Pain and discomfort after intense sex

djharris01 · June 2015

TMI - My husband and I had pretty intense sex on Sunday night. Ever since then my vagina is sore and hurts to tighten. I thought it was just because of the rough sex, but it is going on three days and hurts to even tighten. I also get random shoots of pain through my vagina since then. I'm not really worried but it's making me wonder if anyone else has experienced something like this and if it meant anything...

bhargrave88 · June 2015

I get swollen, dry, and itchy.. Like I have an infection every single time we have sex since I hit the third trimester. It lasts 2-3 days sometimes 4. It will hurt to pee too

Apparently I need more lube.. Not having an issue internally, but externally it's getting micro abrasive cuts, due to dry tissue externally. I've found putting lube on after sex has helped too.. With all the issues you mentioned above. I literally just figured this out a day ago lol.

However I'd still suggest speaking with your doctor for reassurance

breezymeema7 · June 2015

^^what she said^^

KristinaD217 · June 2015

Yep what pp said. Intense sex has been out the window for me and h because of how uncomfortable I get afterwards. So maybe just a spooning type of session?

sjra1028 · June 2015

@bhargrave88 same issue here!!! And @djharris01 my ob recommended water based lube bc sometimes I hurt afterwards too. I also learned that there's something in sperm that can cause cramping and pain in your pelvis. Fun stuff. Lol

CaliforniaDream87 · June 2015

Daaaaaaamn I just came to say how jealous I am of the "rough sex" so far into the 3rd tri

I also think you may have needed more lube as well.

bhargrave88 · June 2015

@CaliforniaDream87 ... Lol I had intense sex at 40wk 6 days.,went into labor a few hours later

go hard or go home! Lol

although DH has been more gentle this time around, I still have my wild moments where I need the intense end. #pregnantnotbroken

But I've had some issues in that area ever since the whole cervical cancer and LEEP. But I seem to dry up in a second since I hit the 3rd trimester (tmi but hubby used to compare me to a waterfall in that area before lol) Lube is essential!!

Ladies a great lube is Luvena. It has prebiotics in it and water based.. It does smell slightly of cranberries. But no glycogen (or whatever ingredient they tell you to avoid). They also have a suppository you can use, it lasts for several days. I need to go get some, speaking of which. Lol. I used it when I experienced "atrophy" while breastfeeding. Loved it!

CaliforniaDream87 · June 2015

bhargrave88 said:
@CaliforniaDream87 ... Lol I had intense sex at 40wk 6 days.,went into labor a few hours later go hard or go home! Lol although DH has been more gentle this time around, I still have my wild moments where I need the intense end. #pregnantnotbroken

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Good for you @bhargrave88! Oh, I'm broken. I couldn't attempt rough sex if I tried.

emmiemae08 · June 2015

I miss sex

chavemann10 · June 2015

CaliforniaDream87 said:

Daaaaaaamn I just came to say how jealous I am of the "rough sex" so far into the 3rd tri I also think you may have needed more lube as well.

^^^^This!! I think I've forgotten what good rough sex is...I'm so jealous!

EmEeGee · June 2015

Blah. Yeah. Jealous here too. Bleeding from first trimester on has had me on pelvic rest since week 6. At least the crazy first trimester sex dreams are over... I came real close to crying after a few of those. My husband thought it was funny how upset I'd get... Till it set in that this affects him, too.

bhargrave88 · June 2015

I'm glad I'm not the only one who had crazy sex dreams too. Still do from time to time. $:\$ ">

lifesabeach85 · June 2015

chavemann10 said:

CaliforniaDream87 said:

Daaaaaaamn I just came to say how jealous I am of the "rough sex" so far into the 3rd tri

I also think you may have needed more lube as well.

^^^^This!! I think I've forgotten what good rough sex is...I'm so jealous!

Me too!!! Too big and too tired to get after it hardcore anymore. I've been seeing any sex as a victory but miss the intense stuff...

djharris01 · June 2015

Well ladies your Babies are almost here and then you can get back to your old sex life!

