I have felt similarly and am a FTM. Frequently I feel that once I have the daily tasks done (cooking, neatening up, etc) I have little time for other things on the to-do list that are more baby-related, such as going through unpacked boxes from our March move to clear the room that will be the nursery. (Time for baby things besides reading and participating here, haha.)
I think both the physical and hormomal changes of pregnancy as well as legitimately having a lot to do before baby comes are playing a role in our feelings of having inadequate time. My suggestion would be to have your list and do what you can, but insist on finding enjoyment and satisfaction in other things besides "making progress". Enjoy being pregnant, especially this easier second trimester! Enlist the help of family and friends if needed to take some burdens off. And if everything isn't your version of perfect once the baby comes, it's ok. Just make sure the essentials are in place!
@Llynde5, I don't know why you deleted the post, but I do know that your concerns are valid and common. (I read it in a moment of sleeplessness this morning.) Instead of doing a huge checklist, I would make a weekly one and then break it down by day. What can you do each day, even if it's super small, to move toward feeling ready?
As a STM, I remember that feeling as we were preparing for DD. I think it's so different with the first because it is a huge shift. Going from one to two doesn't seem that huge at this point (that could change). I remember feeling overwhelmed some days and feeling ready other days. As time grew closer, I also remember realizing (or letting it really sink in) that all my DD was going to need would be diapers, wipes, and a places to sleep (and me and DH). The rest of the stuff will happen.
Now with a toddler and one on the way, I feel so much more prepared. I hope that gives you some hope for this change! It is incredible and amazing and every other good thing I can think of right now. You're going to be a rockstar
Thanks for the kind words:) I need them!! I was super overwhelmed when I posted that last night. When I woke up this morning and found that no one had commented I felt very alone and though damn all of these moms are prepared:( I sent a text to my group of girls and they calmed me down and let me know what I was feeling was normal:) I deleted the post because I felt stupid for look for support and not getting any. So thank you @LiveNLove44, it really means a lot on a not so great day:)
@Sballerina Thank you too!! I will try you suggestions. We are in the middle of a move too! I have a lot on my plate right now and probably need to let some things go:)
Awww @LLynde5! I started writing a response early this morning and really wanted to finish, but I got exhausted! I totally would have pushed through if I knew you needed the encouragement that much.
Yes, especially if you moved recently, be gentle on yourself! Set reasonable goals. I don't like it, but I might not be able to do everything I want to by the time the baby comes. And it will be ok! Everything that is needed will be ok. And honestly, if we can take one day at a time and not WORRY (life-robbing trap that it is!), we probably will do most of what we want, too.
Re: Not enough hours in a day:(
I think both the physical and hormomal changes of pregnancy as well as legitimately having a lot to do before baby comes are playing a role in our feelings of having inadequate time. My suggestion would be to have your list and do what you can, but insist on finding enjoyment and satisfaction in other things besides "making progress". Enjoy being pregnant, especially this easier second trimester! Enlist the help of family and friends if needed to take some burdens off. And if everything isn't your version of perfect once the baby comes, it's ok.
Yes, especially if you moved recently, be gentle on yourself! Set reasonable goals. I don't like it, but I might not be able to do everything I want to by the time the baby comes. And it will be ok! Everything that is needed will be ok. And honestly, if we can take one day at a time and not WORRY (life-robbing trap that it is!), we probably will do most of what we want, too.