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Is anyone here estranged from one or both parents?
I have not seen nor spoken with my mother in 5 years. I have removed myself from her life comepletely. She has not met my son, but still has a relationship with Ashley.
She didn't even come to my wedding. I did invite her, and the wench never even RSVP'd.
As painful as it was at first, I do believe for my mental sanity, it was the right decision.
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Re: Is anyone here estranged from one or both parents?
I am estranged from my grandmother, with whom I lived for my first 5 years. I saw her briefly about 2 years ago, but she also didn't come to my wedding, has never met DD, etc. I send pics of DD, some of which are acknowledged.
It's a hard situation and I have a lot of guilt over it, but in the end it's for the best. Some people are toxic.
No, I'm not estranged from my mom but only because of my siblings. My mom was a sh!tty parent when I was a kid and is a sh!tty parent now to my younger siblings. The main reason she's still in my life now because it's impossible to cut her out and still maintain a relationship with my siblings (some of whom still live at home), grandparents and other family.?
We don't have a mother/daughter relationship though.
As for my father, they divorced when I was little and mom remarried. My stepdad adopted us children from marriage #1, but step-dad died when I was in highschool. As a teenager/adult my bio-dad came back into the picture a bit- I talk to him occasionally and see him a couple times a year, but again we don't have a parent/child relationship at all. ?
I am estranged from my biological father. My parents got divorced when I was about 2. My mom tried really hard to allow my brother and I to have a "normal" relationship with my father, but he was terrible about following through with things. He'd make promises and they'd never happen. Many times he'd promise to pick me up and take me to an awesome place and I sit on my front steps and wait for him for an ENTIRE DAY.
When I was in HS I started to see him/call him less and less. It was evident to me that he was getting back into alcohol and drugs (which is why my mom left him in the first place). He has been on the national dead beat dad list a number of times and maybe paid child support for 2 or 3 years at most. He always claimed to have no money and my mom never pushed it because she didn't want it to "harm us".
When I started college my father agreed that he would pay for whatever tuition that my financial aid package did not cover. The first year was fine and he came through. My second year, I was threatened to be evicted from my dorm on 2 separate occasions because he was not paying the bills. I had to get a job to help pay for it and then hunt him down for money. It was horrible. The last day I saw him was at my college graduation. I didn't invite him but he knew about it and came anyway.
My life has been 100 times easier since he's been out of it. He has no idea that I'm married or that I have a child. He has no idea where I life or what is going on in my life and I'm happy with things that way.
Luckily for me I have an AWESOME step dad who treats me like his own daughter and absolutely ADORES DD. I basically consider my bio father a sperm doner.