Leaving Baby..?

Re: Leaving Baby..?

• slipsintothesea member

  June 2015

  My little one is 8 1/2 weeks old and I'm not ready to leave him either.... I'm breastfeeding as well so I can understand being hesitant about that. Plus, I only really trust my parents to watch him and they are an hour and some away from our house. My mil keeps asking every time we see them but she has been down right awful towards me at times and doesn't listen to me about things with him (he has colic). Last time we saw them she said a bunch of passive aggressive rude things to me and then before she left she told my husband to use our baby to "pick up chicks."
  
  I think it's ok to go out for a few hours as long as you have someone you trust to watch your little one. I would just be careful about drinking... I don't know how long alcohol stays in your breastmilk.

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• Coco118 member

  June 2015

  My husband is Army and had a ball when baby was 6 weeks old so we had to leave her for about 5 hours for that. My MIL watched her (she is also a total nightmare of a MIL but I trust her as a caretaker). I also breastfeed so I fed baby before we left, pumped in car with a car adaptor before going in (it was at a place a little over an hour away and I wanted to start the evening with empty boobs!), stayed for 2.5 hours then left a half hour before my husband so I could pump in the car again before driving us home. Then I fed baby once we were home. I limited myself to one glass of wine that night but from what I've read one drink per hour is considered safe. I just was nervous about driving over an hour and late at night after more than one glass.
  Baby drank 2 bottles while I was gone, bottles I had pumped prior (I've been pumping a bottle per day to build up my freezer stash). I had a 3rd one ready to for if she seemed like she really needed it or if we ran late for some reason.
  Go ahead and get out! It was hard walking out the door but so so wonderful to be out socializing and having fun with my husband. And if it's someone you trust, you'll know baby is okay and happy. Also make sure they send you lots of pics while you're out that let me know she was totally happy!

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• lmk115 member

  June 2015

  As long as you trust the person, I say go for it! It's not easy at first, buts it's good for everyone. (I also would not leave my baby with my MIL, it wouldn't be able to enjoy the night out at all.)
  
  At 5 weeks, my sister was in town from the opposite coast, so I went out to dinner with her. We didn't have anyone we felt comfortable leaving LO with that soon, so my husband stayed home. He sent me pictures of my LO drinking from the bottle, it made me feel better knowing he was eating. We also stayed very close, just in case I needed to be home.
  
  At 9 weeks, we were visiting my parents, so my husband and I went out and left the LO with my parents. They are huge baby people who I trust completely to handle everything. I also texted to check in with them. With them we stayed out for over 3 hours and really could relax.
  
  As for drinking, alcohol leaves your breast milk at the same pace it leaves your blood. This means you can process about one drink an hour. Wait one hour per drink to either pump or breast feed. If you need to pump sooner, due to discomfort, then you would have to pump and dump.

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• smilesallaround member

  June 2015

  I left my son to go out to lunch with my mom when he was two weeks old. It was so tough but now I'm thankful I have done it. I now leave him with my husband once a week to go shopping (my time alone each week) and I have left him with my MIL (I'm going to brag that I have the best MIL in the world) and with my mom a few times.
  
  Definitely go out for your birthday! You deserve some time to yourself. If you have a pump just build a little stash ahead of time to leave as a just in case. I have also found that I don't have to pump right at the time he eats. So sometimes I'll be out for 4 or 5 hours and just pump as soon as I get home to replace the one I took out of the freezer. Then I'll feed him again at his normal time.

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• Pix3lle member

  June 2015

  I think i left him at about 2 weeks for an hour but i left him with his dad so i could go register his birth. I feel really anxious about leaving him with anyone else though
  
  

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• Megaphone2752 member

  June 2015

  I left DD with my mom at two weeks and several times since. It's refreshing to get out

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