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This pregnancy is terrifying me.

phillyandashleyphillyandashley
in 2nd Trimester
I just got a call from my OB. She said the results came back negative for neural tube defects but I have a slightly elevated risk of downs. She scheduled me for a level 2 ultrasound and possible amniocentesis. I will not abort if this baby is a down's baby but I'm so scared. Please help me calm down about this. I'm almost hysterical. What if this is my fault?
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  • ashleyvc1ashleyvc1

    It can't be your fault.

     

    I am in the same situation....my next US is on Monday. If you wouldn't abort then don't worry about it until you know for sure that your baby has something wrong.  STressing is not going to do you or the baby any good.

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  • lovesweetlove07lovesweetlove07

    You should wait to freak out until the test is completed. And why on earth do you think it is your fault?! You can't think that!

    My thoughts are with you though.

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  • ChikarebeldeChikarebelde
    One thing is for sure...none of this is your fault!! And it's hard, but try your best to not get ahead of yourself...you need to be calm and avoid over-stressing yourself for your sake and your baby's! And note that your MD said 'risk'..she did not make a diagnosis yet! Hang in there! we'll all be here to hold your hand no matter what happens!
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  • mrsjazzsingermrsjazzsinger
    Aww hun its going to be okay. One of my friends who is also pregnant had her NT scan come back with an elevated risk of downs, but there is also a very high rate of false positives with the test (someone correct me if I am wrong). She went in for the US and everything was fine and she even got to find out that she is having a healthy little girl a few weeks early (her big US was scheduled for 20 weeks and she had this one around 17 weeks). I know its hard not to worry though, you'll be in my thoughts and prayers!
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  • Mary0913Mary0913
    This is NOT your fault.  Keep in mind that lots of these test come back with false-positives for DS and that the ultrasound and/or amnio will definitely clarify things for you.  We are here for you!!
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  • toospookytoospooky

    First off, ditto pp....there is no way it's your fault if your child has an elevated risk for Down's.

    Secondly, it's an elevated risk. Not a 100% chance, just a slight possibility. Slight. Not huge, not likely, just slight. Besides which, there is a high rate of false positives. It could very well turn out to be nothing at all.

    Thirdly, your doctor cares about the health of you and your baby by scheduling another exam. That should alleviate your worries somewhat...you have a support source from your doc.

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  • Rizzo5Rizzo5
    Though I'm sure your initial reaction is to place blame (either or yourself or others) for this possible disability...please try to take one day at a time.  Try to focus on your next u/s and go on from there.  GL.
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  • sarahryandrewlosarahryandrewlo

    My doc told me when I went in for the screaning that they scare 2 out of 3 woman with that type of stuff, when everything is fine.  I'm sure everything will be fine.

    And, of course you want your child to be healthy- but I think downs kids are so cute.

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  • phillyandashleyphillyandashley
    Thank you all for your kind words, I know I tend to worry about silly things, but every time, you're there to catch me. I appreciate it so much. My doc did tell me it's borderline- she wants to see 1 in 270 and I got 1 in 265, but I can't help my mind racing in a million directions and assuming the worst. This is my first baby, and very well may be the last! It seems like I can't get a test without something happening. I pray that everything is okay and things go smoothly for the rest of this pregnancy and most of all that my baby is healthy, Down's Syndrome or not. I will love it the same. Thanks again. Oh yes, and remind me I said this in 18 months when I get knocked up again. I'm sure of it.
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  • CeltiCutieCeltiCutie member
    You seemed calm down now but I just want to offer my support as well! :) My doctor has told me that he has delivered thousands of baby's in his career (he's quite an older gentlemen) and he said that NONE of them have had Down's and of those probably at least 1/2 of them did the scans and about 1/2 of that 1/2 test positive.  The tests just are not that accurate, which is why DH and I, personally, didn't even bother. We knew we were not prepared to take the risk of amnio, nor abort, so it wasn't even worth it for us, ya know? Anyway,  Hopefully the false positive is the case w/ you and your little one is perfectly fine!  & If not, you sound that you are a good person & will be a great mommy to a very lucky little boy or girl!
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  • sarahns80sarahns80 member

    I would just pray and know that it's not your fault. I will pray for u too. Nothing is impossible for God.

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