I can't imagine intense sex up until 40 weeks LoL but we will see if it happens!

I've been researching and I think what I am experiencing is lightning crotch!

jessandandy09 · June 2015

My vag hurts off and on and I have no sex life right now :-(

The random shoots of pain you described sounds like lightening crotch to me and I have been getting it too since about 26 weeks.

Hopefully everything will get a little more comfy, but I doubt it.

Miz_Liz · June 2015

I am tired right now just THINKING about rough sex! Is it wrong though that I would still rather sit outside with a nice alcoholic drink?

kettlekitten · June 2015

djharris01 said:
Well ladies your Babies are almost here and then you can get back to your old sex life! I can't imagine intense sex up until 40 weeks LoL but we will see if it happens!

I presume you are a FTM if you are thinking it's possible to get back to your old sex life once the baby arrives

I feel bruised and sore down there, but without the rough sex.... Well let's face it, without any sex at all

bhargrave88 · June 2015

kettlekitten said:

djharris01 said:
Well ladies your Babies are almost here and then you can get back to your old sex life! I can't imagine intense sex up until 40 weeks LoL but we will see if it happens!
I presume you are a FTM if you are thinking it's possible to get back to your old sex life once the baby arrives

I feel bruised and sore down there, but without the rough sex.... Well let's face it, without any sex at all

My sex life was the same after my DD was born.. I have no idea why people always assume that you'll never do it like you used to. It has taken a slight back burner at times, not because we aren't in the mood, but because my husband works 60 hours so I can stay home and be a full time night student as well. Plus we live in Florida so anytime from late March-October the heat gets to be too much and he's exhausted.

For the Lightning crotch, ladies get a prenatal cradle (support belt. Google it!)

kettlekitten · June 2015

bhargrave88 said:

kettlekitten said:

djharris01 said:
Well ladies your Babies are almost here and then you can get back to your old sex life! I can't imagine intense sex up until 40 weeks LoL but we will see if it happens!
I presume you are a FTM if you are thinking it's possible to get back to your old sex life once the baby arrives

I feel bruised and sore down there, but without the rough sex.... Well let's face it, without any sex at all

My sex life was the same after my DD was born.. I have no idea why people always assume that you'll never do it like you used to. It has taken a slight back burner at times, not because we aren't in the mood, but because my husband works 60 hours so I can stay home and be a full time night student as well. Plus we live in Florida so anytime from late March-October the heat gets to be too much and he's exhausted.

For the Lightning crotch, ladies get a prenatal cradle (support belt. Google it!)

That's not what I meant. It sounded like the PP thought she would be back on the horse immediately. For us, we simply didn't have any awake time together without the baby until she was at least 2 months old. In fact my sex life improved after that.... Til I got pregnant

jessandandy09 · June 2015

bhargrave88 said:

Well ladies your Babies are almost here and then you can get back to your old sex life! I can't imagine intense sex up until 40 weeks LoL but we will see if it happens!
I presume you are a FTM if you are thinking it's possible to get back to your old sex life once the baby arrives I feel bruised and sore down there, but without the rough sex.... Well let's face it, without any sex at all
My sex life was the same after my DD was born.. I have no idea why people always assume that you'll never do it like you used to. It has taken a slight back burner at times, not because we aren't in the mood, but because my husband works 60 hours so I can stay home and be a full time night student as well. Plus we live in Florida so anytime from late March-October the heat gets to be too much and he's exhausted. For the Lightning crotch, ladies get a prenatal cradle (support belt. Google it!)

good for you with the same sex life. Never was for me and commonly isn't for many. After my second child, I felt so tired and and vaginally sore and worn out all of the time, i didn't want to have sex for like 2 years. And then I really didn't want to have sex with my DH because he was an A-hole- fixed that and got rid of him. My 3rd child (new DH) still diminished our time and ability to have sex for a long time. We were both more tired and every time we tried to get intimate the baby would interrupt. Things didn't really get swinging again until around 1 to 2 years after I had my 3rd baby. Now, hehehe, I am pregnant again. Lets see if a great sex life ever returns.

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