the baby things that we missed out on when we were younger and in "survival" mode. It will be interesting this time with 2 very involved big kids and a busy toddler; but we are excited. Our big kids are very helpful, my son always includes his sister in whatever he does but he also has his own room so also has his privacy when needed. The girls share, for now. My oldest daughter struggles sometimes but I think that is normal and we just make sure she gets the individual attention she needs and can have her own time in their room.

g8trkim · June 2015

My sister and I are 8 years apart. My mom said she loved the gap because there was never any sibling rivalry and my sister helped a lot. Of course, we were never playmates, but as adults we're very close. My friend has a 1 year old and 12 year old and she loves the age gap.

ashes1010 · June 2015

Our twins will be about 3 months shy of their 5th birthday when this baby arrives. Initially, I was worried about the "big" age gap, but now I'm excited. They're going to adore the baby and love being little helpers

ashcody2 · June 2015

Our children will be 3 years apart like my middle sister and myself - my youngest sister there is a 22 year difference so it's really weird, she's basically an only child but I think the age difference you have will be helpful! If I had lived at home, I definitely would have been helpful with my youngest sibling!

minivanmafia · June 2015

@kwinsor85 Similar story… My first son was born in July 2006. We started trying for another when he was 3 (2009) and finally had our "one more" in Oct 2013…. Im pregnant again (we were trying actually for the last one, seriously) due in Feb. So there is 7 years and 3 months between #1 and #2. ALSO… I have 2 older step sons (that don't live with us) that are 19 and 17. Talk about age gap!

mamaek · June 2015

Brother and I are 9 years apart, growing up he was like my little baby, it was fun! But more than a brother I've always seen him and I think he has seen me as a second mom. Maybe it's a gender/personality thing too.

Maybebabylay15 · June 2015

My sister and I have a 9 year age gap, and while we may have never been playmates the age difference cultivated a special bond between us. I was old enough to change diapers and watch her while my mother napped as an infant and then babysat when she was a toddler. Now that she is a teenager I have become her confidante and go-to source for advice, it's very sweet.

Blinggal24 · June 2015

My oldest will be 14 when the baby is born. My other girls will be 12 and 6 .

CarolAnn87 · June 2015

I have a sister that is 10 years younger than me. I loved taking care of her and babysitting when I was older. We have a wonderful relationship and she really looks up to me and values my advice. She is super excited about being an aunt. It might sound weird, but I think it has also made me a little more confident about having my own kids, because I remember so much about when she was a baby, and those memories are great, if a bit stinky.

rhonda101014 · June 2015

My oldest is 17 and I also have an almost 9 month old. I have to say that the age gap so far hasn't been an issue. They love to play together and it is a huge help to have an almost adult around. The one thing I don't like is that people often think that dd2 is dd1's baby. Bit she always tells them no it is my baby sister.

mels323 · June 2015

My daughter will be 6 when this baby comes. I am actually excited for the gap as I know she will be a huge help.

SarahS06 · June 2015

DS is 8. We also had him when we were young and then I went to grad school and we intentionally put off having other children. We've been trying for a while now and have had several losses. At first I was worried about the age gap but at this point I'm just thrilled to have a healthy, sticky baby. Baby #2 is due 4 days before DS's birthday.

Edit: because words and morning sickness don't mix

mcollier2118 · June 2015

My stepdaughter was born in 2007 and my son was born in April 2008. So there will be an 8 year age difference between them and the baby. I am more than thrilled because I feel like they'll be great helpers

Kat&George · June 2015

I'm in the same boat my son will turn 14 a week after squidlettes due date his looking forward to finally being a big brother

kwinsor85 · June 2015

We have yet to tell our son (I am only 6.5 weeks and my son has high functioning autism) I know he is going to be so excited because he is always be drawn to babies when they are around (and is so gentle with them). I think I just have irrational fears of how this is going to go. My son has been very independant from a young age so it will be nice to not have to wait on him hand and foot while trying to care for a newborn. Greatful to have the insight from all of you ladies as it eases my worries a little

adrimolina · June 2015

My son will be 5 when the baby is born. Ideally I would've loved a 2-3 year gap but for circumstances out of my control it took a lot longer. We haven't told him yet, first because we had a loss a few months ago and also because we don't want him telling people yet..

WL525 · June 2015

I have a 16 yr old step daughter, 12 yr old bio daughter and 9 yr old step daughter. We have quite a span in our house too with this new one expected to arrive 2/11/16. My girls are going to go nuts when i tell them

I also have a sister 15 yrs younger than me...so this is sorta common in my family i guess, lol.

teejay1981 · June 2015

My daughters will be almost 10 and 8 and my step son will be almost 5 when our new little one arrives. Super excited but a little nervous about the age gaps. I think all of our kids are going to be super excited when we finally tell them!

txmommy224 · June 2015

This is baby #3 for me. I have 2 children from a previous marriage. My oldest is 12 and my youngest is 7. My boyfriend also has a 7 year old. It's gonna be interesting to say the least. My oldest is super excited he gets to help with the new baby

prettyful78 · June 2015

I had my last child going on 12 years ago and I think the age gap is a huge advantage. My daughter is super excited and can't wait to babysit her brother\sister!

careermom06 · June 2015

My son will be 9 in November. So I'm pretty much starting over with the baby phase

DWorthy5 · June 2015

We have an 8 year gap between my oldest and baby, we'll soon to be middle! But then we will have two under two! My oldest is my stepdaughter but I have raised her since she was 3, so I consider her one of mine!! It has worked great though!!

erichandshana09 · June 2015

I have an 18 year old step daughter, 5 year old Daughter who will be six when baby comes. The 13 year age gap was tough but the girls are really close now. They do everything together and always want to be together.

I'm hoping the 6 year age gap between my youngest two will be the same. I have two brothers that are 11 and 10 years older than me and we are super close as well, so I have high hopes

lauren0571 · June 2015

There is a 12 year age gap between my little sister and I. My parents both worked full time and I became more of a third parent when she was a baby. By the time she started kindergarten I went away for college. My sister is now 16 and we are close but it's defiantly not what you'd call a "traditional sibling relationship".
I give her a hard time about her grades but I also took her to see the Arctic Monkeys for her birthday.
I think there are pros and cons to any sibling age gap. It has more to do with who the kids are as individuals and how they adapt.
I know my mom really appreciate all the extra help and in that way the age gap was a positive for her.

MelproudMom · June 2015

I have 15 yr old twin girls & a 7 yr old little girl.

erikafrivera · June 2015

I have a 15 yr old son and a 12 yr old daughter. Not sure how this will work out.

mrs3615 · June 2015

My sister and I are nearly 9 years apart. We weren't playmates and aren't very close, but it's nice because you have the benefit of a sibling in some circumstances, but the benefits of being an only child as well.

bublesmiled · June 2015

Mine will be 7 years apart when the baby comes, but she is so excited and when we go places there are younger kids, she loves helping them, so I'm hoping everything will be smooth. Me and my siblings are all 5 years apart - 5 between me and my sis and 10 between me and my bro- mom said she got to enjoy the childhood of each one. It all works out as it should.

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