beauty pageant your thing or not and why

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• kwaldy member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  Unless my daughter comes to me and decides it's something that she is DYING to do, I wouldn't do it. It's a really expensive activity, and personally I believe it puts emphasis on the wrong aspects of a person (i.e. beauty over intelligence, etc.) Not to mention, I don't really believe in makeup on little girls. Just not something I'm into, but to each their own.

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• thegingeravenger member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  Not my thing personally. If the kiddo I'm growing expresses interest in trying out pagents I'm not going to say no. I just don't agree with making your child into a circus monkey because it's YOUR dream.

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• lakesideknitter member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  I assume you're asking about child beauty pageants... I'm gonna say I'd probably say no to this one. Our society already places so much value on looks, and children realize that, even subliminally. I'd rather not pile overt messages that looks are the most important thing on top of that... I guess as a teenager he/she could make their own decision, but child beauty pageants are super gross to me.

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• CarrieOct15 member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  If I have a daughter & it's something she seriously wanted to do, I would most likely support her. I just think the whole debacle is incredibly sexist & puts further emphasis on society's view that women are objects put here to be looked at.

  
  

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• lopezalonso member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  I did these as a child and I've got to say, the pressure is INTENSE. If I didn't win, I often left feeling less pretty than the rest and  guilty that my parents spent all that money for nothing. Now, that's my own experience. If my daughter really wanted to try it when she was an older child or adolescent I would allow her the opportunity to try it but I would never suggest it or encourage her to do it. She is beautiful and that means more than the standards to which beauty pageants adhere. I don't want her to feel that those are the standards for beauty. I want her to feel confident and beautiful no matter who she is. 

  
  

  I guess in short, I think pageants do nothing for you. If you win, you already knew you were beautiful... and if you don't, you just feel worse about yourself. 

  
  

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• Kitta+1 member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  I was in a "distinguished youth of America" pageant when I was younger - I think elementary, I hardly remember it.  I was excited and honored because there were very high academic standards to even be eligible and it was invite only based on what percentile you were in in the TAAS testing. Even though the entry was academically based though, once I got there it was all about makeup, hair, and dresses.  I am a girly girl and I loved the three days of princess treatment, even though I didn't win I enjoyed myself a lot and made friends that meant a lot to me.  At the same time, adult me feels a little uncomfortable with it - societal pressure and all.  I wouldn't put my daughter up for that kind of thing, but if she got invited to one like the one I was in, I think I'd tell adult me to listen to child me and let her go, lol.

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• DylansCandyBar member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  its a big fat no for me.

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• DrMommaDVM member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  Nope. Not for my kids. Ever. I don't care if they want to. We wouldn't be able to stomach it. No. Nope, nope, nope. Ew.

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• Ceridwen77 member

  June 2015 edited June 2015 Answer ✓

  I think this is a regional thing. I am not aware of any child beauty pageants in my area (northeast). Maybe they exist, but if so, they are not a big deal like they are in other parts of the country. I don't think this would even come up if I had a girl. But if it did, I would probably lean against it and encourage another activity that would have more educational value.

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• VexyMommy member

  June 2015 edited June 2015 Answer ✓

  I think beauty pageants are definitely more of a southern thing.  They were a big part of the culture at my (small private Christian) school growing up.  We even had school sponsored pageants.  I participated in them in high school, but did it mostly because it was a fun way to raise money for the prom.  I chose to do it and since I looked at it as fun and games, it wasn't a big deal for me.  For others, pageants were make or break from the time they were small.  It was especially hard on girls who were adorable chubby cheeked little kids, but did not lose the baby fat or had awkward teen years.  The switch from being praised and valued almost solely on their looks to having to branch out and have other ways to achieve praise was hard for them.  I don't think putting children who are not old enough or mature enough to understand that looks are the least important thing about them into pageants is good for their self esteem or development of their identity. 
  
  That said, I have allowed my 9yr old to do 2 local modelling jobs.  They were both for friends who make children's clothing.  She's a ham and loves playing to a crowd.  It was brought up by my friend in front of her (which I've since asked my friend not to do) and she begged to do it.  She does not participate if her grades or attitude are not up to par.  I let her decide how to spend the money she made and she donated it to her school's Jump Rope for Heart and Kiss a Pig fundraisers.  She also does activities like soccer, Girls on the Run, and drives our boat.  She receives praise at home for improvement in her speech (she has a language processing disorder) treating others kindly, taking care of our cats, and her athletic accomplishments.  She loves fashion and I don't want to squash that inclination any more than I would want to squash an academic or athletic inclination.  I feel like it's all about balance. 
  

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• maura+c member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  I begged my mother to do these when I was a little girl and I was told absolutely not! I was so upset and couldn't understand why she felt so strongly about not letting me be in pageants. Today, I completely get it! It is so wrong on so many levels!!

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• japostolova member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  I'd say no- focuses on the superficial. I'd rather have hobbies that enrich her in other ways. I've also heard it's very time consuming and can cost a great deal for hair and make up & outfits. I'd rather spend the money on her college education.

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• TallyKyle member

  June 2015 Answer ✓

  Yes to natural pageants, no to glitz. They are expensive and a lot of the moms are petty and rude. Find a more constructive outlet like dance or singing lessons!

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