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The scary first trimester! How to cope? Is it to early to celebrate!?

LMRDMRLMRDMR member
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Hello ladies this is my second time finding out in pregnant the first time sadly didn not end well. Took us 9 months the first time and about the same time this time around to finally get pregnant! I feel stuck in pregnancy limbo like I can't yet rejoice due to the fact that this stage is sooo fragile! I'm sure this has been discussed a ton on here just looking for ways to distract my mind! The days seem to drag.

The first time I found out I was pregnant I had a weird mothers intuition something was wrong. Unfortunately I was right. This time around I don't have that feeling but I'm still apprehensive about getting excited!
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Re: The scary first trimester! How to cope? Is it to early to celebrate!?

  • lsilvaylsilvay member
    I know exactly how you feel about being confused whether to start picking out nursery colors or what. What I started to do so the anxiety and stress of not knowing what's happening didn't consume me is I started to "journal" my thoughts. I am writing as though I am talking to the baby to be. I tell "her" when she is making me nervous, when she is scaring me, and when she gives me butterflies with excitement. I don't know if this will help at all but it has certainly given me an outlet to get the thoughts out of my head and in to something that is still private but not just all jumbled in my head. My plan is that maybe later in life when this baby is all grown up and having their first baby that I will give them my journal so they know they aren't alone.

    I know it is easier said than done but try to breath, not stress too much, and be happy knowing that you are still able to become pregnant. I will certainly be keeping my fingers crossed for you! Good luck! <3
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  • Life is ExcitingLife is Exciting member
    There is an awesome thread in I think the January 2016 birth club board where someone broke out the probability of NOT having a miscarriage into a chart so you can look at it and say: I'm 7w4d pregnant and my probability of NOT having a m/c is 97.2%. Really put my mind at ease. I'd link to it, but I'm on mobile.
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  • Life is ExcitingLife is Exciting member
    The post is called "the odds of NOT having an early miscarriage."
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  • LMRDMRLMRDMR member
    Thank you! I will definitely be trying the journal method! Anything to help! Just wish I had not found out to early! I'm a little over 2 weeks ! Such high risk time :(!
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  • LMRDMRLMRDMR member
    Thank you posting the thread! Can't wait till I can actually teach those more secure time frames I think I'm only 2-3 weeks ! Which is so early
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  • vaivatavaivata member
    That helped my fears haha im 6w today and trying not to think about m/c but its in the back of my head, making it hard to celebrate. Hope the best for all of us!
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  • LMRDMRLMRDMR member
    Congrats! I'm six weeks Sunday! I'm over analyzing every body ache and feeling! Can't wait to get to some sort of safe zone! Or at least make it to first ultrasound! :)
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  • cheenicheeni member
    I'm seven weeks in two days x got my scan early tommorow, having some unusual
    pains.
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  • LMRDMRLMRDMR member
    Congrats! I am trying not to over think every ache and pain. Today I had cramping and it's made me nervous :/! No bleeding thank God. Being a first time mom is weird so much uncharted territory!
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  • alikat150alikat150 member
    I am newly pregnant (found out last Thursday) and am almost 6 weeks along although I actually think I'm earlier than that and I've been SO nervous the whole time. There was a very brief window after taking the test and it coming back positive where I was excited, but then I started having pain in my side and have been scared of miscarriage ever since. I let the doctor know and she wanted me to come in for an ultrasound, but it was too early to see anything. She did blood work to see my HCG levels and the first one was very low, but the second one had tripled which is a good sign. They want me to come back in a week to do another sign to check for viability. I'm having a very hard time thinking positive. I want to be excited but I'm scared! 
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  • LMRDMRLMRDMR member
    @alikat150 I completely relate! I pray that you have peace of mind during this time! All you can do is try and be excited that you were able to get pregnant. Many women aren't blessed with that ability and that's what I try and remind myself of when I get down! I've read once you get into the 6 week mark that MC possibility reduces:)!

    Either way try and enjoy your pregnancy I know it's easier said then done! I wish you the best !
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  • FidgetteFidgette member
    I'm 6 weeks today and sometimes being on this board can also give stress because it seems like so many people are talking about loss. But it's also a great place to get insight, information and support. 

    Thanks for the information on the liklihood of NOT having a miscarriage :) 
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  • sheslikeasunburnsheslikeasunburn member
    I very much relate to this feeling.  I have found this community extremely helpful in promoting positive thinking.  I also like seeing how many people are worrying about the same things -- spotting, cramping, symptoms, excitement, etc.  Really helps ease my mind and shows none of us is alone.  Congratulations!
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  • LMRDMRLMRDMR member
    Thank you ! Congratulations to you too! Question to all you ladies! I understand we all have different experiences with our pregnancies but how many of you experience fluctuations of having symptoms and not ? I get really nervous like I'm sure most do when my symptoms subside.
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  • aspain13aspain13 member
    I am 7 weeks today and I have definitely been dealing with morning sickness. Otherwise I don't seem to have many symptoms but morning sickness really sucks. Does anyone have any foods that help them with morning sickness?
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  • princesspriscillaprincesspriscilla member
    @LMRDMR I have been experiencing fluctuation in symptoms as well. I also worry a little about the variance and fluctuation of my symptoms, i.e., (I am 6 weeks) at 5 weeks I experienced abdominal cramping (no bleeding), hormonal rages, bloating, fatigue, food aversions, cravings for anything salty/sour, hot flushes. However, at 6 weeks I am experiencing only sour/salty cravings and fatigue. Definitely won't complain about morning sickness being non-existent right now.

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  • LMRDMRLMRDMR member
    @princesspriscilla I'm currently six weeks as well and the only symptom I'm having is I have to pee all the time !! (Sorry TMI) and minor nausea! I did have small spotting and freaked out called my dr they said just stay off my feet and to stay hydrated based on what I described to her she said I should be ok but if the spotting turns into bleeding to go in! Wish me luck! I had a MC last year and really praying everything turns out well this time around!
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  • princesspriscillaprincesspriscilla member
    @LMRDMR Oh yes, sorry I left out the symptom of frequent urination. Pretty much about to put a futon or cot in the bathroom lol...it's my new found sanctuary. I did have light spotting a couple weeks ago, which was implantation bleeding. I'm glad everything is ok with you - sending positive thoughts, prayers, and the best of luck to your LO.

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