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Siaffa · June 2015

I am 19w 3days pregnant and things are going good between my boyfriend and I. I am having hard time trusting him because he has cheated on me before and because of that we fights all the time. We don't have good communication between us. I feel like, am losing my myself and I am losing the best time of my life. This is my first child. Please I need advice

gumby22c · June 2015

What @HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said. If he can't step up and you can't trust him, why stay together? The baby isn't a good enough reason to stay miserable. Also, counseling might be a good idea.

ash413 · June 2015

What kind of advise are you looking for?
I would say don't have baby with him, but it's a little late for that. He will be in your life now for 18 years/forever.
At the very least you guys need to work on your communication, you may benifit from couples counseling.
You need to decide if this is a healthy relationship, and if not leave, and establish a Co parenting relationship.

maura+c · June 2015

I again would go with the other ladies advice and try counseling. It might be that he made a mistake in the past and you are having a hard time trusting again (which is completely understandable). My best friend went through the same thing when she was about 7 months pregnant. She went through his car, things, etc. to find what she was looking for and there was nothing. Not saying he's not, but once he lost the trust- it's way easier to say let's move past this and move on. Unfortunately, it's always going to be in the back of your mind.
My advice is try to reach out and talk to a professional who is a neutral party in the situation. Also, ask him to give you a break considering he made the mistake and you are pregnant with his baby, so he needs to try his best to fix things instead of fighting! Good luck

Cook3133 · June 2015

Communication is key in any relationship. It takes a lot to forgive but it's something you have to ask yourself if you can do it. Trust is such a hard thing to repair once it's broken. I suggest counseling. You may not be married but with a baby coming you are family now. Wether you choose to stay with him or not you both have to get along and establish some kind of trust for your child. Try a marriage counselor to help repair your relationship. If you're both willing to work on this together counseling can do wonders!! It saved my marriage!

If he won't go with you go for yourself!! A lot of places offer assistance for couceling if it's not really in your budget. Also insurance can cover a few sessions along with some employers offer 4-6 sessions a year to keep their employees happy

vrossolille · June 2015

@Siaffa Hi! Do u mind me asking if you are young??? My husband and i met at 16. We were both young. I got pregnant when I was 19. We had cheating issues as well.(before we were married) w It IS something you can work at if you really want. I suggest professional help but for us AFTER the baby was born everything changed. My pregnancy he was not around much. We always had issues after he cheated. But when his daughter was born, it was so weird how everything changed. For a man, a young one at that a pregnancy doesn't necessarily do it as it does t become real to them until they see there little being they created. Today, we are married. We married when our daughter was 2.... I would never ever in a million years believe it if someone told me he
cheated now. So you can come back from it.

FYI:we are still married today and have been together 20 years and couldn't be happier!

Siaffa · June 2015

Thanks everyone @vrossolille we have been together for six years now, I met him when I was around 16 years old. I am 22 soon. We were both very young and maybe still really young but I really want us to work. I don't just know if I will be able to forget the past, it's still hurts so bad

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