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Husband in delivery room help

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My husband feels faint around blood / hospitals, but really wants to be there for me in labour. Any tips for him?
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  • kat+1kat+1 member
    Tell him to stay at your head..
    My hubby wasn't sure if he wanted to watch our son come out but after he watched a few YouTube videos that I selected ( very easy no screaming no cutting not much blood....hubby friendly videos) he was excited to be able to watch and see the in real life.
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  • mtxomtxo member
    Thanks guys :-)
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  • JNOVA2015JNOVA2015 member
    My husband is like this too! He has decided that he's going to stay by my head and not watch any of the potentially graphics parts. He is also going to make sure he has a chair to sit in, and if he faints he'll just pick back up and keep going when he revives...

    I'm also going to make sure to pack snacks for him in the hospital bag, because being hungry makes it worse. And I will let the nurses know he's a fainting risk so that they are prepared!!

    Honestly, for some reason I find the whole thing hilarious. My husband is a total guy's guy, he's never ever sick, and he's not the least bit squeamish about anything but hospitals. It cracks me up to see him so discomfited by them. He sits there in all of my appointments looking like he's about to flee the room, even if they're just checking my blood pressure.
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  • mtxomtxo member
    Haha! Same here. He's coming with me to birthing classes now and asks me if he's pale once in a while:) (he's not), but he's so sweet writing notes and stuff. I wonder if the adrenaline will help them stay focused and be strong with all the screaming going on ( I can't take epidural cuz of low blood PLT).
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  • cseley321cseley321 member
    Mine has been watching videos to prepare. I told him to stay by my head but he insists he wants to see it all go down.... I just know he is going to faint :/
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  • thesportsgalthesportsgal member
    My tip?  Suck it up, buddy, you're not doing anything ;) 

    I'm kidding but my husband is the same way.  Outside of my sarcastic comments asking him what I could POSSIBLY do to make this easier on HIM, I let him just do his own thing.  He didn't want to see anything or cut any cord or anything like that which is totally fine!  He needed a chair to sit in so he wouldn't faint and he left for breaks every couple of hours or so.  I never forced anything on him other than he HAD to be there and couldn't go wait in a local bar. 

    I'm sure he'll be fine, adrenaline kicks in.  Just try to be understanding that it's hard for them to watch us in labor!  

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  • Miz_LizMiz_Liz member
    I am actually kind of jealous - I wish there was a polite way for me to tell my DH to stay up by my head. I feel like I wasn't pushing as hard as I needed to at first with DS because I was too worried about DH seeing me poop! If he was up by my head, I wouldn't worry about that :) I agree with everyone, just tell him to stay up by you and talk to you.
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  • dkizz82dkizz82 member
    My husband is this way too and it kinda pisses me off. I mean come on, look what all I've been through a how much I will be going through that day and you're gonna get faint? I told him to stand at my head. He'll have a chair. If he passes out, he'll be ok. Lol
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  • jenandbrettjenandbrett member
    JNOVA2015 said:
    My husband is like this too! He has decided that he's going to stay by my head and not watch any of the potentially graphics parts. He is also going to make sure he has a chair to sit in, and if he faints he'll just pick back up and keep going when he revives... I'm also going to make sure to pack snacks for him in the hospital bag, because being hungry makes it worse. And I will let the nurses know he's a fainting risk so that they are prepared!! Honestly, for some reason I find the whole thing hilarious. My husband is a total guy's guy, he's never ever sick, and he's not the least bit squeamish about anything but hospitals. It cracks me up to see him so discomfited by them. He sits there in all of my appointments looking like he's about to flee the room, even if they're just checking my blood pressure.

    This was our situation exactly.  My husband was completely awesome the entire labor, but as soon as I started to push, he got faint and almost passed out.  He sat down for a few minutes and then got right back in the game.  I don't fault him at all.  Imagine watching the person you love more than anything go through this and knowing you can't do anything.  And men are generally slightly detached during pregnancy since they can't experience everything.  Then all of a sudden, they know a human will be there depending on them within minutes.  It's pretty overwhelming!
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    Beautiful daughter Alyssa born April 23, 2011 
    Precious son Isaac born at 34 weeks in April 27, 2014 with Potters Syndrome Type 4 and Down Syndrome - trusted into the arms of Jesus after 3 hours.
    Pregnant again! Due August 8, 2015 please be healthy, little one!

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  • GooblinGooblin member
    My dad was like this but he was at all 5 of my moms births. He stayed turned towards her head the whole time and got her whatever she needed as long as he never had to see anything. My husband and I are work emergency medical services so he is over the top into all of it and brings me my placenta to inspect afterwards ... Lol even our kids think we are gross hah.
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  • KaylaLovesNoahKaylaLovesNoah member
    I'm planning in telling DH I want him up at my shoulders helping me, maybe have him put him arm around my shoulders :) the Dr knows what she's doing he doesn't need to be anywhere near ground zero!
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  • BafryBafry member
    My husband would deliver the baby himself if we'd (my dr and i) let him.  He's not going to get that option. lol I want him by my head. I agree that i don't want him to see me pooping if it happens. lol... or making noises "oooh. that's so cool"  so maybe i will keep him up by me : ) lol
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  • mpmom1518mpmom1518 member
    My mom ended up having me cesarean, and I love the way my dad described his experience watching it to my DH and I last week. He said that when they first started it he got kinda iffy and went to sit down for a second, but then his brain kicked in and said "wait a minute... this is my baby being born." He said there's no way I'm missing it even if it looks different than I prepared for, so he got back in there and watched them pull me out and he still teared up talking about it 28 years later. He said the fact that he was watching a surgery was secondary to watching the birth of his child.
    not necessarily helpful, but maybe? It helped my husband and I with any squeamish thoughts we had about what it might look like to him.
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